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Character Strengths and Life Skills

What is self-control?

Self-control is being able to appropriately manage your thoughts, feelings, and impulses. People with self-control pay attention to their emotions and feelings. On the internet, self-control translates to "self-reflect before you self-reveal."

Developing self-control is more challenging for some kids than others. Learning self-control is a process and doesn't entirely gel until certain brain functions are formed in young adulthood.

Teachers, parents, and even other peers have a big influence on kids' self-control -- both in the "real" world and online. Help your kids develop self-control by helping them stay focused, avoid distractions, and think through the consequences of their actions.