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"Love the Way You Lie" (single featuring Rihanna) (by Eminem, Rap)

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Domestic abuse single is too violent for most teens.


parents & educators say
  • 56% say violence is an issue
  • 56% say language is an issue

What parents need to know

Parents need to know that even though Eminem does an admirable job of portraying the depths of a dysfunctional relationship, many teens may not understand the message. Eminem is in character once again on this single, and this time around he's playing the role of abusive boyfriend. In reality, he's trying to shed light on the trap of domestic violence, but kids might not pick up on this, especially with the rapper portraying himself as the abuser. But the violence is acted out in a way to shine a light on the lies that we tell ourselves in a relationship, and Em's ultimate message is that this leads nowhere good. But that's heavy stuff for kids and teens to swallow, and the shocking ending to the song makes it a no-no for all but the most mature teens.

Positive messages: In reality, Eminem is trying to shed light on the trap of domestic violence, but kids might not pick up on this, especially with the rapper portraying himself as the abuser.
Positive role models: Like a "what not-to do" for relationships, Eminem lays out all the emotions that can turn a relationship between two people toxic.
Violence: Domestic abuse is shown in the first-person with violent lines like, "I laid hands on her, I'll never stoop so low again, I guess I don't know my own strength" and "I know I'm a liar, if she ever tries to f---ing leave again, I'mma tie her to the bed, and set the house on fire."
Sex: Not applicable.
Language: The f-word is used three times.
Consumerism: Not applicable.
Drinking, drugs, & smoking: Only one instance of a drug reference: "High off on love, drunk from my hate, it's like I'm huffin' paint and I love it."

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What to talk about

Talk to your kids
  • Families can talk about abusive relationships and avoiding the pitfalls of getting to involved in a relationship too soon.
  • Do kids get sarcasm? When a performer is in character describing undesirable behavior for effect, do you think most kids "get it?" At what age is this method understandable?
  • Talk about music that portrays women in a negative light. What songs have you heard that objectify or disrespect a woman? How do you think impressionable listeners interpret lyrics like this?

What's the story?

What's the story?
Welcome to the grand tour of dysfunctional love. "LOVE THE WAY YOU LIE" shows how a disintegrating relationship moves from pain to euphoria, denial to destruction; it's a trip through the downward spiral. But Eminem has another message besides examining how bad love can feel. This is also a song about abuse and the lies an abuser will give to keep his victim coming back for more. Rihanna, herself a victim of domestic abuse, offers up vocal accompaniment to Eminem's rhymes on this mid-tempo dose of reality.

Is it any good?

Is it any good?
 
Rihanna seems to have a flawless record when it comes to guest spots. Once again her angelic vocals are the perfect foil for a hard-driving rap. But what differs this time around is the smoky, mature sound she delivers. Top that with Eminem's gritty lyrics, and it's a perfect match. Eminem pulls no punches (no pun intended) on a song that should act as a wake-up call to anyone stuck in a dysfunctional relationship. He hits every symptom of diseased love dead-on in an unflinching narrative. It's a great song, but one that is best for mature ears given the heavy subject matter.

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Released on: June 21, 2010
Label: Aftermath
Genre: Rap
Parental advisory: Yes
Edited version available: Yes

This review was written by Jacqueline Rupp
 
 

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What parents & educators say

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Based on 25 parent & educator reviews:
  • 56% say violence is an issue
  • 56% say language is an issue

Most useful reviews by all members

smileyface61
kid, 12 years old
 
it depends
the music video shouldn't be shown to kids, but its a good song. you can't just say some things never happen

sunrisemusik
teen, 17 years old
 
An original, addictive, “fresh breath of air” song - about domestic violence.
I think that this review should have pointed out the fact that this song is talking about his tumultuous relationship with his ex, Kim. This is the first time he has opened up about the situation he was in. And whether or not it is telling us exactly what happened (probably not), the song is unarguably entirely about domestic violence. It is a first-person account from the abuser in the relationship, telling of a love-hate relationship - snapping at the sight of another guy, yelling and being blinded by rage, regret and remorse for his actions, begging her not to leave but with no intentions of changing his mindset: “I know I’m a liar, if she ever tries to f***ing leave again / I’mma tie her to the bed and set this house on fire”. Please take note that the song is pointing out the fact that DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IS BAD, and whether or not you take the song in a positive or negative light is depends on how you feel about how the way the message is delivered. I personally believe that it is an emotional and regretful account, so I view it positively. But is delivered with dark recollections of violence. - Aside from the controversial message, Em drops the f-bomb three times, once in each verse (which is extremely tame for him) and makes a metaphor using “high”, “drunk” and “huffing paint”. |||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||| When Eminem's "Recovery" leaked to the masses, "Love the Way You Lie" became an instant sleeper hit purely from word-of-mouth. The promotion the song received is the reason why it has shot up to #1 on iTunes. And it certainly deserves its spot. “Love the Way You Lie” has a beat I haven’t ever heard from the top 40 - an acoustic guitar, a bass, backbeat handclaps and a thumping bass drum is all that backs Em up as he spits remorseful confliction in each verse. Then Rihanna (ironically) delivers a solemn/brilliant hook over a swell of electric guitars, synthesizers, and that piano that seems to be all over mainstream right now. This simple beat, Rihanna’s hook and Eminem’s aggressive and emotional rapping comes together to somehow create the most addictive/original song I’ve heard for a long time.

MackenzeeRay4B ...
teen, 18 years old
 
Great for teens, but never for little kids 12 and under
I love this song! it's my jam, eminem's a cutie (but he's like 40 rite? lol) but it's not for kids. Bad messages, beating women. lots of violence. not for kids. good for teens though!

 
powerful domestic song is also intence
this is one of ems best songs all though it is pretty rough

MomOfKappaAlph ...
parent of 13 year old
 
Love the way you lie about Love the Way you Lie.
This song is not about domestic abuse as some users say. This song is about how drugs ruin your life. If you listen deeper the battle is between the rapper and drugs. He is battling with himself to stay clean the entire time. Why his album is called "Recovery". Educate yourselves, and look deeper than what is black and white, in a segregated community, in front of you.

mdinger2
kid, 12 years old
 
Play Clean Around Younger Kids, And Do Not Show Them The Music Video!
Here are my reasons for rating it this: -For littler kids there are some cuss words (play it clean if around younger kids). -In the music video the girl and the guy fight a lot. -It the music video it shows the guy buy a pack of beer and it also shows one of the guys/girls sitting outside a store drinking a beer. I like Eminem, so I listened to this song.

Mrs.Madigan
teen, 14 years old
 
Not Too Good for 13 and under :/
Eminem Isnt a very happy person. Most of his songs include alot of swearing. they're kind of depressing. But those of us kids who are are going through hard times like to listen to him. it makes us feel a little better.

 
censored verson ok for 12 and up
Domestic abuse is present in the song but also in the news and people talk about it and emimem just is singing about a hot issue

CoasterCrazy
kid, 13 years old
 
Disney just took a bus back home!
HELLO PEOPLE! He's not a disney star! It's real music!

lakers fan
kid, 11 years old
 
Good but to violent.
The langauge isnt a problem compared to the violence. Its so violent. It also has a bit of langauge.

Scorpion245
teen, 18 years old
 
A Really good song and not as offensive then his other songs.
One of eminems best songs from the cd Recovery

robinrunner
teen, 14 years old
 
Not that good to begin with,
the song could probabley give you major headaches with all the screaming. Eminem hits somebody in the song. I'm pretty sure the f word is said a few times.

Undead Banana
kid, 11 years old
 
Awesome song bad message

libstudent3
teen, 15 years old
 
this is a good song but it has some bad stuff

bieberlover6
teen, 17 years old
 

SystemOfANintendo
parent of and 2 , 11 , 14 , 18 year old
 
A great song, but not for kids who can't grasp the message.
This isn't as bad as the review says. The overall message is a good one; that domestic violence is not OK. But Eminem's portraying himself as the abuser, so I have bad role models checked. And there are quite a few violent images too. And the F bomb a few times. Contrary to the review, I think this is fine for most teens. But for kids aged under 13, they should be pretty mature.

MeTheCrazyOne99
kid, 13 years old
 
5 Starz!
I love this song! But I listen to the version by Ariana Grande, she only sings Rihanna's parts, and it's perfectly clean. Good song though, but Ariana makes it better, I only listen to her version. This original version has "f*ck" 3 times. Yikes. Not surprising, for Eminem, though. Listen to Ariana's version, you'll love it.

2drocks
kid, 12 years old
 
it is against domestic violence, but the last verse throws it off

Chrispy6398
teen, 14 years old
 
I actually think this song is... positive. I have to disagree with CSM's review, teens aren't stupid; they know that Eminem means to condemn domestic violence, not glamorize it. Once you get past the language, it's really not an inappropriate song.

soccagirl1998
kid, 13 years old
 
If Rihanna liked the way it hurt, she'd still be with Chris Brown.
I HATE EMINEM. SO MUCH. He's my least favorite rapper, which is saying a lot since I don't like rap music at all, my least favorite musician, and my least favorite songwriter. That may sound harsh, but his lyrics are terrible! And I know this song was meant to show what can happen to relationships and abuse. So I get why Rihanna would be in it. But, the song just makes no sense! It was very popular in August 2010, which was my birthday, and I couldn't stand it. It was constantly playing, and it didn't put me in a good mood. I'm not a Slim Shady fan, and I am 99.9% sure I never will be...

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