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How to Save a Life



Sweet, sentimental, and similar-sounding songs.
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What parents need to know

Positive messages

A very subtle message of taking responsibility for oneself and taking care of friends.


One or two subtle references to suicide.

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Parents Need to Know

Parents need to know that there are no offensive lyrics here -- just a collection of sweet and ever-so-slightly monotonous love songs, with one or two very subtle references to suicide.

What's the story?

HOW TO SAVE A LIFE is the full-length debut of The Fray, a Denver quartet deeply committed to medium-tempo, melodic pop songs about love, loss, and that all-important occasional glimmer of hope. Serious and emotional, the songs are well-crafted and well-played, though there really isn't a stick-in-your-head standout among them. Articulate on the subject of the complexities of love and relationships while covering no new ground, The Fray express themselves well with lyrics that are direct and honest. \"Where did I go wrong, I lost a friend/Somewhere along in the bitterness/And I would have stayed up with you all night/Had I known how to save a life\" (\"How to Save A Life\") is a good example of The Fray's songwriting. Competent and expressive, their greatest flaw is an absolute lack of humor or irony.

Is it any good?


Isaac Slade (vocals, piano), Joe King (guitar, vocals), Ben Wysocki (drums), and Dave Welsh (guitar) deliver fine performances all the way around, with an extra nod to Slade's piano playing and impressively emotive high notes. But some of his singing verges on whiny, and the songs (mostly credited to Slade and King) become monotonous after the first few tracks. If you love one, you'll love 'em all. If you don't, then wait awhile until the members of The Fray have had a chance to grow into their own unique sound... and their record-label press-kit hype.

Families can talk about...

  • Families can talk about what it means to have a "sound" -- is it more important to have an identifiable musical MO that's recognizable or more important to take risks and dare to be different? Can you think of any groups that do both?

Music details

Artist:The Fray
Release date:September 13, 2005
Label:Sony Music
Genre:Indie Rock
Parental advisory:No
Edited version available:No

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Adult Written byfirelion March 23, 2015

a great album

How to save a life is a great album no dirty words no sex just good clean music that kids and adults can both enjoy
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Great messages
Teen, 16 years old Written byabbacus June 1, 2012

Amazing song, but sad.

Very good sad song about losing someone to suicide. I love all song by The Fray, but this is one of, if not my favorite. The music in it is beautiful and their voices are great.
Kid, 9 years old April 7, 2011


I LOVE THIS SONG! I LISTEN TO IT ON DAD'S iPOD! Good messages are....."Where did I go wrong, I lost a friend, somewhere along, in the bitterness sand". and "I stayed up with you all go left..and I stay right......did I know, How to Save a Life"? It's about wanting his friend back and wanting to save him/her very bad.:)
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