Guía esencial de Discord para padres

To access these settings, have your teen tap their profile picture (bottom right corner), then select "Privacy & Safety." These options help control who can contact them and how explicit content is filtered.

• Safe direct messaging: Filters explicit content in private messages. Options include:
  • Keep Me Safe – Scans all direct messages (DMs).
  • My Friends Are Nice – Scans only messages from non-friends.
  • Do Not Scan – Disables filtering entirely.

Teens can change these settings at any time. There's no way to lock or require a PIN for this section.

• Friend request settings: Lets teens limit who can send them friend requests: Everyone, Friends of Friends, or Server Members. Choosing Friends of Friends can reduce unwanted contact. Note that teens can switch this back to Everyone. If they're in a public server, they may still receive requests from strangers inside that space.
• Server privacy defaults: Lets you disable direct messages from people in newly joined servers. This setting applies only to future servers. Your teen can choose to allow DMs on a server-by-server basis.
• Sensitive content filters: Automatically blurs images and videos that may be graphic or explicit. This setting is easy to turn off, and filters can miss inappropriate text or toxic behavior in chats.

For step-by-step guidance to set up these controls, visit the Discord Safety Center.

Aimed at teen accounts, these features are turned on by default for under-18 accounts:

• Safety alerts appear when you receive a message from a new contact.
• An "Ignore" feature lets teens stop seeing messages from someone without alerting that person. Unlike blocking—which cuts off communication completely and notifies the other user if they try to message—the ignore option simply hides the conversation on the teen's end, creating a low-pressure way of taking space.
• Content is automatically filtered for potentially inappropriate images or video.
• Message request controls allow you to limit DMs from strangers.
   

These settings can be turned off at any time. Teens can also avoid them altogether by signing up with a fake birth date, since Discord doesn't verify age.

Family Center is Discord's only tool for parents. It provides limited insights but does not allow you to change settings or block features.

What you can see:

• Who your teen is messaging (but not the content in the messages)
• Which servers they've joined
• New friends added
• Voice call activity (but not the calls themselves)
   

How to set it up:

1. Download the Discord app on your phone
2. Open the Discord app and go to User Settings > Family Center > Enable Family Center
3. Have your teen generate a QR code on their device
4. Use your phone to scan the QR code, which will link your account with theirs
    

It's important to know that in order to use Family Center, your teen has to opt in, and they can leave Family Center at any time without notice. The activity history that parents and caregivers can see is limited to the past seven days. And there's no access to the content they're sending or seeing, no alert system, and no setting controls included.

Discord has built-in tools to report harmful content, users, or servers. To report, click the three dots (⋯) next to a message, select "Report," and follow the prompts. Discord enforces rules against bullying, harassment, and threats, but response times can vary.

Encourage your teen to also tell a trusted adult if something serious happens. Reporting to both Discord and an adult helps make sure they get support no matter what. 

Settings are just the beginning—they work best when paired with open, ongoing conversations. To help them work for your family:

• Explore settings together: Walk through each one with your teen. Ask questions and explain your thinking as you go.
• Create a family media agreement: Outline expectations for how, when, and why your teen uses Discord. Revisit it as they become more mature and show responsibility.
• Check in regularly: Use feature updates or new interests as natural times to review settings—not just when there's a problem.
• Focus on support, not surveillance: Frame settings as tools that support your teen's safety and well-being, not as punishments.
• Model healthy digital habits: Show the same boundaries and thoughtful tech use you want your teen to practice. And don't be afraid to make mistakes and show them how to bounce back. It's about practice, not perfection.

Because Discord is built around shared-interest communities, teens and adults can end up in the same spaces, especially in large public servers. This opens the door to potentially risky interactions. While these worst-case scenarios are not common, law enforcement has documented cases of adults using Discord to groom minors, often starting with casual chats in public servers and moving to private messages over time.

That's why it's important to understand the risks—but also to approach safety through support, not fear. Teens are more likely to come to you if they know you're there to help, not punish. The goal is to build your teen's awareness and confidence in recognizing red flags, while staying involved and informed about how they use the platform.

What to Watch For: 

• Friend requests or direct messages from strangers.
• Conversations that turn personal too quickly—especially about appearance, emotions, or relationships.
• Requests to keep chats secret from parents or trusted adults.
• Pressure to move to another platform (like Snapchat or Instagram) or join a private call.
• Offers of gifts, gaming currency, or other rewards.
• Personal questions about your teen's routine, school, or when they're home alone.
• Changes in behavior—like becoming more secretive about online activity.

What You Can Do: 

• Adjust friend request settings to "Friends of Friends" instead of "Everyone."
• Limit direct messages to come only from friends.
• Turn on "Keep Me Safe" in Privacy & Safety to filter explicit content.
• Use Family Center to see who your teen is chatting with (note: you won't see message content).
• Talk about red flags: Help your teen understand what grooming can look like, and encourage them to come to you if something feels off (and to always trust their gut feeling).
• Create a family agreement about what personal info is OK to share (and what's not).
• Remind them that real friends respect boundaries and won't ask for secrecy.
• Encourage ignoring or blocking strangers—and let them know it's OK to say no, even if someone seems nice.
• Teach them how to report suspicious users directly to Discord's Trust & Safety team.

Discord hosts thousands of communities for virtually any interest imaginable. While many servers provide positive spaces for connection, teens may come across harmful or inappropriate content ranging from mild to serious, including sexual images, violent or graphic content, discussions of drugs and alcohol, hate speech, or manipulative ideologies.

Even in spaces that start out friendly, the tone can shift quickly. Some communities may share manipulative or extreme messaging, like content that promotes hate, reinforces gender stereotypes, or frames relationships and power in unhealthy ways. These ideas can show up gradually through jokes, memes, or conversations, which is why helping your teen build awareness, trust, and digital judgment is often more effective than trying to shield them from everything. 

What to Watch For: 

• Servers labeled "NSFW" or "age-restricted" in their descriptions.
• Channels with age warnings (these should be blocked automatically for users under 18).
• Gaming communities centered around M-rated or violent games.
• Sudden screen switching or app closing when you walk by.
• Not wanting to talk about which servers they're in.
• Late-night use when they think you're not paying attention.

What You Can Do: 

• Turn on the "Keep Me Safe" content filter in Privacy & Safety settings.
• Make sure your teen's birth date is accurate in their account so age-based filters work.
• Enable Teen Safety Assist, which automatically blurs potentially graphic media.
• Create a judgment-free space where your teen feels safe talking about what they see, and be open to answering questions and not shaming.
• For younger teens, set an expectation that if they want to join a new server, they need to have a quick check-in with a trusted adult.
• Help them discover well-moderated servers focused on their real interests, like art, coding, books, or creative projects.
• Focus on critical thinking skills so they can make smart choices in the moment, even when filters don't catch everything.
• Check in and follow up past the moment they come in contact with disturbing content.

Finding the right balance between keeping your teen safe and respecting their independence can be tricky. This is especially true on platforms like Discord, where much of the interaction happens in private messages or voice chats that can't be easily seen or reviewed.

While it's natural to want insight into what your teen is doing online, surveillance can backfire—especially if it leads to secrecy or shuts down communication. Instead of focusing on control, aim to create an environment where your teen feels safe coming to you with questions, concerns, or mistakes.

What to Watch For: 

• Increased secretiveness about online activities.
• Password-protecting devices that weren't secured before.
• Minimizing screens when you enter the room.
• Using Discord at unusual hours.
• Emotional changes after using Discord.

What You Can Do: 

• Set up Family Center to see who your teen is messaging without reading their conversations.
• Have open conversations about online safety, rather than secret monitoring.
• Create a family Discord server where you can also participate and see how the platform works.
• Ask your teen to show you their server list without reading their private messages
• Establish tech-free times and zones in your home.
• Focus monitoring efforts on when and how much they use Discord, rather than monitoring specific conversations.
• Consider using device-level parental controls for younger teens that set time limits rather than spying on content.

While Discord can be a great space for connection, creativity, and belonging, it can also expose teens to bullying, harassment, or emotionally difficult content, sometimes in subtle ways that build up over time. Conversations in public servers or private messages may include toxic behavior, peer pressure, or exposure to issues like self-harm, disordered eating, or hate speech.

Repeated exposure to negative online interactions—even ones that seem minor at first—can impact a teen's self-esteem, mood, and sense of safety. Sometimes, teens don't immediately connect their emotional struggles to what's happening online, especially if they're being told it's "just a joke" or if they fear losing access to their digital spaces.

That's why it's important to stay tuned in to emotional changes and create a space where your teen feels safe sharing what they're experiencing, without fear of punishment or judgment. Early conversations and supportive guidance can go a long way in preventing more serious harm.

What to Watch For: 

• Increased anxiety, sadness, irritability, or withdrawal-like symptoms.
• Sleep issues, appetite changes, or unexplained physical complaints.
• Avoiding school or activities they used to enjoy.
• Sudden changes in how they use Discord—like deleting the app or leaving servers without explanation.
• Emotional shifts after being online, like shutting down or getting upset after using Discord.
• Becoming secretive about online activity or quickly switching screens.
• Self-disparaging comments like "no one likes me," "I'm so stupid," or "I mess everything up"—especially when said more frequently, with intensity, or after using Discord.
• Declining performance in school or disinterest in friendships.
• Talking about self-harm or feeling hopeless (always take this seriously and seek professional support right away; see below).

What You Can Do: 

• Create regular, low-pressure check-ins where your teen can talk about what's happening online—both the good and the hard.
• Ask open-ended questions like "What's your favorite server right now?" or "Have you ever seen something in a chat that didn't feel right?"
• Teach them how to use Discord's safety tools (like blocking, reporting, or using the Ignore feature) and when to use them.
• Encourage saving screenshots of harmful messages in case something needs to be reported.
• Remind them they deserve respect in every environment—online and offline.
• Validate their emotions, even if you don't understand why something online feels upsetting.
• If bullying involves classmates, consider working with school staff or counselors—while including your teen in decisions about how to move forward.
• Report serious or persistent harm to Discord's Trust & Safety team and authorities.
• Seek professional mental health support if your teen shows signs of distress, withdrawal, or talks about self-harm. You can always reach out to:
• National Crisis Hotline: Call or text 988
• Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741
• Your child's health care provider or school counselor for guidance, referrals, or support plans
• Remind your teen that their well-being comes first—no digital space is worth their mental health.

What to Expect: 

At this age, tweens are curious and eager to connect—especially if older siblings, family members, or favorite influencers are using Discord. But they're also more impulsive, more trusting of strangers, and not yet equipped to recognize manipulation, social pressure, or risky content. Even simple exposure to group chats or messages meant for older users can be emotionally confusing or upsetting.

Safety Approach: 

Based on the platform's terms and child privacy laws, kids under 13 shouldn't be on Discord. If your child is already using it:

• Stay calm and have a curious, non-judgmental conversation.
• Explain why some platforms have age limits—and that it's about safety, not punishment.
• Ask them what they like about it and offer safer alternatives like Messenger Kids or supervised game chats.
• If you allow limited use, restrict their communication to private family or real-life friend servers, and monitor activity closely.
• Keep devices in common areas and turn off direct messages (DMs) from server members.

Conversation Starters & Activities: 

• To understand what they're hoping to get out of using Discord: "Are your friends talking about Discord? What sounds fun about it to you?"
• To connect with their interest while explaining age limits: "It makes sense that you'd want to use what your friends are using. Can we talk about why some apps have age limits—and figure out together what you can use now that feels just as fun?"
• Activity: Create a "grown-up tech challenge" together—like a checklist of digital habits they can practice to build trust and show they're getting ready for older platforms. Include things like asking before downloading new apps, taking screen breaks, or talking about tricky moments online. 

What to Expect: 

At this age, teens are starting to explore their social identities and crave more independence online. Discord's group chats, friend servers, and shared-interest communities feel exciting, but they may not yet recognize manipulation, peer pressure, or emotionally harmful environments. Because they're still developing emotional regulation and critical thinking, what happens in a chat can stick with them, even if they don't talk about it.

Safety Approach:

This is a great time to help your teen build digital habits that support emotional safety—not just avoid danger.

• Go through privacy settings together and talk about what they actually do and what digital dilemmas they can help prevent. Connect it to reality instead of making it abstract.
• Help them decide how they want to feel when they use Discord—and how to spot when it stops feeling fun or safe.
• Encourage them to choose servers that reflect who they are or who they want to become, and what their interests are. (Not just what's popular or where their friends are.) Go through some servers together to practice.
• Make space to talk about moments that feel off, like a joke that made them uncomfortable, someone asking personal questions too fast, or being left out of a conversation. Even if they're not sure why it bothered them, help them name that feeling.
• If they're feeling overwhelmed or hurt, show them how to use features like the Ignore tool to take space—without drama or escalation.
• For now, it's still a good idea to keep Discord use in common spaces if possible, especially if they're navigating new social dynamics or emotional ups and downs after using it.

Conversation Starters & Activities: 

• To explore their interests and how they're using Discord to learn or grow: "Are there any new things you've been getting into or learning about through Discord? I'd love to hear what's been fun or interesting for you lately."
• To help them reflect on emotional boundaries: "How do you usually feel after being on Discord—energized? Drained? Has anything ever made you want to leave a server or take a break?"
• Activity: Have a weekly chat about what you're both enjoying or learning online. Your teen can share a Discord server they're into, and you can share something from your digital world too—whether it's a podcast you liked or a hobby you're exploring online. This makes it a shared conversation, not a one-sided check-in, and helps normalize thoughtful digital habits for both of you.

What to Expect: 

By this age, teens are likely using Discord as a major social outlet: managing multiple servers for different friend groups, hobbies, and identity-based communities. Gaming is still a central draw for many, and teens may use Discord to coordinate multiplayer games, talk strategy, or stream gameplay with friends. Others use it to explore creative projects, follow their favorite streamers, or talk about their favorite shows. They're increasingly independent and may seek more privacy in their digital spaces, but they'll still benefit from ongoing guidance. Emotional intensity, conflict, or exposure to distressing content can continue to affect their well-being, especially if they don't feel like they have a trusted adult to talk to.

Safety Approach: 

The goal is to support critical thinking, emotional boundaries, and positive digital habits (without micromanaging).

• Have regular conversations about how different online spaces make them feel, and what they need to do when a space stops feeling good.
• Revisit privacy and safety settings together after Discord updates to make sure they're still aligned with their values and needs.
• Normalize setting digital boundaries, like muting channels, taking breaks, or using the Ignore feature to protect their peace without escalating drama.
• Use Family Center only with mutual agreement, and frame it as a transparency tool—not a surveillance tool.
• Encourage reflection around how their online presence may impact future opportunities (college, jobs, leadership roles, etc.).
• Talk about balancing digital identities with real-life values: "Does this server match who you are and what you care about?"

Conversation Starters & Activities: 

• To explore identity, creativity, and values:"What's one Discord server or group that really feels like your people? What makes it a space you want to come back to?"
• To support emotional awareness and boundaries: "Have you ever had to step back from a Discord conversation or server? What helped you know it was time to take a break?"
• Activity: Do a "Digital Freaky Friday" swap. Ask your teen to pick a Discord server they think you'd enjoy and show you around. In return, share something you love, like a podcast, Pinterest board, meme account, or hobby space. Try doing this once a month. It keeps things fun and gives you both a way to stay connected while exploring each other's digital worlds.