Parents' Guide to Can You Ever Forgive Me?

Movie R 2018 107 minutes
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Michael Ordona By Michael Ordona , based on child development research. How do we rate?

age 15+

Wry, painful fact-based comedy has language, drinking.

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age 17+

Based on 1 parent review

age 11+

Based on 2 kid reviews

What's the Story?

In CAN YOU EVER FORGIVE ME?, once-touted biographical author Lee Israel (Melissa McCarthy) is extremely down on her luck. She hasn't been published in years, she just got fired, she's way behind on her rent, and now her cat is sick. Pretty much the only thing going well for her is her drinking. Soon after meeting charming kindred barfly Jack (Richard E. Grant), Lee stumbles upon an illegal way to pay her bills: She uses her talent to mimic the voices of literary greats and forge personal letters from them to sell. But how long can she keep the game afoot? The movie is based on Israel's same-named memoir.

Is It Any Good?

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Kids say ( 2 ):

It's a festival of self-loathing, but this comedy does a remarkable job of balancing its bleaker elements with the lightness of Israel's quick mind. Nicole Holofcener of Enough Said and Jeff Whitty of Broadway's Avenue Q have crafted one of 2018's more nimble scripts. Director Marielle Heller (Diary of a Teenage Girl) and McCarthy let us into Lee's oppressive cloud of stress and worry while keeping the film afloat with her wit and drive to survive. And Can You Ever Forgive Me? is a feast for lovers of certain literary figures, as Lee captures their voices so skillfully. Her felonious scheme is portrayed in its full complexity: We admire the writing talent that makes it possible while cringing at its impact on innocent people.

The latter lands most effectively because of the wonderful supporting work of Dolly Wells as a smart, shy bookseller Lee becomes infatuated with but victimizes anyway. Wells recalls Shailene Woodley's exquisite fragility in The Spectacular Now with her authentic vulnerability. It's painful for viewers to watch her admiration for Lee grow, since they know what Lee is up to. It's a lovely, memorable performance. And then there's Grant as suave, hustling, aging ne'er-do-well Jack; it's a role that feels written specifically for the British charmer. He fully inhabits such dialogue as (when inviting himself to sit next to the sour Lee) "I'm coming over. I'm not good at reading social cues." In Jack, Grant (who, ironically, isn't a drinker in real life) may have finally found the showcase role needed to earn awards recognition. Pouring these two loquacious losers into a kind of depressive caper comedy tastes like a few parts Barfly and a few parts Ironweed, shaken, on the rocks.

Talk to Your Kids About ...

  • Families can talk about Lee's actions in Can You Ever Forgive Me? She was trying to survive, but does that make what she did OK? Or understandable? Did you have mixed feelings about what she did? Why or why not?

  • The two main characters are unrepentant, almost romanticized alcoholics. What do you think of the way the movie depicted drinking?

  • Lee is very different from the types of characters Melissa McCarthy is best known for. Why do you think the idea of playing Lee might have appealed to her? Do you like seeing comedic actors try different styles/genres?

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