Reign Over Me (R, 2007)

common sense media says

Grief-stricken Adam Sandler deals with 9/11.


parents & educators say
  • 33% say language is an issue

What parents need to know

Parents need to know that this isn't an Adam Sandler comedy. Rather, it's a drama about a man's ongoing response to losing his family on 9/11. For much of the film, Sandler's character is ragged-looking, distraught, aggressive, and foul-mouthed -- though he can also be charming in a childish way. His visits to a therapist are mostly sad, as is his eventual lengthy description of his loss. There's lots of swearing and derogatory slang, as well as discussion of suicide (one nearly successful attempt is shown), insanity, institutionalization, and oral sex. Some yelling, pushing, and hitting takes place during a fight, and minor drinking in bar leads to an argument.

Positive messages: Various traumas produce various effects: a widower behaves "badly," using inappropriate language and aggression with his friend; his in-laws try to have him committed; a woman becomes obsessed with sex; and a suffocated husband becomes angry. All reconcile, neatly, by film's end.
Violence: References to 9/11 (none visual) make Charlie and other characters upset; a character's father dies, causing grief; video game shooting, exploding, crashing; Charlie pushes and hits Alan; Charlie pulls a gun on a cabbie, hoping that nearby cops will shoot him ("suicide by cop") -- instead, they tackle him.
Sex: Woman offers her dentist oral sex in his office, then stalks him, returning to see him and threatening him with a harassment lawsuit (discussion of this problem includes body part names and slangy words and phrases like "penis," "she wants to do down on me," "she wants to blow you"); when Charlie visits a therapist, he talks about her "tits."
Language: Frequent uses of "f--k" and "s--t", plus "ass," "asshole," "damn," "sucks," "bitch," "p---y," "chrissake," and "hell." A lengthy barrage of insults includes repeated uses of "faggot." Other phrases include "suck my ass, retard!" and "he's a giant dork!" A movie-within-the-movie screening of Blazing Saddles includes a bleeped-out series of jokes using the "N" word (the audience laughs at the jokes).
Consumerism: Starbucks, Shadow of the Colossus video game, Colonel Sanders (stand up display in an apartment), Captain America, many mentions of bands (Pretenders, The Who, Bruce Springsteen) and a Mel Brooks marathon.
Drinking, drugs, & smoking: Beer drinking in bar, wine drinking in restaurant.

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What to talk about

Talk to your kids
Families can talk about the lingering effects of 9/11 on our culture. How have the media treated the event? How do tragic stories and images help us work through emotional wounds? How does Donna's trauma affect her differently than Charlie's affects him? Why do you think Charlie is so fond of popular culture that reminds him of his youth (comics, '80s bands, video games, etc.)? How does the media help define an era?

What's the story?

What's the story?

When Alan (Don Cheadle) discovers Charlie Fineman (Adam Sandler) shuffling on a New York sidewalk, it's obvious that his onetime college roommate needs help. But even though Charlie is suffering dislocation and depression after losing his wife and daughters in a plane on 9/11, he's not the only character in REIGN OVER ME who could use a sense of purpose and connection.

Is it any good?

Is it any good?
 

A meditation on loss, Mike Binder's film lines up a whole series of victims. As hard as Reign Over Me works to complicate Charlie's grief and rage (he's alternately twitchy and aggressive, frightening and pathetic), it offers a troubling, reductive contrast in one of Alan's patients, Donna (Saffron Burrows). Her "female" response to her own traumatic loss isn't edifying or sympathetic. Instead, Donna is driven into hypersexual stalker-spasms (she repeatedly offers Alan oral sex in his office). Her aggressiveness scares Alan and intrigues Charlie, who is mostly lost in an adolescent fixation on her breasts -- at least until she becomes his means to redemption.

Movie themes & details

Movie Details
Studio: Sony Pictures
Director: Mike Binder
Cast: Adam Sandler, Don Cheadle, Jada Pinkett Smith
Genre: Drama
Run time: 128 minutes
Theatrical release: March 22, 2007
DVD release: October 9, 2007
MPAA Rating: R
MPAA explanation: language and some sexual references.
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This review was written by Cynthia Fuchs
 
 

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Based on 6 parent & educator reviews:
  • 33% say language is an issue

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punk
adult
 
very good
i think it is a good movie to see if u want to see what the impact on a person that lost everything from 9-11 i wish it wasn't rated R so i can see it by myself!!! but adam sandler is the best actor ever.

poopshi
parent of 17 year old
 
Great movie, even though there is the swearing you don't tend to notice it as much when your paying attention to the grieving messed up guy. Excellent show, I have recommended it to others. Not a comedy... Adam Sandler does the swearing in the movie, but that should be a given.

jenchristo17
parent of and 4 , 8 , 11 year old
 
great for discussion when watched with an adult
good example of Christlike love

 
Excellant film good for the average teenager
This is truly a great film. It is a study of greif, loss, coping, and male friendship. Sandler gives the performance of his carreer as a man suffering trauma, and Don Cheadle backs him up, giving a powerhouse performance. This is a film that, while it certainly won't appeal to most teenagers, is certainly one to be enjoyed by them. The language is fairly coarse, but it is probably about 1/3 as bad as the average stuff they hear in the school cafeteria.

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