Rules

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Common Sense Media says

Newbery honoree about life with an autistic sib.
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What parents need to know

Parents need to know that there's nothing of concern here -- and much to be celebrated, particularly the main character's introspectiveness.

  • The main character wrestles with how to deal lovingly with her autistic brother and how to be a friend to a mute paraplegic boy.
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What's the story?

Catherine's brother, David, is autistic, and their family life revolves around his needs. Catherine loves her brother and cares enough about him to attempt to help him by compiling lists of rules for living like an ordinary person: "If someone says 'hi,' you say 'hi' back." "If the bathroom door is closed, knock (especially if Catherine has a friend over)!"

But Catherine is also frustrated and embarrassed by David and by the way her needs seem secondary, if not nonexistent, to her family. When a girl her age moves in next door, Catherine hopes to be friends but worries that David will ruin the relationship. And her growing friendship with a mute paraplegic boy makes things even more complicated.


Is it any good?

 

Written by the mother of an autistic child, RULES has the ring of authenticity -- this is a clear-eyed, unsentimental look at a real family problem. Two things raise it above the usual run of "problem" novels. One is Catherine's relationship with Jason, a paraplegic boy who taps on picture cards to communicate. Catherine begins creating illustrated word cards for his book; choosing words and pictures becomes a way for her to look at her own life, to assess and then respond and express her thoughts and feelings.

The other is the poignant way David sometimes communicates -- through memorized sections of Arnold Lobel's Frog and Toad books. Their mother disapproves, wanting David to use his own words instead of quoting someone else's. But David chooses pieces that are metaphorically and expressively appropriate, and when he and Catherine engage in one of their delicate Frog-and-Toad dialogues, it's lovely enough to bring a lump to your throat.


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What families can talk about

Families can talk about autism. What is it? What would it be like to live with an autistic person? What might it be like to be autistic? Children may want to know more about it -- see the Related Books and Media section below for some helpful links. Also, kids might be interested in compiling their own lists of rules for daily living.


This review was written by Matt Berman
Parent of 7 and 13 year old
April 9, 2008
 
Great read for kids (and parents!)
My daughter chose this from her summer reading list before 5th grade. Because we have friends with autistic kids, I read this book so I could talk with my daughter about autism. This is a fantastic book. Very sweet, funny, touching story -- beautifully written. Nothing objectionable. A great launching pad for discussion with your child about kids who are different, or have learning, social, or physical issues.

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Parent of 9 and 12 year old
August 20, 2009
 
Realistic look at life with a disabled sibling. The main character vacillates between being mortified by her brother's behavior and being fiercely protective of him. She learns valuable lessons about friendship from an unexpected friend.

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Kid, 12 years old
January 14, 2011
 
GREAT BOOK!
I just finished this AMAZING book and i absolutely LOVED it! I could even kind of relate to Catherine. It sends out great messages and there was not ONE time in the book where I was bored! If I had to be concerned about ANYTHING I would say there is the tiniest bit of romance (a 12 yr old girl goes to a dance with a 14 yr old boy and there is some EXTREMELY mild flirting) Anyone under 10 could read it but I think kids from 10-14 would understand Catherine and her feelings more.

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Parent of 10 and 12 year old
March 1, 2011
 
Excellent book
Rules is a story of a girl's need to find "normal." This girl, Catherine, struggles constantly with her wanting to be accepted and viewed as anyone else and with her love for her autistic brother. She sets up extensive 'rules', for both him and herself, so she can try to make him more 'normal' to everyone around them. In the end, with the help of the friendship of Jason (a boy in a wheelchair) she learns that maybe what others think isn't THAT important after all. This is a fantastic book for children to learn that others who seem different are just people too. And that what the popular kids think really isn't that important. There is also insight into what it's like to live with an autistic sibling. Great writing by Cynthia Lord.

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Teen, 14 years old
March 10, 2010
 
BAD! WHATS THE BIG DEAL!
i honestly don't get what is the big deal over this book i mean it's so boring. All it has is a boring story with a list of rules. Don't waste your money!!!!!!

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Adult
February 3, 2011
 
Be Careful What You Wish For!
I think this book is very educational! I loved this book and for me it's just a new experience. I loved in this book that it teaches you that if you don't always have to have a friend that is able to walk or run, or even a friend that can't speak or hear. like Catherin she has a friend named Jason that you'll learn about in this book he cant walk or speak but she also has a friend that can walk and speak but at the end of the book this girl get's upset that Catherin has a friend that can't walk or run. I would tell you more but i would give the whole story away and I don't want to do that.

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Educator and Parent of 9 year old
February 17, 2011
 
Positive messages
This book had some very positive messages. There was not a lot of action, but there were interesting events. My book club had many interesting discussions based on this book.

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Teen, 15 years old
February 11, 2011
 
it is a simpley an amazing book

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Parent of 3, 4, 4, 6, and 7 year old
February 23, 2011
 
The secret message in thias book was really just that Catherine wanted to make out with Jason and then she wanted to .... with Jason! 8~O

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Kid, 12 years old
February 17, 2011
 
Great for kids 9-12.
I think it is great for kids 9-12. It gives kids a look of what atrium is and it treats people who a lot nicer.

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This review was written by Matt Berman
Author:Cynthia Lord
Book type:Fiction
Genre:Family Life
Publisher:Scholastic Inc.
Publication date:April 1, 2006
Number of pages:200
Hardcover price:$15.99
Publisher's recommended age(s):9 - 12
Read aloud:9
Read alone:10

This review was written by Matt Berman
 

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