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If You Really Knew Me (MTV)

common sense media says

Sobering reality series digs deep to bust up stereotypes.


parents & educators say
  • 100% say there are positive messages
  • 80% say there are positive role models

What parents need to know

Parents need to know that this unusually emotional reality series is aimed squarely at teens and the cliques that too often divide them. Students share deeply personal details about their lives with their peers, and the stories they tell are often painful: A now-bubbly student council leader reveals that she used to be suicidal, a stony outcast talks about her struggle with self-mutilation, etc. Although some of the topics the show tackles (which also include drugs, alcohol, sexual orientation, and violence) may be too upsetting for younger kids, it's a gold mine for strong role modeling and positive messages. Most of the teens on the show are so profoundly affected by the experience that they're inspired to change the way they treat everyone in their lives.

Positive messages: The workshop pushes teens to break out of their boxes and get to know fellow students for who they really are. Messages include promoting acceptance, understanding, and honesty.
Positive role models: Teens who go through the workshop make a commitment not only to the process of sharing their feelings, but also to making changes in their lives to make things better. Their behavior might inspire viewers to do the same.
Violence: Some teens discuss violent incidents that deeply affected their lives, such as suicides, murders, or gang violence.
Sex: Some students talk about their sexual orientation.
Language: Infrequent instances of bleeped swearing ("s--t," etc.).
Consumerism: Not applicable.
Drinking, drugs, & smoking: Some teens talk about having used drugs or alcohol or being in families where drugs and alcohol are still problems.

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What to talk about

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  • Families can talk about the Challenge Day experience and why it appears to be so successful on the show. Did it surprise you to see students sharing so many "secrets" they'd kept hidden from their peers? Do you think having the cameras there helped or hindered the process?

  • Teens: Are you personally affected by cliques at school? Have you ever been a victim of bullying, prejudice, or abuse? Have you ever been ashamed of the way you've treated someone else?

  • Do you think a workshop like this one could succeed at your school? What would be the hardest part about getting students to participate and share their feelings? Why is it sometimes so hard to be honest?

What's the story?

What's the story?

In MTV's docuseries IF YOU REALLY KNEW ME, high school students are asked to step out of their comfort zones and show their peers who they really are as part of an intensive, school-sponsored "Challenge Day" program that puts a whole new spin on reality TV. Each episode focuses on a different school's Challenge Day experience and shadows five diverse students as they go through the emotionally draining but eye-opening process. The result is a heart-wrenching yet ultimately rewarding journey for participants and viewers alike.

Is it any good?

Is it any good?
 

Effective without being overly manipulative, If You Really Knew Me is a stand-out series for teens that actually uses the reality genre for good instead of evil -- and that's a welcome change in a world that has too many reality dating shows to count. Even better, it succeeds in staying palatable to a teenage audience that desperately needs its positive takeaways. Here's hoping they eat it up.

Some students spring into action and make concrete plans to make things better at school or at home. But it's hard to see a few newly energized faces come out of the experience with a hearfelt desire to change, only to watch them collide with painful realities that don't quite meet their rosy expectations. For example, when a broken-down girl reaches out to her emotionally distant dad across the dinner table to tell him how much she appreciates him, we want them to embrace and connect. Instead, he looks down awkwardly as she clings to his hand, and we can feel the distance spreading between them.

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TV Details
TV Rating: TV-PG
Network: MTV
Genre: Reality TV
Where to watch: MTV

This review was written by Kari Croop
 
 

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What parents & educators say

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Based on 5 parent & educator reviews:
  • 100% say there are positive messages
  • 80% say there are positive role models
  • 40% say language is an issue

Most useful reviews by all members

zinna123
teen, 15 years old
 
inspiration
i absolutly love this show i mean it really touches you its hard to go without crying sometimes, i mean i know that we all go through some bad spots some may be harder than others but we get through it. and yeah every school has mean girls, jocks, and all those cliques but we are all going through hard spots love this show!

tinksel
kid, 13 years old
 
It is a very good show cause it toch in on the real life issues of a highs schoolers it could save a lot of kids from depression cause it can be the worst time in your life but when the come it is a day to e real and fari to every one but not just for a day but forever .It is a graet show to watch with your child you will cry.

brandi253
teen, 17 years old
 
i love this show. i wish challenge day could come to every high school in the nation if they could. that would be awesome. (:

AquaFresh
teen, 15 years old
 
If you really knew me....
You'd know how much I LOVE this show, its real, its interesting, and it touches your heart. This is something I've been hoping for, for us to open up and actually care about eachother. And that is something everyone is lacking, because when people are mean to eachother at school, or just plain ignore a person, they dont know what that kids life is like after school, and they dont want to know. I hope this thing goes to my school one day, we need it alot. These stories are true and sad, and highly recomended to be heard. We all have a story, all people need to do is listen.

kkmovie
adult
 
You have to see it!
I absolutely love this show. I've watched every episode so far! The messages are so inspiring and true. They cry, and you cry with them. It really makes you wonder what people are really like. People you would never think have problems do. I definately reccomend! :D

OGORMAN
teen, 16 years old
 
It really inspires you.
I have only seen this show a couple of times but I found it very inspiring. It would be very hard for me to summon up the courage to talk about some of the things that these kids are discussing. You see your life in a whole new perspective, and it may cause you to do something about it. I would say 13+ only because of discussion topics: suicide, alcohol/drug addiction, sexual orientation, bullying, and other sometimes sensitive subjects.

MillyMolly
teen, 15 years old
 
Every school in the world should have this.
This is a great TV show, where kids share their experiences in life, and finally open up. There are so many positive messeges, and the people going around doing this are amazing rolemodels.

ateensperspective
teen, 14 years old
 
Great Messages
This show gives not only the people in the workshop, but also teens/tweens watching, a new perspective. It shows them that they are not alone and that they may not know as much as they think about the people around them. It teaches them to be more compassionate and empathetic. I know, because I have watched it before and it made me think- other kids are dealing with the same issues I am, maybe worse.

bieberbabe
kid, 13 years old
 
i think if you really knew me is a very emotional show and younger kids can't relate to it because it's real life and what teenagers go through every day and all little kids think about is fantasy land :D

twinkers321
teen, 14 years old
 
Great Show With Great Messages.
This show hits dead on on what it's like to be bullied and tortured in school. It doesn't sugar coat, and it gets down to the nitty gritty and seems like it actually makes a difference. A huge factor in why this is going on in schools is because a lot of the people on the staff just don't CARE. At all. and of course children can be quite cruel, obviously, but adults lead the actions of children. This show also teaches kids not to assume about other's lives, and not take for granted for what they have. It's a great show in all.

Totally500
teen, 15 years old
 
The best show for high school
A Great show about high school and what students faced in the past and now

DarkMidnight
teen, 15 years old
 
Very, VERY good
Very good, this needs to come to every school. This is what we need, we need people to actually care about eachother, stop pretending, and see eachothers as human beings. And whats good is after the experiment, they come back the next day to see if it worked. I'm not sure if they should be saying some things on tv, but it still needs to be told. I cry with them when I see this, its a very good show, THESE are the kinds of shows we need.

LayneE
adult
 
Interesting. Not exactly mind blowing, though.
It's a watch and then talk show. It's an interesting experiment. I'd like to know if they go back and ask what happens afterword. THAT would be interesting. Sometimes, there are things said you wouldn't want your teens hearing, but if they're in high school, they already know it happens.

destinyisme
teen, 14 years old
 
I cried?! WHAT?!
The first time I watched this show I actually cried. I never really cry so that was surprising for me. I think that it's really cool and that it's for ANYONE. Watch it!

Musicislove62
teen, 16 years old
 
I wish we had this at my school
I stumbled upon this show on demand when it was first starting out, and I think it is a great show. It reveals that everyone has problems, and if we band together, we can be there for one another. I go to a private school, so when someone is going through tough times, he/she assumes that everyone else has it great, but even more so, kids from public schools look at us and think that we have it perfect because we are getting the best possible education. But that's not true at all. Students at my school do have support from some of our teachers, but our next step as a community is to make us all band together and support one another even if we are in totally different social circles. This show does exactly that, and this sort of thing should be done in all schools, including mine.

chalbridge zupe
kid, 12 years old
 
Favorite for All and Show for All
This is one of my favorite shows. Not only does it reinforce how a positive school climate can be important on any educational path, but it alows kids that may have had a shady background to express themselves in a way that they probably never really could.

amberknn
parent of and 3 , 5 , 7 , 16 year old
 
Love it and hate it at the same time
I love the idea of this program. However, as a social worker trained to always think about the other side, I fear for the the children whom make these confesions on television because the whole community in of the city in which the project is focused watches the program and may know the teenagers airing their family and life problems. When someone they know watches the program, it may cause even more problems in their lves outside of school. Not only this, but teenagers will be teenager. Just because they agree and abide by the program today, does not mean they will not make fun of these people with horrible pasts tomorrow. I just do not like te breech of confidentiality, but love the program! It hasgiven me a few ideas for my practice as well. I guess the show has so many strengths regarding the general teenage population that they were not worried about the impact it has on the lives of the confessers themselves. It may help alleviate the stress and burden of dealng with their issues for the day, but tomorrow is a whole new story!

EmilyB123
teen, 15 years old
 
Great show that everyone should watch!!!

connielove93
educator and parent of 5 and 10 year old
 
A powerful and mooving show every teen should see
This show is one of the best to be on mtv! The show chronicles a high school who is highly clique-ish and racist. The shows councilors come to the school to ask them one request. They ask the teens to finish this sentence "if you really knew me..." This show is very powerful and I think every school should have this program come and get their students to realize that everyone puts on a face to hide who they really are.

kaytopian
teen, 14 years old
 
One of my favorites!!!
I absolutely looovvvveeee this show. It teaches teens and young adukts that it's okay to step outside your comfort zone and to be who you are. it also tries to put a stop to bullying, cyberbullying and cliques. there is some references to violence. teens share stories of bullying, suicide, attempted suicide, and being beaten. thats what makes this show, though. good for tweens and teens. not for 10 and under.

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