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How much screen time is OK for my kid(s)?

Kids are spending more time with screen media -- and at younger ages -- than ever before. In an effort to help families curb kids' use, groups such as the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) and the World Health Organization (WHO) have released numerical screen limit guidelines, but the reality is that there really is no magic number that's "just right." What's more important is the quality of kids' media, how it fits into your family's lifestyle, and how you engage your kids with it.

The idea of screen time as a one-dimensional activity is changing -- even the AAP, whose screen time rules had been strictly age-based, is recognizing that not all screen time is created equal. Computers, tablets, and smartphones are multipurpose devices that can be used for lots of purposes. Even so, the World Health Organization is sticking with specific screen time amounts on the theory that sedentary activities such as playing computer games is contributing to the global obesity epidemic. However, designating device use simply as "screen time" can miss some important variations. The Common Sense Census: Media Use by Tweens and Teens identifies four main categories of screen time.

  • Passive consumption: watching TV, reading, and listening to music
  • Interactive consumption: playing games and browsing the Internet
  • Communication: video-chatting and using social media
  • ​Content creation: using devices to make digital art or music

Clearly, there's a lot of difference among these activities. But as valuable as many of them can be, it's still important for kids' overall healthy development to balance their lives with enriching experiences found off screens. These tips can help:

  • Pay attention to how your kids act during and after watching TV, playing video games, or hanging out online. If they're using high-quality, age-appropriate media; their behavior is positive; and their screen-time activities are balanced with plenty of healthy screen-free ones, there's no need to worry.
  • If you're concerned about heavy media use, consider creating a schedule that works for your family. This can include weekly screen-time limits, limits on the kinds of screens kids can use, and guidelines on the types of activities they can do or programs they can watch. Make sure to get your kids' input so the plan teaches media literacy and self-regulation, and use this as an opportunity to discover what they like watching, introduce new shows and apps for them to try, or schedule a family movie night.

The AAP 's guidelines, released in October 2016, allow for some screen time for children younger than 2 and emphasize parental involvement for all kids. In a nutshell:

  • Avoid use of screen media other than video-chatting for children younger than 18 months.
  • If you choose to introduce media to children 18-24 months, find high-quality programming and co-view and co-play.
  • Limit screen use to 1 hour per day of high-quality programs for children age 2 to 5 years.
  • Create a family media plan with consistent rules and enforce them for older kids.

The reality is that most families will go through periods of heavy and light media use, but, so long as there's a balance, kids should be just fine.

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Teen, 13 years old written by pIut_o

i have a high screen time amount, yet a lot of it is for communication, school, and music. i make good grades, play 3 instruments, and read and play sports. i think it really just depends on the amount of time you have and whether the kid can be trusted to complete their work and be productive. when my screen time was limited to 2 hours a day, it put my in a bad mental state because i just wanted to go home and play video games on fridays and not worry about having a bit more than 2 hours. nonetheless, what really bothered me was that it just felt controlled. following rules and having high regulation is really hard for me. i mainly use soundcloud for music, discord and imessage to text friends, ultimate guitar for tabs, and i like to make youtube videos and tiktoks. though many people aren’t very fond of discord, i’ve met amazing people on there. while i’m safe online, i still enjoy talking to people. they are so unbelievably kind and we have many things in common. i can join different servers based off my liking and also make my own. i currently am in the process of making a mental health support server, and have also learned a whole lot about mental health, which is cool! i use ultimate guitar to look up guitar and ukulele chords. i am ALWAYS playing them, to the point where i’m told to go to bed and to stop playing, LOL. finally, i like using youtube and tiktok to creatively express myself and interests. yes, there is bad stuff, but there’s good and bad in everything. i enjoy making my own videos and doing funny stuff. i’ve also discovered really amazing music through them. i honestly think that social media shouldn’t be limited to a certain amount of time, but instead limit based off whether their schoolwork has been done or if they’ve done all their chores, exercise, etc. electronics are honestly really amazing and have helped make my life better, and i’ve learned many new things.
Kid, 11 years old

Ok. So first off to all the teens reading this, your parents aren’t taking away your devices so that you wont play and instead study. They are doing it for your own good. What good? Well for one it is for your eyes. Wearing glasses may not seem so bad, but I wear them. They honestly aren’t the worst thing, but if you wake up in a storm, you lose your glasses, then you can’t see. Too much screen time as said also makes you snack more, and not get up from the couch, or your bed, raising your chance of obesity. I myself have a limit to an hour a day, which is perfectly reasonable for a child my age, compared to my peers who some, don’t get any screen time other than school. Kids get mad when their parents take away their games, because they are/almost are addicted to it, or they are so used to playing, they just can’t stop. My brother for example, is a real gamer, he plays much more than he should (sometimes up to eight hours a day), and when my dad checks his screen time every week, my little bro gets super mad, because we have a rule that says that if you spend more than 15mins above your screen time for the day, you double the amount, and you lose that amount for the next day, and sometimes more than a day. I understand his pain, as I went through that stage too, but it’s for his own good. I just hope he doesn’t need glasses when we get his eyes checked again. It would mean that it would be harder to play sports like soccer, and such, and exercising will be harder with glasses. Gaming may make kids happy, but other hobbies can too. Try the Rubik’s Cube for example. It may seem like a nerdy thing to do, but it really isn’t. Or maybe a game, not Monopoly of course, but maybe, chess (which is actually not as boring as it seems), or checkers, or backgammon, something fun. You can also try sports, those are quite fun. So please, consider your parents side of the argument. They are doing this for your future. Random fact: when most people imagine a dream spouse, they don’t even think of the option of glasses on them. Thanks for reading this comment, and during these tough times, remember, be kind and stay at home.
Adult written by wweisOK320

whats your problem. ok im not over 18 yet but close enough. Im a huge game and fortnite make me happy not depressed and act bad the real problem is people tell there kids to get off and thats why the kids get mad. Just let them play when they want eventually they will get bored and stop.
Teen, 14 years old written by Movie_reviewer

It’s great that the games make you happy! But I think spending too much time on them is bad. You should definitely be able to just not a long time every day. If parents were to let them play whenever they want it would become very unhealthy. So my opinion is that parents should let their kids play their games but not for too long each day, or to have a schedule that the kid agrees with.
Adult written by wweisOK320

whats your problem. ok im not over 18 yet but close enough. Im a huge game and fortnite make me happy not depressed and act bad the real problem is people tell there kids to get off and thats why the kids get mad. Just let them play when they want eventually they will get bored and stop.
Teen, 13 years old written by normalhooman

my parents are really strict,they only give me an hour per day and have a lot of restrictions, like my phone,iPad and laptop are all connected to the screen time and there is downtime at 10pm till 7pm, I’m not allowed to have the App Store installed into my phone,I don’t know why and I’m also not allowed to delete any of my apps, my mom controls my screen time on her phone so I can’t really do anything about the screen time. she blocks my messages app after 1 hour of using my phone which I personally don’t agree about that, my Teachers, classmates give announcements through there because we have a group chat and stuff. She blocks all my other apps too, I can’t contact anyone after my screen time ends or after 10pm, there are only 4 contacts I can call which is her, my dad, my aunt and the house number, she doesn’t let me negotiate with her and if I do she will literally beat me and call me a brat. sometimes I get really stressed and want to use my phone as my phone calms me down but there’s always screen time.I think the right amount of screen time a child should get is- 1-3~10 minutes 4-6~20 minutes 6-8~30 minutes 9-11~1h and a half 11-12~2h 13-14~3h 30mins 15-16~they can choose
Teen, 14 years old written by Movie_reviewer

Wow I’m so sorry about that! I think your mom should let you have a lot more time on your phone and not block off every app. Maybe when you grow older you might have a little more freedom? If not in a couple of years you should at least be able to get a job and buy yourself your own phone you can control. And I also agree with the amount of screen time a child should get.
Teen, 16 years old written by Someone36

I saw alot of great articles here but my problem with my parents isn't most of what people are saying I get about 5 to 6 hours a day on my computer and I use some time from my screen time to program on unity I learn programming I still get good grades and number 1 in my class but my parents are more concerned about my eyes not my grades or my brain
Teen, 16 years old written by Someone36

I saw alot of great articles here but my problem with my parents isn't most of what people are saying I get about 5 to 6 hours a day on my computer and I use some time from my screen time to program on unity I learn programming I still get good grades and number 1 in my class but my parents are more concerned about my eyes not my grades or my brain
Kid, 10 years old

When I was about 7, I had a screen time limit: 1 hour a day and none at night. But now, I'm not 7 anymore, and I don't really have a screen time limit, although I do make sure personally that I have a maximum of 1-2 hours of screen time that doesn't include homework or screens at school. After school, I make sure I have done all of my homework, and then I watch a maximum of 4 30 minute programmes or 1 film (I watch quite a few films by myself). If I have any video chats with friends, I maximise that time online to 1 hour and a half.
Teen, 15 years old written by Jonnytan713

I feel like screen time shouldn’t be an aspect of life dwelled upon or stressed out over unless it becomes an addiction or it creates a logistical problem in daily life. During a period such as the lockdown we are currently progressing through, I feel as though drastically limiting screen time would be a fruitless endeavor leading to nothing greater than increased tension and hostility between parents and their children.
Kid, 11 years old

I think that you shouldn’t limit your child’s screen time unless you need to. Children do have common sense and you don’t need to use yours for them. That said if screens are having a negative impact or are disrupting their life then you should probably speak to them or set some limits
Teen, 13 years old written by dancemomsavocado

My opinion: Under 2 years old: No screen time 2-4 years old: 30 minutes of screen time a day 5-6 years old: 1 hour of screen time a day 7-8 years old: 1hr 30mins of screen time a day 9-10 years old: 2 hours of screen time a day 11-12 years old: 2hr 30 mins of screen time a day 13-15 years old: 3 hours of screen time a day, and social media should be limited to 1 hour. 16+: Unlimited time except for social media when it should be limited to 1 hour.
Kid, 10 years old

I am allowed to have 5 hours of screen time a day. The problem is that my screen time automatically turns off after 5 hours. I know that most people won't agree with me because I'm young, but I hope you read everything. Kids that are wasting there screen time watching youtube or tik tok or whatever, instead of cutting down their screen time, encourage them to do something else with screen time. But what do I do on the screen? Art, coding, and talking to my friends mainly. During quarantine, I need some other way to talk to my friends. And coding, I don't see what's wrong with that. I'm an artist. I do a lot of art. My parents say I waste too much time on the screen, but I don't see how spending my time on the screen is wasting it. Parents, I'm not just saying this because I just want more time on the screen. But some kids who if you give unlimited screen time to and they never go off the screen, you should try limiting there screen time.
Teen, 13 years old written by crosscountrygal

i might be pretty young but i think that the limit on screen time should really be based on the kid and what they’re doing. if it’s a very motivated kid who doesn’t have problems doing what needs to be done in the time available, and if the kid helps out around the house and does what they’re supposed to do, then screen time limits should not be oppressive. they never should be oppressive, but when a child is a good kid, the rules can be more relaxed. if they are playing games on their phones all day long, there should be limits, because that doesn’t seem like a good idea. but if they are communicating with friends (especially during quarantine) or if they are doing something creative(researching things, running an instagram account like a thread account or a fan account, finding diy craft videos, or anything else that’s productive) then there should be little to no limits as long as important and healthy things are also done, like exercising and eating healthy. also, a lot of kids like to watch tv or listen to music while they do other things. obviously if that is distracting them from important things like homework, then they shouldn’t be allowed to. but if they are watching tv while organizing or drawing or crafting or doing hairdos, i don’t see any harm. i’m not saying there never be limits, because they are sometimes necessary. if a kid is very moody or sedentary after being on their phone for a while, it may be best to suggest a productive activity. however, a lot of kids might be annoyed at their parents because of that, and a good way (i think) to fix that is to not make it seem like an order. and to do it with the kid. it could be saying “hey do you wanna work on the puzzle with me” or “i’m going outside to sit on the deck, you should come”. that way, the kid doesn’t feel forced, and the activity is more appealing. if a child spends all day on their phone and doesn’t do what they’re supposed to do, like homework or exercise, then yes, there should be limits, at least until the kid is improving a lot. i just think that a lot of the time, unreasonable limits are set which annoys children because they know it isn’t necessary. sorry if that didn’t make sense lol. i think there were some run-on sentences. also, i think that phones shouldn’t be allowed to be used at meals (when you’re eating with your family, if you’re home alone or just eating alone, watching tv is ok), except if your kid is a food photographer ;) in which case it’s fine to take a pic of the meal before eating as long as the kid isn’t still on the phone while eating. in addition to that, i don’t think kids should be allowed to have their phones in their room when they’re asleep. it’s ok to watch tv while getting ready for bed, but i don’t think it’s a good idea to let kids keep their phone in their room at night, unless they choose not to be on it and are trustworthy. if you know that your kids aren’t on their phones at night and are getting good sleep, if a kid is, for example, scared of the dark or (idk) doesn’t like having their own room bc they’re scared, letting them have their phone in their room could be ok if it isn’t affecting their sleep and the blue light isn’t too harsh that they can’t rest. i also don’t know if having your phone with you when u get ready for the day is a good idea. if it’s like a saturday and u have time, i guess it’s ok, but being on your phone shouldn’t delay when you eat or do your work. as long as kids have their priorities straight, limits don’t need to be super strict.
Teen, 13 years old written by Avilan

I can sit down and draw digitally for many hours at a time and that screen time is treated differently from playing video games. I think a good amount of time is 3-4 hours with only 1-2 hours for gaming.
Teen, 13 years old written by Saransh M.

2-3 years- 10 minutes of educational screen time. 4-6 years- 30 minutes of educational screen time, 15 minutes of their choice. 7-10 years- 10 minutes of educational screen time, and 50 minutes of their choice. 11-13 years- 1.5 hours their choice, 30 minutes of a documentary. 14-16 years- get your child a phone at this age. It is a perfect time for them to demonstrate their responsibility. Set screen time limits on Apple phones, such as 2 hours for games and 1 hour for social media. Then they get 1 hour of TV, for a total of 4 hours. 17+- they will most likely be in college, so it is totally up to them. I feel those are fair limits.
Kid, 11 years old

Alright, here's my recommendations 0 to 3 years, no screen time 4 to 7, 10 to 30 minutes 8 to 10, 30 minutes to an hour 11 to 13, an hour to 3 14 to 16, 4+ hours 17+, they should be able to manage their time themselves
Kid, 10 years old

I don't really agree. I feel like kids should get a lot more screen time then that.
Kid, 11 years old

Alright, here's my recommendations 0 to 3 years, no screen time 4 to 7, 10 to 30 minutes 8 to 10, 30 minutes to an hour 11 to 13, an hour to 3 14 to 16, 4+ hours 17+, they should be able to manage their time themselves
Kid, 11 years old

I am allowed 2 hrs. of free screen time a day + 30 mins. of creative time. Free screen time can be games, TV, or YouTube. If I am using my iPad to play music, it doesn't count, since I am not staring at a screen the whole time. Creative time entails watching a video (5 minute crafts, anything like that) and doing an art project, or watching a documentary.
Adult written by Hanna H

I am touched by all the thoughtfull comments made by young people here on the topic of screentime. I really hope parents are reading your comments and take them to heart, there are some really valid arguments here. In our family we do not limit screen time. There are so many different activities involved that it seems weird to even talk about «screen time». Like talking about «paper time» as a collective term that involves drawing a flower, reading a manual, composing a sonnet, writing a letter, making a petition, solving an engineering problem, doing origami or playing tictactoe.
Kid, 10 years old

Hi I know that you will probably disregard this comment because of my age but I think that screen time isn’t a set limit. I feel that they are the reason for how much computer time they (child / teen / tween) receive. How they respond as they gain a lot of screen time vs. a limited screen time is likely to shift. During the quarantine/lockdown they will probably have a lot more access to screens as they are most like learning remotely like me. I know that some kids react differently when you give them screens but it is worth a try to maybe experiment by giving them a lot of screen time vs a little bit of screen time. When they have a lot of time, and they're stuck to the screen so they can't really  get up to eat, sleep ,or whatever, then you realize you've got to establish restrictions. If they can still get up and function properly then a lot of screen time could possibly be acceptable to offer them. But I read in some comments when you (parents) say no to screen time what you do is make the kid want more. When kids hear the word ‘no’ it pretty much makes want to do whatever they are being told no to. So if you tell them no to screen time, they are going to find a way around the restriction. But like I stated in the beginning it depend on the child and how he acts towards screen time.
Teen, 16 years old written by kitty-chan

I kinda agree but I don't not agree because something like the lockdown because the kids got nothing do when staying at home. I do agree because us kids can spend time with the family but instead of having parenting control on the wifi just have a an hour or two hours of family time and have us kids put our phones on a table or in a box until family time is over.
Teen, 16 years old written by kitty-chan

I kinda agree but I don't not agree because something like the lockdown because the kids got nothing do when staying at home. I do agree because us kids can spend time with the family but instead of having parenting control on the wifi just have a an hour or two hours of family time and have us kids put our phones on a table or in a box until family time is over.
Teen, 13 years old written by keene3599

Personally, i believe that screen time limits can be a bad or a good thing. In screen time on setting, there is an ability to set time limits on a certain app. I truly believe that this is the better way to go. This gives parents the ability to limit the amount of games kids are playing but does not have to limit time on an app that is used for social reasons. When I use my phone, I always feel as if my screen time always runs out when I am in the middle of a conversation. Only limiting certain apps would let we talk with friends but would also limit the amount of games I use on my phone
Adult written by Sean H.

I agree with this: "The reality is that most families will go through periods of heavy and light media use, but, so long as there's a balance, kids should be just fine.". The problem I have with those AAP limits is they are pretty unreasonable in this day and age, and they ignore the fact that a lot of screen time is actually productive. If children are connecting with friends and family, learning, or being creative, I argue those are all good uses of time, whether onscreen or not. Lumping all screen time together is just crazy to me. And, it creates a shame culture for those that let their kids exceed it (basically all of us, according to the stats) which isn't helpful at all. Let the kids use the screens. Push for balance and try to make some of that screen time productive.
Kid, 12 years old

My mom is *very* strict with screentime and I get 20 minutes of screentime per day on my phone, but I make up for it with my computer because I spend all day with my computer. I don't really watch videos and I don't use Tictok (or whatever kids these days play with). I write. I am a writer. I have written 40,000 words in 41 days, and I daresay that I will write more. I use my phone a lot because all my friends moved away. I need to use it to talk to them. I'm sick of people thinking that because I use my phone I won't talk to them. Excuse me? I put my phone down every time someone enters the room so that they can talk to me, but they don't, so I go back to my phone. Parents. Do not think that your kids are wasting time on their devices. I don't have friends - I can't talk to my friends. How long haven't I talked to my best friend? Oh, yeah. A month. And that's because I don't have screen time to do so on my phone! I think that even though too much screen time is unhealthy, I actually spend my time better than some adults spend their time (how many hours do YOU browse facebook, or messengers, or watch random videos?) I also think that the internet is a great place - even for me. I found out that online people are actually very nice - much nicer than people in real life, and you (as parents) should respect that.
Kid, 11 years old

Wow, that's awesome. I am a writer, too. I use most of my screen time on writing.
Teen, 15 years old written by RogueLlama

I am allowed 2 and 1/2 hours every day, although many days I do not get to use it. I don't enjoy watch TV and don't own a phone, so I play video games. I am introverted and anti-social, so it is a great way to interact with people and get together with friends. I play very competitively, and consider it like 3D chess, just with more than one opponent. Gaming is also an outlet for me, since I have been depressed for a few years now it gives me a chance to be good at something, and to be proud of myself (which is very important for someone like me). Also, as a bisexual person, I can take part of a community with very little judgment and very much open-mindedness. I just want people to try and learn more about what they are talking about rather then blame something of causing violence when there is no evidence that it does so.
Teen, 13 years old written by oboeplayer1

I know that many readers might invalidate my opinion due to my age, but I really think that all teens and kids are different so their screen time should be suited towards them. All kids 12 and under should definitely have screen time limits. It is important for them to continue to make real life relationships and not spend to much time on devices. Once they enter the dreaded "teenage years" however, I think some changed need to be made. Teenagers change a lot during this time and some people even see these years as the hardest of their lives. Limiting screen time can have negative effects on some teenagers while having positive effects on others. My parents have always limited my screen time and in some cases it has actually limited me. The world is changing and they deny it, but sometimes I truthfully "need" my phone. I know I know, I won't die without it, but in today's day and age, I do use it for a lot of my simplest activity. I can't go "spend time with friends" if I can't contact them. Truthfully sometimes I think it's best for parents to just let their kids do their thing. Teenagers are going through a rough time, and honestly we don't really want to talk to our parents. Were not rotting our brains on our phones and devices. We're doing things we enjoy. What we enjoy might be different what our parents enjoyed as kids and sometimes you just have to accept that. We go on our phones to escape a world that could be worse than we let our parents see. That being said, if a teen is spending an excessive amount of time on their phone, some concessions might be made. But, by excessive I mean not eating meals with the family. I promise, unless all they do is sit on their phones, then their still better than some kids. So please parents, don't give your kids screen limits unless they need them. If you kid liked reading you wouldn't limit their reading time, so don't limit what they do enjoy. It's hard, but it's the truth. Teens are teens. Everybody has been one at some point. Don't make yourself somebody your kids dislike. Sometimes the best thing you can do is just leave them alone.
Adult written by Sean H.

Well said, and great perspective from a teen. I have a 9-year-old and I already see that most of her friendships happen through devices, and that is okay. I talk to her about things like not falling into measuring herself by likes and followers and the social validation and pressure that comes with things like that. But, if she is using her device to have real and authentic connections with friends, whether playing Roblox/Minecraft or using a private messenger to chat, I have no problem with that at all. Beats her vegging out on YouTube. Devices are here to stay and I think us parents have to accept that and talk to our kids about making that time well spent.
Teen, 16 years old written by anav123

Wow, that's actually the best possible way to put it, but I bet there are parents still won't understand. I really hope we can find a cure for those parents.
Teen, 13 years old written by Funbunny456

I think for children if it homework as much time as they need and then 2 hours fun stuff videos, games etc but no videos that are inappropriate for there age and for teens 13+ I think as much time as they need if homework then 2 hours games and as much videos as they want
Teen, 14 years old written by HKlassen

I agree with many points listed here, particularly glad to see that 'screen time' has been split into categories rather than a general concept. This would have solved many of the misunderstandings me and my parents had. While many of these tips are great for the 2-11 age group, I have to say (to parents) not to even bother with 12+ for screen limits. I understand how they can be holed up in their bedrooms or basements playing / texting / etc for hours --and while that is a problem, your solution is far too outdated. I should point out that I am 15 y / o. My parents ever since primary school have always been tight on screen limits. With me being a control freak (get it from the parents, haha) I refused to use anything that I didn't have control over, so when parental control software came into play I would always find a way around it. Point being, your kids aren't idiots, they are going to bypass what ever you try to do, regardless to what extent you think you are going. Because my tendency to control everything includes screen limits, I have none for myself. For the first while, I spent hours on end playing / texting / etc. But, similar to eating too much junk food-- you grow sick of it. It is counter-intuitive, but if you give your children limits (on anything, be it games, be it Halloween candy) they always crave more when it is over. (Similar to attraction / psychology for those who studied it) But if there is no over, then there is no craving more of it. I should say, my life is balanced. I love runs in the morning, I crave social outings more than my 'screens,' I am physically active everyday and my professional / academic life is just as fine. This is the product of my "sky is the limit" mentality. When you eliminate the limits, (on good things or on bad things) you and your child will achieve true balance in your lives. I share these words with you because I hope they give you insight into the irony of the limits you set (while well-intended) are often doing more harm than good. Please excuse any errors as English is my second language. (I am German)
Teen, 13 years old written by Wilpuh19

Sehr gut gesagt, vielen Dank. Du hast die Meinung meiner Eltern auf dem Bildschirm geändert. Ich konnte dir nie genug danken. Vielen Dank, dass Sie diesen Artikel geschrieben haben.
Teen, 13 years old written by Wilpuh19

Sehr gut gesagt, vielen Dank. Du hast die Meinung meiner Eltern auf dem Bildschirm geändert. Ich konnte dir nie genug danken. Vielen Dank, dass Sie diesen Artikel geschrieben haben.
Teen, 13 years old written by oboeplayer1

I one hundred percent agree with everything you said. If parents don't give kids a limit they will grow sick of it eventually. By saying no parents, you just make your kids want it more!!
Teen, 14 years old written by HKlassen

Haha, I had this formatted very nicely but the website just lumped it into one paragraph. Oh well!
Kid, 12 years old

I think you shouldn’t limit screen time, because I am 12 and I have my own rights! Also, if you limit your child’s screen time all “Did you finish your homework?” And you say that marks are essential for screen time, your kid will associate screen time with schoolwork, and someday, they won’t do any and just not use screen time. I think you should teach your kid to spend their time wisely, not force them with screen time. Anyway, that’s what my parents do.
Kid, 11 years old

you are right. 2 hours is a good amount, but if its homework, then as much time as u need.
Teen, 13 years old written by ENW_5206

My parents don't set limits for screen time, but they are really strict about things such as movies, and they have been putting off giving me a phone for as long as possible. I maintain good grades with mostly As. Most of my time on digital devices is spent reading, studying or browsing Pinterest and other websites. I don't watch any TV, barely any movies, and I quit video games. Because most of my time online is constructive, I think that even though I probably use up more than 2 hours on digital devices (not including schoolwork) it is okay. Does anybody agree or disagree with me?
Teen, 13 years old written by hyungsik

Wow some of these comments show that my parents arent that bad. My mom doesnt let me know my phone password but I have touch ID and she expects me to use it around 1-2 hours a day. She honestly has no clue that I get over 5 hours a day because she has work and I use it more at night. She reads stupid articles about getting depressed and grades falling but I've been doing this for nearly 2 years and I'm NOT depressed and I top my class in almost all subjects at school. Parents: don't be too harsh with screen time, it's honestly not as bad as you think.
Teen, 15 years old written by Axustkp

I get 8 hours a day, I don't go much outside, but I have good grades, I have been playing this much since I was 7 years old, I am not anti-social, but I enjoy myself more online that offline. Generations are changing people, while "going outside" may sound great, not each individual is great at it, maybe your kid doesn't enjoy talking to other people, or is very shy. Try talking with your kid, maybe you believe that videogames are bad just because, they usually require you to use your brain. I do believe watching Tv and activities that require you to shut your brain off are NOT good for you. They leave your brain numb. I'm not an expert in this matter and many of you may invalidate my opinion just because I'm not an adult. But, As humans, we employ a myriad of methods to keep ourselves entertained and our time occupied. Just remember that as your child is growing they will also face the fact of working, they should have fun and enjoy themselves. As you now, soon they will have to work and sadly but truth, work themselves out to pay for their families too. But as a conclusion I believe you should let your child enjoy themselves, maybe even watch them play so you can understand why they enjoy what they do. Don't jump on the bandwagon of limiting the screen time of children. Instead of limiting how much time they are on screen, limit what they do, like accessing content not appropriate for children.
written by icanhaveopinionstoo

Screen time limitations should be enforced if a problem occurs, but if you're thriving in a comfortable space with your own moral restrictions, and are perfectly aware of the time spent on your devices, then a parent/ guardian is not helping by taking away a device; in fact, it is hindering them more than helping. **sidenote to op: don't let them invalidate your opinion. Sometimes it means you have more up to date information.
Teen, 13 years old written by lmnopeas

The big banger question is, "could you get along just fine without any screens." If you can't, you're addicted to a certain extent. Humans use screens, social media, videogames, movies, etc. not only to entertain themselves, but they can be used to cope with things. When you are on screens you tend to forget the worries of life, so when you are sad or stressed you can unwind very easily with a screen. The problem with this is, you are going to be stressed in your life without a screen to comfort you. As a person, you need to be able to cope with sadness and stress without these things. I personally read, think about things like, "Is math something we invented to understand nature, or is it something we found in nature." You can do various things such as, observe a bush. at first, this may seem silly, but as you keep looking you can realize, this twig is more prone to the wind, or, that leaf is actually a bug; for example. Although it is still true that it is ok to be on screens some, for entertainment, try to keep it less than 2 hours, but life is a balance and you have to consider work and other things like that. I could go on to say more, but I also have things to do in life. :D
Teen, 13 years old written by Bangtomtom06

My parents are chill and I get 3 hours max a day. My parents have taken my phone before (like most teens) but I get my laptop still and for the 45-minute bus ride home if I got my phone taken I just watch TV shows downloaded on my laptop but normally I have my phone.
Teen, 15 years old written by rygu2

I get 2 hours on my device everyday but its for the combination of TV and phone my time also includes if someone calls me. I can never get my parents to look from my perspective. I even keep up my grade I'm and all A B student and trying out for 2 specialty centers and they still don't let me have more time.
Adult written by oip o.

kids should get to use tech as much as they want we survived our generation of tech and theyll survive theirs
Adult written by David W.

As a parent, my goal for my kids is more than just "survival." I "survived" a drunk driving accident, but that doesn't mean I wasn't injured, or that there weren't permanent effects from that experience. And it doesn't mean that I let my kids do what they want just because I survived. Technology can provide us with very good experiences, but let's not pretend it is harmless. Too much of anything can be harmful, so what we need is to find the balance that is safe and makes our lives better, not worse. That goes for people of any age!
Adult written by Matt D.

I agree with David W. Too much of anything can be harmful, and balance is key. And we are fooling ourselves if we think the best way to raise today's kids is to let them set their own limits with regard to technology. We all need limits, adults included, and we can help our children greatly by modeling good, responsible behavior, and creating balance (as best we can!) within our own lives.
Kid, 12 years old

My parents are allowing 30 minutes of screen time a day. 30. I disagree with that, but they never acknowledge my point of view. How can I get more?
Teen, 15 years old written by rygu2

It depends on how old you are your lucky to have a phone i didn't get one till 7 grade
Teen, 13 years old written by ENW_5206

You're still luckier than I am, I'm only getting one in Grade 9 because my parents are really extreme ;)
Teen, 14 years old written by Goaht

For me, it depends mostly on necessity. I am in junior high and schoolwork usually requires about 1-2 hours of electronic use per day. Over the weekdays, I am only allowed to use electronics for schoolwork, save for Friday and the weekends where I can play video games for up to 2 hours. Me and my mom agree on that and a re pretty chill. During the summer, I can play for pretty much every weekday for 2 hours. I think 2-3 hours is a good amount of screen time for people my age, but it’s the limit for me because of my eyes (doctor said).
Teen, 14 years old written by TheReeKing

My dad is not that chill,right now we are having a discussion on whether or not i should be aloud on for 5 hours and I think 5 hours is fine.That's 35 hours a week,amazing compared to the people who have like 70 hours a week.My mom is pretty chill though I go to her house and she lets me on until 12pm as long as I maintain good grades and go hangout with friends at least once a month.
Teen, 16 years old written by Someone36

Five hours isn't too much if your a teenager especially if ur doing something productive on your time I get the same time and I don't just play games and watch youtube I learn programming and coding in unity
Teen, 13 years old written by AmberWolff

I am 13 years old, and I love playing Ark; Survival Evolved, but I am only getting 45 minutes a day of screen time. This is a special treat too, because my and my siblings are on summer break, and on school days, we only get half an hour. I don't think this is fair. I agree, limiting a child's screen time is important, but make sure you are setting reasonable expectations. I think it would be best if I had 2 hours per day. This isn't asking much, as it takes 2-5 hours of gameplay to tame even one dinosaur, so many people spend 6-11 hours on the game. That's WAY too much, so 2 hours should be reasonable right? My mom thinks that even 45 minutes is pushing it, and I don't really know what to do! If anyone here has tips on how to reason with her, I would appreciate it. Thanks.
Adult written by pomagranite

Hi! I hope you get a chance to read my response to RuusterIV below posted June 25. I feel like it applies to your situation. I think if you can have a conversation where you explain you’d like to have the opportunity to show you will respectfully turn off devices after an hour and a half or two hours, you want the chance to prove you are responsible with your time (aka will dedicate time to homework, getting outside/exercise, using the rest of your time in a healthy way. State your case, present what you’re hoping to have for time, and listen to the response. The response may not be what you want to hear. If so, there’s a good chance they’ll come around after considering what you’ve said, especially if you can present your case as purely statements of what you’d like and keep it all about you/how you would like to show you can handle more time. Stay away from the blame game and arguing. If it goes in that direction politely back off and say you’d like to try having this conversation another time. Good luck!
Teen, 15 years old written by shinyNINJA

I agree with PiperBoj completely. With me, I get to play 1 hour on weekdays, and 2 hours on weekends, after chores, homework, and other related stuff. I've learned to deal with the time limit, even though I still disagree with it. But my biggest problem with my parents, especially my dad, is the automatic screen time limit put on my PC, and also time periods when I can play, which my dad never remembers to fix. Of course I don't agree with all these things. But if you want more time, stop complaining a lot, and yes, stop arguing with your parents about it, if you do. It doesn't help a bit. My dad might be stubborn, untrustworthy, and ignorant of times, but I still love him, since he is trying to keep me safe. No single parent is perfect, and if you're the oldest of your sibling, if you have any, you are probably more susceptible to these restrictions. Remember, if you are the oldest, every new day is the first time your parents have to raise you at that exact age. I don't have a phone, but I plan to get one once I can afford it and pay for it myself. The last thing I want with anyone, is that they become addicted to gaming, and play way too much. This is usually the result of immaturity, which is what screen time is designed to control. Some of you might be thinking that I'm complaining, but no, I'm just stating my situation and giving you my opinion of it. But nevertheless, do you want less restrictions? Then do something obvious to make your parents recognize your maturity, for example, get a job when you're old enough, and be respectful, and do things to help out even when they don't tell you to. I'm sorry for some of you out there who have these overprotective parents. I feel you, because I've dealt with the same. But if you ever want to become free of it, listen to my advice. If there are any parents out there recognizing this, please understand this situation. And for any teens who are taking advantage of things, and doing things they shouldn't do on your electronics, you deserve screen time. Be aware that all this is my own opinion, based of my own experiences. Choose to agree or not, I don't care.
Kid, 11 years old

I think they can have as much as they want as long as they get good grades do their chores get envolved and finish their homework. (A safe amount of time for their age) which really is not much at the end of the day.
Teen, 13 years old written by ENW_5206

No, I don't think kids and teens should have as much as they want, especially if their only goal is to get more.
Teen, 13 years old written by PiperBoj

Honestly, it really depends on the kid. Some kids are great at having lots of screen time, staying productive, getting good grades, and having a social life. Others are not. In my opinion, kids should be allowed screen time after homework and chores are done for a reasonable amount of time.
Teen, 17 years old written by MoreIconicTroubles

I definitely agree with this...mostly. Some kids don't have anything to do but be on electronics. This is my case. I've lost interest in books, I don't have any friends near my home, and pretty much no source of entertainment. I don't think it matters how much your child is on an electronic, as long as they are learning. We have books on our phones now! There's learning apps too, where your child can learn if they are too young for school. Electronics may have some cons but there's more pros, why else do you think they are evolving?
Teen, 13 years old written by Jason H

So my parents don't let me play video games during the week and they don't let me have any device time during the week. Is this to excessive. Please help!!!!! Over protective parents
Teen, 13 years old written by Ytop

I NEED SOME ADVICE. I’m 13 yrs old and my dad only lets me play 30 minutes a day. He does not let me play on the weekdays. His reason is because he thinks it is bad for my eyes to play more than that amount of time. I even showed him proof and research that show that a person my age should be able to play at least 4 hours a day. But he still doesn’t believe me. What should I do?
Teen, 13 years old written by 12332w

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Teen, 13 years old written by 12332w

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Kid, 11 years old

I suggest writing an essay. It may sound boring, but it will convince your dad that you're responsible (make sure grammar is PERFECT). It could be about healthy amounts of screen time. Be sure to add a counterargument: his POV. I definitely think that 30 mins is not a lot. I get 5x that, and you should, too.
Adult written by NickTheNurse

Hello Ytop! My name is Nick and I am a medical student. Your dad has a point in limiting screen time to 30 minutes per day. The screens on your devices emit blue light which when allowed into the eyes for an extended amount of time, can actually inhibit your pineal gland from producing serotonin. Serotonin is the endocrine hormone that regulates your circadian rhythm (sleep/wake cycle). This causes a disruption in sleep patterns and makes you feel tired! If anything, you should try turning off the blue light on your device by turning on "night shift mode" depending on your device. What this does is allows you to use the device without the negative effects of blue light emissions! Hope this helps! Best, NickTheNurse
Kid, 12 years old

Nick, what you are saying is both true and false. Blue light is essential for a healthy lifestyle, meaning that it is needed during the day, and you should not have a blue light filter always enabled. The reason why the sky is blue is because the sun releases different colours, blue being the strongest one. At night, blue light is very bad for your eyes, especially if you are a kid, since kids have eyes that are still growing. I myself am only allowed to play video games on Fridays, Saturdays and Sundays, for a good 3 to 5 hours. My parents have told me that will change the more I mature. I believe going on devices is really important because you can learn many things just by reading articles like this one. To any parents reading this, I recommend you to let your child have more screentime as it is both entertaining and educative.
Teen, 13 years old written by Owen.

Try negotiating with him to let you play 1-2 hours on the week end. I to have only 30min. on week days and 1-2 on each week end. this time restriction also makes sure you will get every thing handed in on time.
Adult written by overprotectivep...

I play about 3 hours per day, and I don’t want to punch a cat, having long amounts of screen time is perfectly fine. I once played 12 hours straight on a weekend, and I didn’t have a seizure. I probably need help though.
Teen, 13 years old written by RuusterIV

Hello, I am 13 and in Jr. High. I get 45 minutes Monday-Thursday and 1:30 hours Friday-Sunday IF all school stuff is done, and I don't have a phone. My parents think even that is too much. What do you think about this limit? It is hard for me to keep but I do my best (not saying I've never snuck a few extra mins) because my other friends play like 5 hours. Also, about 80% of the days I play I am just building something with my friend on our engineering game then my mom calls down the stairs, "So-and-so how long have you been on?" And I reply and she is like " No you have been on too long! " Okay, I go over sometimes, but not often! And she doesn't even know how long I am on. I can keep track! And I'm the ONLY one who goes overtime, well that is because unlike my siblings kindled or whatever, the computer doesn't auto kick me off after x amount of time. When they play the xbox, or the switch, they go over almost every time! But I am the only one who gets in trouble! I feel like they are disappointed in my every time I play one of my games. And pick on me more since I am literally the only one in my family who doesn't like sports. Even just today I went a bit over and my mom shouted the thing I said earlier. Then I came upstairs immediately and she was like "we need to talk" and she was talking to me like I was a dingus. Then, she proceeded to ask for my STEAM password and searched through all my STEAM stuff. then she put a password I don't know on the computer so I can't play it anymore without special permission. I am getting very annoyed and feel like she is freaking me out and stressing me out as this has been happening for a while. My dad is fine but he just kind of goes with my mom on everything. What do you think? I don't know if I am a retard, or my mom is crazy,or if we are both mad.
Adult written by pomagranite

There’s nothing wrong with either of you. Growing up and wanting to establish your own boundaries is difficult for both kids and parents. I am a mom and have a 13 and 10 year old. It sounds like you are respectful of the time limits given. You deserve to hear that. You may not hear it from your mom or dad. It feels worse when you start comparing yourself to your siblings/thinking about sports/age/etc. It’s easy for me to say not to do that but actually letting go of those feelings is much more difficult. Your parents most likely are not tyrannical lunatics who live to see you suffer. I’ll bet they just want you to have a healthy start in life- less blue screen, no bizarre or mind altering you tube videos, basically less screen and more living in the day to day “real world.” That being said, it still hurts to have your mom filing through your STEAM account, putting restrictions on everything, and not seeing eye to eye on time allowances. If this is still an issue for the two of you, I would like to make a suggestion. This is really challenging, even for adults, but try asking your mom to talk to you when she has a few quiet minutes to sit and listen. Be honest and do your best to not let emotions get the best of you. Explain that you understand she cares about your health and wants the best for you (believe me she does). Tell her you appreciate that and support that. And that you also need to know from her that she sees how it’s worked so well. You need to hear that she trusts your judgment. Showing you that by allowing for an extension on screen time would also be a great way for you to return the favor. In other words, give you the chance to show that you can still be a healthy kid while having an allowance in screen time. If this topic starts to turn into an argument, then let it go. Don’t fight. All you can really do is state your case. It will at least show your ability to discuss and reason with respect. That takes some practice. Good luck. Maybe you two already have this sorted out. If so, that’s great. Please remember there is absolutely nothing wrong with either of you. No matter what age, everyone has these same feelings of self doubt. Just ask your mom, she’ll tell you she’s been there too. I hope this helped.
Teen, 14 years old written by Dragonbookworm

My parents are the same way. I'm 14 and homeschooled, and once my school and chores are done, I get one hour. I only have a phone because I babysit ALL THE TIME for my brothers, and my parents need updates. Okay. Enough about me. Your mom going through your STEAM stuff is an invasion of privacy. This probably makes you distrust her (this may not be true but is common in this situation). Which then leads to you not being able to tell her personal things, which makes your relationship even worse (again, may not be true). And her punishing you for things your siblings are doing, that is completely wrong. If you haven't tried it, try getting her to see your point of view. Say something like, "I'm not trying to argue or make you mad, I'm just trying to express my opinion." Or just go behind her back. I tell my parents I'm reading on my tablet, when I'm actually playing games (I do sometimes read though). I also use the incognito browser, so I don't have to worry about deleting any search terms. I think that as long as you can manage school, health, and exercising regularly, you can have more screen time
Adult written by johnnyboi2019

Invite your mom to play videogames with you. That's what I did and now my mom and I are a pro gaming youtube channel. We've won 7 major Super Smash Bros. doubles tournaments. So yeah trust me it works.
Adult written by lostit

As a 13 year old I was allowed to play for hours , when my grand parents came over I was only allowed 1hr a day. Honestly I wish I had lived with them, in my mid 30s now and wasted the best years of my life behind a computer screen. She's doing it because she wants the best for you and loves you more than you'll know till you have your own kids. Go outside and play or go build some real Lego. You'll thank your mum when you're older.
Kid, 12 years old

If your kid is younger then 8 or 9, then barley any screen time should be allowed (movie time with family is ok) for it is easier to get addicted at a young age and are more likely to put up a fight when you ask them to get off. If your kid is over 8 or 9, then my doctor said up to 2 to 3 hours a day.
Teen, 14 years old written by starskies123

I believe my parents are outrageous because they only let me use my device on weekends and only for 30 minutes. Lol talk about asian parents. I just need someone to agree with me right now ;-;
Teen, 13 years old written by Owen.

thats bad but could you go to a libaray and use its wifi there insted because you parents dont pay for that wifi
Teen, 13 years old written by NoodleMai

Right, mine let me have it during the weekdays but my dad only gives me 2 hours out of the whole day then those hourglasses are there to mock me and it's so annoying...
Kid, 10 years old

It actually depends on maturity, not age. The more responsible a child is on the screen the more you can give.
Adult written by APPLEAndroid

As a teacher of many years I have observed a direct relationship between the amount of screen time children have daily and their ability to be successful in the classroom environment. As screen time increases success decreases. Specifically, children that have just an hour or more of screen time per day have shorter attention spans, stunted emotional intelligence, severe lack of relationship skills and more impulsive, dangerous and just rude behavior. Each year as screen time and the availability of media increases so do the previously mentioned negative behaviors. Parents stand up and do the right thing; disconnect from media and reconnect with people. Even so called social media and social gaming is not a replacement for human to human connection and interaction. My heart breaks when my middle school student fears for their little brother because he has “changed”, watches 3 screens at once and says they miss the way they used to play and interact AND they are afraid to tell their parents. The parents would get angry because they would have to get off of their phones. I hear story after story like this. Wake up before it’s too late.
Adult written by APPLEAndroid

As a teacher of many years I have observed a direct relationship between the amount of screen time children have daily and their ability to be successful in the classroom environment. As screen time increases success decreases. Specifically, children that have just an hour or more of screen time per day have shorter attention spans, stunted emotional intelligence, severe lack of relationship skills and more impulsive, dangerous and just rude behavior. Each year as screen time and the availability of media increases so do the previously mentioned negative behaviors. Parents stand up and do the right thing; disconnect from media and reconnect with people. Even so called social media and social gaming is not a replacement for human to human connection and interaction. My heart breaks when my middle school student fears for their little brother because he has “changed”, watches 3 screens at once and says they miss the way they used to play and interact AND they are afraid to tell their parents. The parents would get angry because they would have to get off of their phones. I hear story after story like this. Wake up before it’s too late.
Adult written by drewhuffman

I have an 8 year old boy who plays a ton of video games. Primarily Xbox. He spends 3-4 hours each school day and 5-6 hours on weekends playing. He is socializing otherwise and he school work is fine. Issue is he just wont stop playing without a monumental fight. My wife and I feel we are being way too generous with his time and should cut it half at a minimum. Looking for other perspectives.
Teen, 13 years old written by Owen.

you should give him a job or 2 and tell him this job has to be done before you get screens
Teen, 13 years old written by jakegamer531

Im in middle school and my parents let me play most days after school as long as i am getting good grades and i have finished my homework. I play xbox for around 2 hours a day
Teen, 13 years old written by FortniteFan

I play fortnite and my mom gives me normaly 1.5 hours for 3 days. I have good grades not a bad student and I like sports too. My other friends have more game time and their parents are OK with it!? They don’t even have good grades. Me and my friend go to a club to play more time of games but it isn’t enough, normally 1.5 also. Can anyone tell me do I deserve more game time and how to convince my mom IM NOT AN ADDICT, I just enjoy playing fortnite.
Kid, 10 years old

Try asking what your mom's worries are, then tackle them one by one.Try being extremely polite and proving through your actions that you're a responsible gamer. This may win over your mother.
Teen, 15 years old written by bondrzr

YOU NEED 10 HOURS A DAY TO BECOME A FORTNITE PRO, TELL UR MOM TO SHUT UP, u need to become the next ninja on the scene, the benefits completely outweigh the negatives. STOP SLACKING AND START PRACTICING FOR SOME SICK NICK EH 30 BUILDS.
Teen, 14 years old written by ryrycd

If your mom knows what Common Sense Media is, there is not much to do to convince her. Don't worry, the trend will die out in a couple of months.
Kid, 12 years old

My brothers are obseessed with screens and use it for like 7 hours each day. My parents are like too nice to make them get off, but they share my pain. I used to play with them and make forts but now im all alone and i pnly get to do that with my friends which i dont see as often. One of my brothers has been acting differently, and he is being really mean and constantly insulting me just because I tell them to get off screens. I try to give them space but im going crazy! Im even doing more screens just so i can hangout with them a bit. What should i do!?
Teen, 16 years old written by Troy_G

When asking them to hang out don't tell them to get off the screen, politely ask if they want to do something with you. If they say no try to make plans for when you guys can do stuff together. Try asking what they might want to do, or plan something simple like going to the park or tossing a ball around. It is important to give them space, but treating them like they have a problem won't help. Technology is not a drug and spending a lot of time on them is not an addiction! Try getting everyone together and finding common ground, limiting screen time isn't bad but enforcing a limit they don't agree with can make things worse. I cannot enforce this point enough, let them have input on your concerns!!! Your brothers aren't being controlled by tech, they just like using it.
Teen, 13 years old written by GravityMPS2

Honestly I think at least this kid in question finishes his homework every day, gets good grades and gets some physical activity during the day, I think like 2-3 hours, but on weekdays you won't really have much time to do screen time. And on the weekends sitting on the couch in front of the tv all day isn't good either, in my opinion if you have been doing screen time for more then a hour and a half you should go and do something else like twin or ride your bike, my mom gives my 2 hours every day, which of course I go over some times, but she only gets mad if thats all I have been doing all day. Most people seem to be saying that as long as you get As it doesn't matter, but just because your a star student doesn't mean you should let your brain rot while doing nothing all day except stare at a screen
Teen, 13 years old written by BaileyBoi

Okay. I'm a 13 year old currently, and I find my screentime generous, but limiting. I think that kids over the age of 12 should have as much screentime as they want, as long as they maintain an A average for grades. I am currently an A student, but I only get four hours. I find this ridiculous, as I actually use the internet to branch out and make new friends. I have friends in Romania, Denmark, The UK (All speak english) and we all have clashing schedules. I don't want to have to leave my friends because of a time frame. I enjoy spending time with them, and keep in mind, I'm not just talking to them, we're bonding over the experience of an activity. Summer should be unlimited. Kids shouldn't be limited on how much fun they can have, as long as they are mature.
Teen, 14 years old written by -_-_-_-_-_-_-_-

I’m actually in the same situation as you. I’m 14, I have great grades, I stay after school every day for clubs, and I have four hours of screen time. Honestly that’s generous, but I go to a school where students come from far away. Most of my friends live like an hour away, and I still have friends in different schools. Xbox is basically how we socialize. I’ve even tried reasoning with my parents but they say I’m being “punished” for my “attitude”. I always ask what attitude. They say “I doesn’t matter I told you last time”.
Teen, 13 years old written by FortniteFan

You have 4 hours everyday and I have 1.5 hours for 3 days. Be thankful for your mom, your lucky. (If u play fortnite here is my name: Dowell200)
Parent written by Kat T.

I think an appropriate amount of time for playing games on electronics should be the age in years + 0. So for a 4 year old, that's 40 minutes. For TV, limit it to one 30 minute episode or one movie per day. If the child is old enough for chores or homework, you can reward your child with more screen time after all the chores/homework has been finished. Using a computer for educational purposes like research and writing papers, should have no limits.
Teen, 13 years old written by Dhairya

See I’m a class topper all A+ and some A’snow I have turned 13 and everyday for an hour I study maths and another hour for other subjects mostly on weekdays my screen time is like 1 to 2 hours only.But on weekends my father shouts at me that you cannot play for more than 30 mins each day I think parents are correct we should do physical activity more than playing fortnite
Kid, 12 years old

I agree with the age for little kids but not for us "big" kids. I think the time for children should be based on age and grades. I'm a pretty good student but I usually only get 1 hour which I think is unfair and I see kids who are younger and get worse grades get way more time. I think there should be a graph on age and intelligence to tell us how much is good and fair.
Teen, 13 years old written by SunilSchoolReview

Apparently, it is 'the less time the better the schoolwork' as parents say. (I don't agree, I have 3 hours and I'm in Gifted and Talented.)
Parent of a 12-year-old written by dbowker3d

" I see kids who are younger and get worse grades get way more time." You know, there may be a connection there, right? Younger+much more screen time=worse grades. Obviously not always the case, but it may be because of the various limits you have that has helped you keep your grades up in the first place. That said- look for ways to compromise, like: add a chore which then gives you additional screen time.
Teen, 16 years old written by Troy_G

I agree an hour limit is too short but you have to keep in mind different parents raise their kids differently then how yours raise you. The best way to find common ground on a fair limit is to discuss it with them. They should consider your side too, not all teens/kids will be glued to screens if you let them but some if given absolute freedom won't handle their time well. Physical fitness and face-to-face socializing is good for kids, but time on a device can be spent well if managed properly. Try sitting down with your parents and have a sincere conversations with them, don't try to go from 1 hour to 5 straight away, ask for an extra hour or two and if they see you can handle extra time and still be productive they might give you more. Between 3-6 hours is a healthy limit I'd say, it may not seem like a lot but pretty soon you won't notice especially if you space out our time. Also, ask your parents if they want to go out and do something like go to the park or attend an event that's coming up. The more time you spend with your parents the better they'll feel about letting you spend time on the phone or computer.
Teen, 14 years old written by Brian Herbert

My mom is pretty chill but my dads like your going to rote your brain even though i have A and Bs + im still only aloud to have it for a hour on friday saturday my birthday and sunday. On suday it cant be 5-8 pm. ):
Teen, 16 years old written by Troy_G

Try talking to your dad about the limit he's given you. Sit down and have a sincere conversation and find a balance that you and him can agree on. A good goal to shoot for is between 3-5 hours and spend more time doing things with your parents, going out and doing something with them might make them feel better about giving you more screen time.
Parent of a 3-year-old written by She W.

Hi Parents, Me I just stopped my little one completely with screen and I can reassure that is more obeying and calm child. At school the teacher told me that she is a well discipline n well behave little girl. I had to do it because I notice she was becoming aggressive and she was also scared at night , she was doing nightmares etc...n weekend she was spending almost all day watching TV. I’m the one introduce her screen but then I notice it was too much , and when I start to take action big arguments with daddy till now we not talking. I just would like to say now I’m kind of regretting and thinking may b I was too much hard on her and I should let her watch her favorite « Mr Bean » but then what is she learning. Please give me ur opinion I did the right or wrong.
Kid, 10 years old

My mother thinks videogames affect my brain in bad ways yet its only a certain game that gets me fired up, I can bounce off the walls after playing ROBLOX but after playing madden or mlb the show I'm fine, And she says I'm not getting enough schoolwork in yet I'm getting the local school's standard, Should I tell her off? Should I just leave it?
Teen, 16 years old written by Troy_G

Do not tell her off! If she thinks spending too much time on technology is affecting your grades then just work harder on your schoolwork and maybe limit how much time you spend playing. If the work is hard for you try asking her, a teacher or a friend for help. Also, be sure to spend time with her outside of the house. There is a healthy balance for tech use and it's defiantly not an addiction nor does it guarantee bad performance in school!
Adult written by Samantha G.

I am a caregiver to a 3-year old boy, a 4-year old boy, and a 9-year old girl. I take care of the 3-year old during the day, while the other two kids are in school. I try to set limits regarding their screen time/content/duration, but the parents let them watch as much tv as they want. The 3-year old is impulsive. He doesn't concentrate on one thing at a time and he's practically bouncing off the walls if you let him. I believe that he's receiving to much stimulation from what he watches on tv, and not enough from other people/activities. When I play with him in his room, I turn the tv off, and that seems to help a bit with his behavior and attention. They also eat their meals in front of the tv because the parents let them. If I don't step in and monitor them during the day, then the tv will literally be on for hours and they will sit their and watch it for 4+ hours without a break. Are there any age appropriate activities or is there anything I can do to decrease their screen time, especially the little one? Their behavior and attention is greatly affected due to the excessive screen time. I just feel like there is nothing I can do because the parents are going to let them do whatever they want anyway.
Teen, 13 years old written by Wilpuh19

I would have a conversation with them but be very respectful and just find a way to tell them what is going on during the day. I would also try to ask the kids if they want to go do something else such as play a game, go outside, go to lunch, or go to they playground. I hope this makes everything better.
Teen, 14 years old written by ed21

My parents limit my brother's screen time to 30 minutes per day and he always goes over the top but they don't care if that was me i would get in big trouble
Parent of a 5-year-old written by Sarah K.

NEED HELP-my husband and I limit our 5yo sons tv time to 1-2 hours a day, including video game time. We both agree too much time in front of a screen turns him into hell on wheels. I sometimes feel guilty I don’t give him more but as his mother I see what it does to him. On Fridays and Saturday nights we do movie night with him: I guess my two questions are 1- how much time do others give their 5 yo And 2- how do we get my mother to respect our limitations with tv? 3 weeks ago she had him for the weekend- Saturday she let him play Wii for at least 5 hours straight and Sunday from 8am-530 pm she let him do nothing but watch tv. It took us the last 3 weeks to get him back to normal and she doesn’t think the tv has Any affect on him. She is the only grandmother out of 3 that doesn’t respect our wishes for tv/screen time. She will give him her phone or iPad for unlimited amounts of time then when he comes home to us his attitude and behavior is beyond out of control: any input from anyone? Feeling lost on how to get through to her
Parent written by Erin C.

Right up an iPad and screens agreement, discuss this with everyone in the family (with said grandparent ) and get everyone to sign it, yourself, husband, kids and grandparents. Kids are great at telling it how it is, if the grandparent in question can't respect the rules like everyone else, don't allow the kids to have sleep overs. We had a very similar issue and was only rectified after we all lived together for a short time, and they saw first hand the effect it had on our son. Good luck, stand your ground
Teen, 13 years old written by Som_90

As a 13 year old, I believe that your sons want more screen time. So experiment a little. See their limit to how much they can have before and explosion. Then go 20 mins under, the “buffer”. And on every birthday after, let them have like +1 hours than normal, then time at which point is when they go crazy. Minus 20 minutes, bam. Done, hope I could help.
Teen, 17 years old written by NeoSmith11

it sounds like your grandma knows what she's doing to me. 2 hours a day is simply not enough. If you want your child to actually respect your limits on screentime, you can't enforce rules that they had no part in making. try making a believable limit, like 2-3 hours a day, and one hour of tv.
Teen, 14 years old written by AldultishGambino

a good way to use screen time is to connect to real world activities for example Thomas the tank engine. When I was little I loved watching it and when my parents stopped me from watching more I wasn't unhappy because I could play with my Thomas tracks. If your kid isn't into thomas lego makes many T.V. shows.
Teen, 14 years old written by ed21

Hi, I think you are giving your child too much screen time my brother is 11 and only has 30 minutes a day ipad he doesnt even have a video console. When i was little i only had movies on Saturday nights. Personally I would bring him to a park a detoxicate him from the screen. I am advising you to give your child as little screen time as possible right now because it could affect his learning and future addictions in technology. I know that this is a growing world of technology but keep your child humane by limiting his screen time. Thats advice from me ultimately you decide what to do after all it is your child.
Parent of a 4 and 5-year-old written by Julie S.

I empathize greatly! Have you tried asking the grandparent to just experience one media free weekend with your child and then ask if she notices how different he acts? Maybe she could plan a nice outing with him. That is so disheartening when someone undoes all the hard work you have done as a parent! I also wanted to post this article link at the bottom about recommended screen time. Seems like these experts have done a lot of research. I have a four and a five year old. After reading the article, I plan to limit both to one hour (unless it is for education) a day, with the exception of the occasional family movie night. Will you keep us posted? Concerned as a fellow mom, J The link triggered a spam filter! Try going to tech and searching for “how much screen time for kids” The article recommends about an hour for a five year old and up to 2 hours for a six year old.
Kid, 10 years old

Make sure your kid balances screen time with other activities, such as sports, being with friends and family, and doing homework. When your kids get home from school, Make sure all homework is done before watching TV, and using tablets, computers, and smartphones, and don't let your kids have screen time before school. If your kid needs to use a device for homework, limit which devices, apps, and websites, Your kids can use. Once all homework is done, set a timer for how long your kids can be on devices, when the time limit is up, put your devices in a basket near a wall outlet where they can charge if they are low on battery, as for dinner, for after dinner, don't let your kids go on devices before bedtime because it won't be easy for them to fall asleep, and for bedtime, charge devices outside of bedrooms because devices make it harder to fall asleep.
Teen, 13 years old written by PeachyAngel

Depends on lifestyle. I go to an early high school and we need internet and screentime to do most of our work. If you go to a normal school then just look to see how your child reacts to the usage of their own free will at first. When I was 10-11yo I would get really aggressive when my time was interrupted, if that's the case then try to ease time off by finding other activities. I got a lot less angry over time (though it came back due to depression) which is also another thing. Being online too long can encourage isolation which in a lot of people I know developed depression so keep a look out for your kid's not acting like themselves.
Kid, 10 years old

I think that you shouldn't limit kids' screen time since in the future, people won't be writing but typing and using digital websites. But that doesn't mean that kids shouldn't read books and play outside. Reading and maintaining physical balance is very important.
Parent written by Jennifer T.

I do agree that it is very important nowadays to minimize or shorten screentime of our kids as they are very addicted to technologies and may spend lots of hours while watching inappropriate movies or playing cruel games. I am a mother and it is very important for me to also know that my son has no access to violent content. I've spent lots of time in order to find the way out and it seems to me that I've done that. I've found Kidslox app and with its help, I can make schedules for screen time usage for my son and also limit the use of devices as well as block inappropriate content he may reach. It's a very good way out for me as now I may decide what and when my son can watch and what apps may use.
Teen, 13 years old written by Bobtheblob

I think limiting screen time by hours is a bad idea, because there are very different purposes for the computer/phone/tv. Nearly all of my homework is online, we do flipped lessons where we will have to watch videos or documentaries online, sometimes there are class discussions, sometimes we submit assignments online. Our school has cut down on paper and so all writing assignments and handouts are in a shared folder per class. All in all, my homework ends up taking easily 2 and a half hours a day. On top of this, I read most books as ebooks, and when I am doing something like drawing I will find a picture to look at and draw from. If I am going to do a craft, I find a craft tutorial. There are a lot of mindless activities to be done online, and they should be allowed as well. It's okay to play computergames sometimes. By limiting screen time you are essentially taking this freedom away.
Parent written by Anne O.

I would like to know - it is a maximum of 2 hours total screen time that we should aim for?? I was looking for more specific guidance for Tweens and teens.
Teen, 14 years old written by FadedCrab

My mom(my dad doesn’t care much) limits me to no gaming/SM at all during the week and forces me outside, even though I mostly game with my friends that go to another school, and it’s the only way we can communicate, and it’s mostly the same for my social media, which I find to be unfair because I usually will play Minecraft or Madden/NBA
Teen, 13 years old written by Chiifox

If your kids are 13-17 I wouldn't be extremely strict with things like a set amount of computer time. Middle schoolers and high schoolers, especially near exam time or the middle of the year, get a lot of homework. If they are done studying and done with their work, most kids that age (including me) get about 4 hours of screen time max. If their work is done, etc I would just let them do what'd they like in their freetime be it video games, tv, etc, as long as it isn't porn or something. If your kids are like 8-12 then a limit of 3 hours a day is good, and on things like weekends you can do things like, if they do some chores or something like that they get extra screen time. If your kids are 5-7 then 1-2 hours a day is good. Anything under 4 years and other than something like a kids tv show, which most parents can easily monitor, there's no use for screentime. This is just my personal opinion based on what my parents have set rules for a few years ago.
Teen, 13 years old written by Movie- Book reviewer

I agree with everything you said except the part about if the kids do the chores they should get extra, I think it should be a set amount because what if they do so many chores that they get 10 hours or something that would be madness. i think including "isn't porn or something" no bad language for kids 12 and under and that if they are using youtube child lock is on. Bye!
Adult written by Janice T.

I never thought to try to understand my children's screen in terms of the actions they accomplish or how they engage with the device or the world. I think passive consumption should be ranked as the lowest type of engagement while content creation or communication should be ranked the highest. The danger in not allowing children to engage at all means they could be missing out on many of the nuances their friends and classmates will be fluent with. I believe there is a certain level of education we need to give our kids concerning online activity. That's why I created Mazu. It's a way for parents to safely introduce their children to social media in a way that helps them explore the positive side of technology. The insights in this article are so valuable and I hope this sort of writing continues as it is so important to the way we, as a society, are raising our kids.
Adult written by Tracey H.

My grandson and son live with myself and husband. My grandson plays video games that are not age appropriate. They are rated 12 years and 16 years on the games. Me and my son disagree on this! My grandson will be 7 years old in 2 months. I think he should be playing games in his age group and my son thinks I'm just being controlling but it really bothers me!! What should I do???
Adult written by Lynnae M.

Hi, I have a few thoughts that I hope will be helpful. 1. Most video game consoles give you the ability to turn on a filter that will filter out the excess gore (blood) and swear words. Talk to your son about that and see if you guys can compromise in that way. 2. What you are doing is being protective and guiding your grandson, but someone who doesn't agree can confuse the two and say you are being "controlling". I'd encourage you to print out some articles about how violence in video games affects kids and then set a time to meet with your son so that you can share your concerns with facts & statistics. I find that it's all too easy to be permissive about things that you just can't undo. A 7-year-old kid that is allowed to play overtly violent games will be a different kind of 14 yr old than a 7 yr old that isn't allowed to play those games, or isn't allowed to play video games AT ALL. I don't understand why parents all over the world just roll over and let their kids become addicted to this stuff. You can't join the army until you're 18. You don't see this real kind of violence unless you are an adult. So why are we letting our kids spend hours every day emersed in this stuff? Violent video games desensitize their minds. Childhood is for growth, creativity, and learning. Food for thought.
Teen, 17 years old written by CarissaK-baum

The American Academy of Pediatrics (SAP) recommends limiting screen time for elementary children to two hours per day. Screen time is anything that deals with a screen not a book. For example, computers, television, phone, iPad, and etc. It is the parents' responsibility to limit the children's screen time (Jago, Wood, Zahra, Thompson, & Sebire, 2015). The authors of, "Parental Control, Nurturance, Self-Efficacy, and Screen Viewing Among 5- to 6-Year-Olds: A Cross-Sectional Mediation Analysis to Inform Potential Behavior Change Strategies", share that the different types of parenting styles are related to screen time of the child. It is the parents' job to limit screen time. Also, it is more advised for the parents to focus on enforcing screen time limits on weekends and vacations, as opposed to week days; there is more unstructured time on weekends versus week days.
Adult written by rose r.

It should a decision made by both the parent and child. No child should feel like they are out of place with their clasmates and friends, nor should the parent feel like social media is the only contrubting factor in a kids life. If your kid isn't throwing tantrums or shutting the parent out, you're doing a pretty stellar job of finding the perfect balance.
Teen, 13 years old written by Rowandaly

Hi, im in year 8, and i honestly use gaming for being with friends, whether it be impressing with my 'levels' or playing online with them. As such, i can spend a good 3 - 4 hours on a weekend playing games, or watching videos that interest mne such as youtube hobbies etc. I would much rather, however, go somewhere new, or do any activities rather than gaming, especially if friends are involved. I have asked around, and many people agree with me, so i have reason to believe that gaming is not so much of an addiction as a hobby to do in spare time, as is TV watching, which i usually do with family. As such, gaming is just a pastime, almost always to communicate with others, improve statistics to show others, or watch others doing things. So, some games and videos are good, with good intentions, communicating things that can be used in life, so not all of gaming is violence, and this can be known with the ratings. Overall, with most people, outside activities, especially with other friends, are highly preffered, especially if in new or exciting places. If, however, a child is addicted to a game, they may forget the excitement of outside, and think that the game is better than life. How to fix this is: 1. DO NOT FORCE THEM OUTSIDE! This will make them feel in a terrible mood and they will not enjoy the outing. 2. Try and get some of their online or school friends to meet them at the area, or make it sound great, but DO NOT keep talking about it! 3. gently keep pointing out things that can be better than gaming, over a period of weeks, and explain why, or just start a day electronic free. The best way i would say is inviting friends over, and i hope this helps some people :) Hope its useful!!!!!!!! Rowan
Teen, 13 years old written by Takoda Nicetin

Hey I have about 1hours time on electronics on weekends. On holidays the same rule applies. Is it healthy to have over 1 hour? I'm a pretty good student and my parents make me study about 4 hours a day. I'm in year eight
Teen, 13 years old written by Rowandaly

Its perfectly fine to go over 1 hour for the whole of the weekend! It looks like you study a lot so must have great grades, but video games dont put down your grades as long as you know when to stop! I play plenty of video games and still get A's, so i have reason to thnk that video games and grades are not connected, unless video games are played too often or homework/studying not done enough. Finally, well done for 4 hours a day of work! Thats fantastic! Be sure to know though that you can play more ngames and still be perfectly fine. Rowan
Parent of a 5, 10, and 15-year-old written by Gina D

Yes I agree with the teens here. honstely u guys are really just blaiming. My 2 older kids are left to there own devices online, but after 2 or 3 hours of sceerns, i ask them to stop. My 15 year old owns a pink kid's carema with games on it and a ipad plus she is allowed to use the family computer and ipad pro , my 10 year old has a ipad, a phone and my old laptop and is allowed to use the family coumpter and ipad pro and my 16 yo has a Ipad Mini, two laptops (My parnter's old one and a new one)and a phone. (plus being allowed to use the family coumpter and ipad pro as well ) I own a Windows phone and my parnter owns a iphone 7, my teenage daughter owns a black iphone 6S plus, my 10 yr old owns a white iphone 6 plus, and my five year old does not have a phone. i also own a ipad pro and we own a family ipad pro, a family computer and we used to own a family Samsug tablet insted of ipad pro but my 5 yo old daughter dropped it on the floor . We all have apple laptops expet my 16 yr old and the family computer is a imac also. At work my husband has a PC, a lennvo laptop and a ipad mini. My 16 yo has a Windows laptop and a samug laptop, and we have a LG tv with apple tv with games installed. all family members are allowed tv. so anyway our family have lots of screen! but i storngly belive that if you use these methods, u will hav happy, heathly life! My five year old princess's weekend is like this: Sat: We get up, have breakfast, ( which is usually heathly ) then i take my 10 yr old to hip hop and in the car my baby plays with her stuffed animals, and while this my 16 yo goes out with freinds, or stays in her room and snapchats or dms on instagram or's her freinds, or goes to her boyfreinds, ( who is 17 yo) house or to her freind's house. My 5 yr old plays with her toys , plays on our smart TV or her ipad or carema till lunch which i make or we get takeaway. on the days we get takeawy i do housework or check my social media or watch a rom-com . then i pick up 10 yo and give her some lunch, then she usually reads her books or her kindle. ( she and her daddy have kindles) or she plays on her ipad or snapchats her freinds, and after lunch my 5 yo plays on screen or toy. The next day (sunday ) we 10 and 5 both have ballet, then 10 yo has flute lessons at her tutor's house, and she goes to her friend (who is 11's) house after and they do art and play on the coumpter together. 5 yo goes to swimming and then comes home and ethier plays on her carema or wacthes tv then my 10 yo comes come and Dms, drectily. ly and snapchats her friends, while this my 16 yr old does what she wants really, then it's getting ready for bed.' lov, ADoglover5
Teen, 17 years old written by theblobbyco

Yeah I agree stop blaiming teens!!! We should be allowed to be social, isn't that what adults are always encouraging us to do anyways?! Being on screens doesn't even influence us, so whats the big deal about not letting us be on them?? And having social medias actually makes you more social because you are doing stuff like snap chatting your friends. And all those like parental guidance things telling you all the reasons why you shouldn't let your kids have screens, social media, watching "age appropraite" movies, and stuff like that is completely wrong, thats not how we think at all, and all those things make us really annoyed.
Teen, 13 years old written by IGN GAMING

I just read this whole page and it was all about people talking about screen time or blaming things on screen time even now over 90% of you are doing this because of your bad parenting.
Parent of a 9 and 12-year-old written by Twoshews

Thank you for the guidelines. As a parent, we want to protect our kids but I also want to embrace their passions and if it's technology then so be it. I struggle a lot with how much time to allow them. I would vary between 30 to 1 hr a day, which probably doesn't allow for much creativity or play time (but really 1 hr is enough time to have fun on a game, right? At least to me it is). I expect chores and school work to be done before rewarding with computer time. It's when they reward themselves before any work has been accomplished that I have problems with. I'd love to sit down and read or write and hope someone else makes dinner but that's not gonna happen. If my kids are responsible with their duties I don't see why they can't enjoy themselves online. My boys have other interests like BMX, scooter, drones and Nerf that takes them out of the house. So, spending an 1 hr or two online should be fine. OH, and their chores have to be done correctly and not half way or sloppy.
Kid, 10 years old

About the fun game within 1 hour being a kid, YOUR WRONG TWOSHEWS due to the fact it takes like 3 hours for anything of mine to START UP EVEN.
Kid, 11 years old

My parents limit me to 45 mins. a day on the weekdays. On the weekends they make me earn my minutes by doing chores, sports, etc. I think kids should have at the most, 2 hrs. on the weekdays. On the weekends, I don’t think they should have a limit as long as they have gotten some physical excercise and studying in. Just my opinion.
Teen, 14 years old written by -_-_-_-_-_-_-_-

I couldn’t agree more. I play a lot of rainbow six siege. And if you play that game you know it takes like twenty minutes to load, then about five minutes to find a game, several loading screens in between rounds, and I’m using up my “screen time” during all of this.
Teen, 15 years old written by student2048anonymous

I'm a freshman in high school and I never even had a phone until maybe half way through 8th grade. This was really different from everyone else around me and I have found it difficult to connect with people and stay in touch with those who I was close to but who went on to different schools. Even when I got a phone, my parents restricted it so I couldn't even access the Internet in any way and I could only text people. Now, everyone seems to only use Snapchat, and I don't have a phone that can use it. I also have 30 minutes on the computer for non-homework activities and 1 hour of the same on Saturday and Sunday. On my PlayStation, I usually only have a total of 2 hours from Friday through Sunday and none on the week. Working with my iPad for school, I find that it is easy to get distracted which is hard when my parents make me sit in a certain chair so they can watch everything I do (I don't believe anyone else my age has a rule like this). In the end, though there is no major downside to my parents making these rules, I would prefer having a little more freedom since I am a very good student. Parents should decide what the rules are but how the kid behaves away from tech, and how everyone else is using it should be significant factors.
Adult written by Serena C.

When I was growing up my mother made me read an hour to gain an hour of video games. I believe that this is the most positive, and easiest thing a parent can do to ensure kids are well rounded. If they want to play more than an hour then they have to read more -- it is that simple.
Adult written by Harlene G.

Raising tweens in a media-saturated society is a major digital parenting concern. But how much screen time for tweens is recommended? Here is a guide on how to encourage your tween to reduce his or her screen time. Watch your own screen time You may think that your tween isn’t paying attention to your media habits but they do. The time you spend texting, using social media or keeping your smartphone beside you while having dinner becomes their personal media habit. As a parent, you should learn to watch your own screen time. Be your tween’s role model by not texting while driving, spending too much time on social media, and turning your smartphone off while eating. Practice what you preach and your children will follow. Set rules about their screen time Limiting your tween’s screen time may sound harsh to them, but it will help them regulate their media use. It’s also better to discuss media rules with the family. It’s important to get your tween involved when setting these rules. Create a media schedule which works for them. Formulate guidelines on what they can watch or listen online. Teach them how to pick the right apps and search the Internet properly. These will teach your tween the value of self-regulation and digital literacy. Also, this gives you an insight on their interests and schedule a media day with the family. Read more at
Kid, 11 years old

Honestly, I would have to agree. But there can be a limit. I would say about talking to your child and seeing what they like to do with technology, then talking with them to make a limit. For example, they might like watching Television and playing video games. Well, you could say that there could be 2 -3 hours watching TV, And 1 hour playing video games. It's all about the balance. I myself say, OK well I have done a bit on this why don't i go do this! And don't forget to set a good amount of time outdoors or just physical activities. If your child has asthma like i personally do, monitor their play and NEVER i repeat NEVER let them play for more than half and hour in humid hot air if they have asthma. In addition to all these factors, you should: Let them play online or watch TV on a schedule, have them play outside or play a physical activity indoors, and to keep these things balanced.(By the way, it says i'm 11 i'm not yet I am 10 that is inaccurate.)
Teen, 14 years old written by xTurtle

You really should just let the kid(s) play. As long as they show little to no fluctuation of performance in school, or emotion, mental or social health, then their fine. I play no more than 3 hours a day, and I show almost no fluctuation in school (at least the learning part). I have parents which make me do EXCESSIVE homework on the weekends, it doesn't help. If I know something in any subject, and do practice and do it fluently and nicely and efficently, then there is no reason to continuosly work on that skill. That time can be used to work on other skill aswell. Don't ever take the children's game console away, it really ruins the fun for any family related activity anyways. If I took it away, then my children, (if I even had any) would just be down on family night because they miss the console or computer or phone. 2 to 3 hours is a good INTERACTIVE MEDIA limit. Do not enforce time limits for normal media intake. Understand your children's grades. If they are getting bad grades because they didn't turn in their homework, then be sure their school bags and binders are organised by the dividers. If they get bad grades due to not understanding the skill, then let them try to fix it first, then if they don't improve, jump in, but only help them with what they need to do to achieve the goal. Do not give them answers, that's a false grade. The only reason I'm on my computer alot is because there is nothing to do. And you will say, do homework, study your math, go outside! This gets them down even more. Let them play, and they will eventually make time for playing outside. Be the example. You really can't tell them get off your phone, if you're on yours all day. Don't enforce anything to complex, and you will have a great time with your kids grades, and their time management =)
Kid, 10 years old

What I think ( since I never play on any thing with a screen in it, is that a kid should spend NO LONGER THAN 1 HOUR. You can reward your children and say" well... If you don't play on iPad or iPhone for one hour, I will let you play on your iPod or phone or iPad for 15 minutes " So if your child does not play for an hour , he or she gets 15 mins of free time : 2 hours - 30min
Teen, 14 years old written by jayturtle

So, as you said you never use anything with a screen in it, you wouldn't quite understand that an hour is not nearly enough time. It's how you incorporate electronics throughout your day in a balanced pattern that matters. Don't shove all the time into one slot because that makes it easier to constantly have your face in your elections when you have more time because you are used to having to use your electronics all at one time or not at all.
Parent of a 3 and 9-year-old written by Holly B.

My fiance and I have a 3 yr old daughter and he has a 9 yr old son from a previous relationship. The 9 yr old has never been around much in the 5 and half years ive been with him due to temporary court orders and the child's mother being noncompliant. She recently got sentenced to 3 years in prison so he is now living with us. His mother let him play the Xbox from the moment he got up to the moment he went bed (weekends and summer) and after school till bed during school days. So, when he moved in with us 4 months ago he continued this same routine, which i was absolutely against. What is difficult is my fiance doesn't see it as a problem and if I try and enforce it to hard im the "evil step mother" says his son, which will not sound good in court when we go for full custody orders. I'm stuck and dont know what to do, my fiance and I continue to fight and argue about daily and it is taking its toll.Him and my fiance like to say ehat else is he suppose to do? He has books to read and flash cards (he struggled deeply with reading and math ) so what's wrong with spending time doing these things? Apparently everything is wrong with it, we have colored pencils, markers, crayons, paper, etc to draw with, tons of hotwgeel cars (which he claims he loves) we have a basketball court right outside, a bike, horseshoe game, soccer ball, kick ball, etc, but he has nothing else to do but play video games from the time he gets up at 7am till bed time at 11pm, 10 during school. He even ears his breakfast, lunch, dinner and snacks so fast i swear he is swallowing it whole so he can get back to his xbox, but I'm a bad person for suggesting its a problem, according to my fianceand his son. We even seen a family counseler who repeatedly said that 3 hrs a day tops is enough, but that lead to nothing. The 9 yr old likes to point out that I let my 3 yr old play on her tablet alot (def not from 7 till11) but when she is on she is playing learning games to help with words, colors, shapes, countinv, abc's, etc. Along with YouTube videos with nursery rhymes and such thinvs that are helping her learn so much, meanwhile the 9 yr old is playing grand theft auto, call of duty, left for dead, etc. (all of which I will point out are rated M for mature as im sure most of you know) so nothing in those games is teaching him anything good. When we go to the store, in the car, or doing anythinv else all he talks about is his video games. When he is playing he doesn't hear anything around him, or chooses not to listen, he does hyperactive things such as bang the coffee table door open and closed with his foot, repeatedly, apparently w.o even realizing he is doing it, gets an attitude when our 3 yr old is "playing her toys to loud" he complains his eyes hurt after hours of staring at the tv and e even gets VERY angry when a game doesn't go his way. This is turning out to be a rant, but it's all built up and i dk what the heck to do becuz im. A horrible person for even mentioning this is a problem. Am I being crazy? Becuz i find it hard to believe that all of this is ok and I'm making a big deal about nothing.
Adult written by rose r.

Point out the downsides of non stop screen time. Their is always a consequence for bad behaviour and it doesn't necessarily have to be enforced, the kid maybe needs an eye opener of the whats going to happen if this situtaion continues.
Kid, 12 years old

Hi, No, you are not being crazy. That is really excessive screen time and you're not making a big deal out of nothing. This sounds like a big problem and you are definitely doing the right thing by trying to change it. You might consider buying some new games like Minecraft that actually are pretty creative and are not rated M. Another thing you could do is have a contest. The whole family can have a contest over lets say, one week, and whoever spends the least amount of time on the screen gets to pick somewhere to go for dinner or something like that. It might work and if it doesn't, try to ease him slightly out of the routine. My guess is he plays about 6-7 hours a day including school, so you can have a schedule. Here could be a small example 7:00-Wake up 7:30-Breakfast 8:00-Leave 3:00- HW 4:00-Study time 5:00-Free time 6:00-Dinner 6:30-Family time 7:00-Free time 9:00-Bedtime I'm sorry that you are having a hard time. I really hope your issue is resolved by now. I really hope that this helps and I'll pray for you daily.
Adult written by Loretta L.

Hi Holly, I am sending my comment to you long after you posted them. Sounds like your step son could benefit from spending some family time. I encourage you to invite him to do activities with you and his dad. I think it is very clear that what is happening is not good for him. Some time required off of it and some other activities required would be good for him. All the best. I pray this young fellow can get the support he needs to quit and do real life things, otherwise things will be very difficult for him as he gets older. Wishing you the best.
Teen, 14 years old written by jayturtle

If it's becoming that big of a problem I'd say to compromise and maybe get more academic games for the Xbox. Something atleast somewhat helpful and not brain rotting.
Adult written by Michele M.

Dear Holly B., You definitely have a challenge. I do not envy your position. I have three children and none of them used electronics until they were nearly 9. And then it was extremely limited time and content. It was VERY hard; it took a lot of my time and my attention. However, what it did teach them was how to entertain themselves. Because there is a great deal of science supporting limiting screen time - it is different for different ages, but not by much, I suggest that you use technology and search the studies about screen time and its effect on children. Once you have that information and really understand it, sit down with your fiance and go over it. It will never work if you two are not united. Come up with a plan of screen time use. I warn you that it may take some time to whittle down the hours - cold turkey probably won't work. The next part is probably up to you. Find things that you and/or your fiance can do with the kids. This is the hard part: the dishes will have to wait, the laundry will have to wait; dinner may have to be sandwiches or something else easily prepared. This will require your time WITH them; save the screen time for when you cannot be with them. Have them start helping you prepare dinner - your daughter will probably love it, the 9 year old maybe not so much. Find other things that you can do WITH them. That is the ticket to success. You will probably find that you enjoy the time with the kids as much as they do (eventually anyway). This will also allow you the opportunity to find and do things that your fiance's son enjoys (besides screen time). It sounds as though he will thrive under the positive influence you will have on him. But remember that if you are in this relationship for the long haul, you will have to be patient with both your fiance and his son. Every time there is resistance, be sure to bring up the science that supports limiting the screen time and remind them that you care and want the best for them. Good luck.
Teen, 14 years old written by cozybuilder

I'm sorry but I must disagree. I personally have been gravitate a towards common digital media items my entire life. I used these to compensate for my lack of physical meetings in the real world. Restricting these is like restricting your child from understanding the modern world. I can see why you are skeptical of items like these, but nevertheless they are becoming to much of a key item in the modern era. Falling back on sciences that point out a "healthy" amount of screen time is not a valid arguement for someone who either: reads consistently more than the amount of time you are letting said person use an electronic, consistently uses an electronic for the amount of time you are letting said person use and electronic, or just someone with strong eyes and a good attention span. I've even done research on myself. My attention span over the course of a year drastically increased, I can focus on items better, and I have never had a headache in the past year or so. As such I think I have proven my arguement and I would hope you take my words into account. Thank you.
Kid, 10 years old

hi i play video games i get 8 hours a day i get 2 hours on tv,4 hours on video games,2 hours on my phone.I get A's and B's . on my free time is sometimes play pokemon and go outside to ride my bike.
Parent of a 10, 13, and 14-year-old written by mommy king

Hi and thank you! I'm a mother of three children and really appreciate your words. I was googling how much time on xbox is too much for my 13 year old son and came across your post. It was very well written by the way. I would encourage you to share this with your parents. Just from personal experience, something written goes a long way with me. I'm often distracted with what I'm doing, another person talking to me, my texts going off, or just my mind wandering on what I should cook for dinner. Just an idea for you:)
Teen, 14 years old written by Umnothing

The only reason why I use technology so much, is because they isn't really anything than piques my interests at home. My parents are often busy, and the only time I get to spend with them are going out on walks, which honestly gets really boring if it's the same route all the time. If you take me swimming, then sure! I'm all for it, I could probably end up spending 4 hours at the pool if you'd let me. What I'm trying to say is, maybe stop focusing on how much time your kid spends using electronics, and try focusing on how you could shorten it. You could probably take them *anywhere* that remotely interests them and they'd have a blast without the screen. You see, everyone's looking at technology the wrong way. Kids use technology as a way to occupy themselves when there is nothing to do. If your kid spends most of his/her time texting or calling his/her friend, chances are, they probably want to see them in real life. So why not take them to said friends house? They could go jump on the trampoline or play hide and seek. Also, try to see everything in your child's eyes. It would help a lot if you'd try to understand each other rather than argue and ignore each other. If your kid sees you as some sort of dictator, they would probably start to resent you. That could lead to misbehaviour and a strain in your relationships. No one said having kids was going to be easy, which is why no matter how long it takes, you should always be patient with your child.
Parent of a 7 and 9-year-old written by Ama B.

Hi! I am a mom of two girls (9 and 7) and I really appreciate your comments on this specific subject. Your reply has been by far the most positive and encouraging I've read. Thank you so much for taking the time to explain your point of view!
Teen, 13 years old written by Charlie231

I spend about 3 hours a day playing video games or watching television on weekdays and at least 7 hours on weekends, I am in perfect health and get mostly B's in school i also hangout with my friends regularly. Parents/guardians who think that video games lead to you get bad grades and having a bad social life are wrong. Most teenager's or kids who play video games or watch tv quite often are fine! There isn't any difference between us playing video games or doing any other activities, it's just something we do for enjoyment.
Teen, 16 years old written by Benblackwell

My parents let me play only 2 hrs which sucks because most of my friends live too far away to just drive over to hangout so that's the only time I get to spend with them during the day and plus they play longer and as a result I always have to hear about all the cool stuff they do while my parents are too strict
Teen, 15 years old written by tesfa too saucy

On the weekdays I am on the computer for about 2 hours a day doing homework, watching YouTube and playing steam games On the weekends and holidays/summer I am on my phone and computer for a combined 7 hours a day. I still go to the gym to work out with my friends 2 hours every single day if I can find time I play basketball everyday and study over the summer not only that I finished the year with a 3.95 gpa. My parents have learned to trust me and it's a win win so far.It's all about balance
Teen, 13 years old written by 13yearoldperson

you might think 6 hours but i have a software that add all my hours up on technology not just video games so that is good even texting people and calling
Teen, 13 years old written by 13yearoldperson

I am 13 I was playing lots and i mean lots of video games/screen time i am cutting off on holidays used to do like 13 hours now max 6 and i time myself that is 6 of screen time and my parents were worried i had no social life but i was very active i did a sport every day but in my spare time i would play video and i was not the best at school i am not blaming my add and dyslexia but now i got new friend and they have changed my life i go with them out my other friend were a extremely bad influence and now i am getting stronger C- mostly B and cupple A i used to fail half of all my subjects and i have a new life
Parent of a 10-year-old written by simonl1

We are in agreement with Steve Jobs - 30 min weekdays and 2 hours per day on the weekend and holidays. With 4 kids we've got a handful of devices so we went to technology to help us -and started using Safe Lagoon. So this app allows me to schedule, monitor IM (Whatsapp, Viber, Skype) and as well as block xxx content and GPS tracking. We took a subscription and I think we're getting a lot of bang for the buck. My life got easier and my kids are really calmer.
Adult written by Dad2Girls

I read that Steve Jobs, one of the creators of these technologies only allowed his kids 30 Minutes per weekday and 2 hours on weekends. My daughter hates me for this but when she is on the phone she is a different person and when she is off the phone she actually seems more relaxed knowing she can't answer snapchats constantly. Kids, you have to learn to communicate with friends without this. Just sit and talk and play outside or inside like you used to. Read. It's amazing when you get a great book. These phones will make you nervous wrecks, they will take over your life. Tell your friends you are only on for 30 minutes a day and to send only things that are worth it. It's almost ridiculous the things people send when they use all of their time for this and nothing else.
Teen, 14 years old written by -_-_-_-_-_-_-_-

@Dad2Girls. I understand what you’re saying. I prefer face to face interactions however most of my friends live far away and I only see them at school, in fact a lot of my friends don’t even go to my current school. Xbox is an alternative. Me and several close friends can talk and catch up. That’s why I disagree with my parents limiting my screen time. Also are you guys always getting the “are you a robot” quizes when posting a comment. It’s annoying. Please CSM, if you’re reading this please remove it. How many robots care if children have screen time limits?
Teen, 13 years old written by Leevaii

I'm 13, female, and I absolutely love video games. Summers from Monday-Thursday about 4 hours a day...Friday-Sunday about 8 hours a day...AND YET I exercise a lot and I'm pretty sure I'd be called the "lean" type. I play piano a lot, and I also study over the summer. In the school year, I maintain straight A's. That's the life ;)
Adult written by dawnpatton

I am curious if there is a sensible way to pull back on screen time. I feel that I've let my children watch and play on their tablets too much. What should I do?
Teen, 15 years old written by pop

I am 14 years old and on a weekend I can easily get 15 - 20 hours in the whole weekend
Teen, 13 years old written by am6

As a 13 yr old boy I spend no more than 1-1.5 hours a day on a school night with my tablet, PS3, and the TV. Maybe less. On a weekend, no more than 3 hours a day.
Teen, 13 years old written by ChloeAndCommonSense

We do how ever much time they spent on Homework that day is how much time they get on The TV, games etc. We are homeschooling that is. :)
Teen, 14 years old written by num111

In my opinion it varies of what you do online. I mostly use my computer over 3 hours a day, but I mostly chat with my friends, code or do something that improves my intelligence or my social skills. as long that you are doing something that can benefit you in other topics, i would not limit screen time as long as it does not harm your health.
Teen, 14 years old written by xX_4206921_Xx

I'm 14 and I spend about 2 hours on school days and 16 hours on the weekend or holidays but this is not for everyone. Basically the sufficient amount depends on whether you're healthy and getting good grades (I am lean and get straight A's so it's fine for me.)
Teen, 16 years old written by RenegadeDUDUDU

I am 13 years old (screwed up my birthday xD) and spend around 3.5 hours a day playing video games (may vary) and most of the other time (3hours) on my iPad. Obviously it depends if I have homework or sports and such. I maintain straight A's in most subjects and find that technology is VERY useful. Honestly, if you are smart enough to manage your time with playing video games and doing homework, you deserve to play. Of course, if you are getting bad grades, this is an ENTIRELY new scenario but as long as you are careful, you should be fine.
Teen, 13 years old written by CleverApple

This is very interesting especially the opinions. I think maybe half an hour on weekends and when homework is done on weekdays maybe half an hour. I have a strict screen policy like this and I don't think it's having an affect on my life in fact I like it because I have a lot of free time and am not being lured into a screen all day. And kids shouldn't get so much screen time they don't know how to entertain themselves.
Adult written by tclem271

I would limit screen time to 2 or 3 hours because it is bad for your eyes you would need to get outside and I would not allow it until homework is done
Teen, 13 years old written by Snow9012

Honestly, screen time may be okay for a little but its best not to let children become phone addicts like half of my school. I hardly use my phone and don't have anything else besides my laptop. I feel kids should never rally rely on their games and electronics to make friends or have a social life. Children become more likable when there talking to someone face to face rather than phone to phone or face to phone. Though it is good to let your child learn the digital age of this new generation too young could turn your child into a virtual zombie. The worst is when you don't even know what your child is doing on their electronic. ( Note: though its not good for to much time, don't keep your child locked up from the electronics or completely limit what their allowed to do. Instead try to get them interested in other things such as reading or a sport).
Teen, 13 years old written by universitysimple

I believe the issue is what the child is doing on the screen, not the screen time. I play games/watch YouTube for a total of around 5 hours a day. I rarely use my phone for texting or any forms of social media. I'm not a fan of social media to be honest. I'm in advanced classes and have As in each class. I'm a hothead, but that doesn't come from playing video games. If I were to quit playing my games, I would lose plenty of friends I have made online, some of which I am very close with. I'm not obese, rather skinny actually, and also engage in other activities. Unless your child is unhealthy , looking at things not appropriate for their age, or completely obsessed with media, I see no reason why you should limit the scree time.
Adult written by isaaclee

how much screen time minors should use varies. If a minor needs alone time, technology isn't really a good idea. if your kids use games a lot, why not just buy one. every kid shouldn't have one for themselves, especially tv. you wont believe how many parents let their kids have their own playstations and tv. you only need one. but monitor your kids academic success because if kids fail their classes, there is no need to let them play games.
Kid, 11 years old

Well i would say 5 hours a day max and 2 hours minimum. You see staring into a screen causes eyestrain as a result it can cause migraine (very nasty headaches) it defiantly ruined my summer.
Teen, 13 years old written by Randomanatee

I am a MASSIVE gamer and a super nerd and I think sometimes gaming and electronics can get in the way of my homework. But we Teens need some alone time (as most of us are going through big emotional and physical changes) so that we can get a grip on life. I think one think that has really started my love for technology is my social anxiety (yes i am clinically diagnosed) where I am quite antisocial and prefer to play video games instead of going out with friends. I still do very well in school (B's and up) but its just my homework situation that is going down. Parents should be watching how much time their kids spend, but not restricting it completely because we need alone time. TL;DR Teens need time to unwind and get a grip on life, so don't restrict electronic time completely, just be a bit flexible, and adjust to the homework/schoolwork situation of your kids .
Kid, 11 years old

i will be totally honest. i spend the majority of my time on youtube, wattpad, google docs, skype and the sims. it is definitely time consuming because you can get pretty into it. even with all this time spent on the internet, i remain doing an above average job in school and weigh an average weight for my age and height. the only problems i have are lack of sleep (actually because of my mild insomnia) and social anxiety (which is not caused by my amount of screen time because before i had this much, i had anxiety). because of my screen time, i don't get outside very much but still maintain a healthy weight because of my vegetarian diet. also, the things i go on can actually benefit me. wattpad allows me to read books based on the fandoms i am in that actually interest me, google docs allows me to write stories in the typing fashion i feel more comfortable with, skype allows me to talk to my two best friends when we can't see each other in person and the sims allows my inner creativity to be let loose. if it weren't for the screen time i've had, i wouldn't know as much as i do today. and another thing, my physical health is perfectly fine.
Teen, 14 years old written by GlobalCritics

As long as i can remember, this is pretty true. Kid's spend far too much time on the PC or Tablet, IPhone, etc. and even i spend too much time texting with my friends, but there is a way to fix this, I limit myself, to as much as 3 hours, to as little as 1 hour, depending on what i am doing. I used YouTube a lot aside from texting, but now i use YouTube for educational purposes only. I also used to play online games, such as Roblox, Minecraft, and the others, i quit those, which is the path to sucsess. So, if you can take my message in good way, that would be nice, and you should follow my path. ~GlobalCritics~
Adult written by leod

Most kids like to watch TV a kid should have at least an hour of screen time to help show them Conflict and Problem solving ability every parent says it rots your brain but honestly TV isn't bad for you it's just that most parents will look at TV and say no
Teen, 13 years old written by Minkah

In my houses no one is allowed screen time during the week to allow us to focus on our school work. On each day of the weekend we are allowed 2 hours of media time, this does not include kindle reading. Reading is very important in the family and reading benefits everyone. Sometimes we just sit around reading together. Writing on a laptop is also ok before bed or during the day.
Teen, 13 years old written by johnl621

3 or 4 hours on the week end and on school day 2 or 1hour and 30 min just because i think kids need to take a break and go and watch tv and fun time
Parent written by Jayce8654

My 10, and 7 year old sons have grown up in an era of vast technology. They have had too much screen time at times. It varies a little if its a special day. My 10 year old has been in front of a computer on occasion or everyday since he was 1. Its to each his own, eye of the beholder in my opinion. However, my 10 year old in 5th grade reads and does math 3 grades ahead and my 7 year old 2 grades ahead in both. I am not saying the computer, tablets, xbox, etc. have made any impact to the positive nor negative; just facts. They are also very very well behaved. No problems at school. I make them take turns with a video game and time them 15-20 minutes at a time, so it breaks it up and they might get 2 turns like this; or 3-4 if its a snow day from school, or what it may be. As a father I monitor what they watch, and play as far as video games, and I feel its my job to determine what is ok for them. Great grades, good behavior, and all around great kids, I let them play screen time a bit too much, so sew me eh? I do think all children are different. So you must as a parent gauge your childs level of maturity and intelligence as for each show or videos game and screen time. I also have a almost 3 year old daughter, she watches a lot of tv, sometimes. Peppa Pig, and PBS shows and my favorite BabyFirst on DirectTV. Though I also monitor and limit her time as I do with the boys; I am a bit more lax when it comes to my princess. But, it is the same situation, she is so intelligent the daycare workers say she should be in Kindergarten ASAP. She counts extraordinarily well, known her ABC's for a year now, and overall is more articulate and knowledgeable then most 4-5 year olds. Again, just facts. Screen time did not make my kids geniuses; My Wife probably deserves most of the credit; reading books, and playing with them hands on from a very early, early age. To the good of children. Thanks
Adult written by leod

15-20 Minutes isn't enough time for them to finish a show, If you stop them right in the middle of a show it will just make them want it even more.
Parent of a 6, 9, and 12-year-old written by Rocky1lingo2

My three children are at different stages but all love tablets, Xbox, PC and TV. My 3 are are allowed to have access to these within reason after homework, dinner and any chores throughout the week including school nights but rather than try to monitor and limit 3 people's time i decided that every week on Tuesdays and Thursday no one is allowed on any type of computer or console. At a rough guess they probably spend 1-2hrs on the days they are allowed. They know the rules on Tuesday and Thursdays, these are the set days and they never hassle me about it, they go off, do other things, play games, read, draw and this seems to work really well in our house. I don't limit at weekends as long as homework is completed but my eldest still spends more time on it at weekends than the younger two as they always have friends invites, parties and school event happening. I use to worry a lot about how much time they were on these but I definitely find it easier to manage having agreed with them clear set days off. I haven't got time for a daily debate and chasing them to get off the computer and all the arguments is causes. This works really well in our house and makes it a lot less stressful than some of my friends households.
Parent of a 10 and 14-year-old written by annern

I have 2 sons, a a 10 yo who is "neuro-typical" and a 14 yo who is "neuro-atypical" and very immature (he has mild Aspergers and severe ADHD) . The family rule is a tablet/computer screen time limit of 1 hour on weekdays and 1-2 on weekends depending on how things are going. T.V time can be an additional hour if all h.w. is done. Following these limits are really really tough for my older son d/t his intensity and willfulness and also for me as the parent who supervises all screen/ tech time. My 10yo does ok with the limits and some days doesn't even use all his time. Another challenge is that my husb thinks the kids shouldn't do any screen time but just read books, but he "tolerates" the rules I have set. I never expected this startk discrepency in parenting styles but that's a huge topic in and of itself! imho not allowing any tech time is not appropriate, b/c as we know not all tech activities are mindless/harmful, plus being tech competent can be a good social tool. We've never had any gaming system in the house, only a laptop and now tablets. I do feel that screen time <2hr/day is healthier than hours and hours in front of a screen and hopefully sets the stage for more varied interests and more physical activity. Both my kids play multiple sports, do extra-curricular things at school, and have good grades. My 10 yo is typical in that he complains when his time is up and sometimes tries to get more time added, but he transitions without a big fuss. In contrast, my neuro-challenged 14yo at times gets almost frantic about finishing up a game like Madden football or Clash of Clans when the 5-min warning on the screen comes on. (After trying a few diff parental control apps I now use "Screen time" and the accompanying app "Screen time remote"). His anxiety can be palpable so I'm constantly trying new approaches such as having him set the plan for his time (e.g. 1/2 hour after school then a 1/2 hour after h.w.) and we both confirm that's the plan. Usually he can't get off once he starts so he uses the entire hour at one sitting. Now it's also social media problems. This year he seems to be making a few friends which has always been a problem d/t his willfulness, intensity etc. This school year he goes on Instagram and Kik (doesn't have a smartphone) and at first that seemed positive, but sadly over the past week I realized he's getting very manipulative and lying to gain access to a screen to check Instagram or Kik by asking to log on "for school" but then goes on Instagram. I've decided to tell him he will lose all screen time the next day if he does that again. This is all so tiring! Setting screen time/ use of tech rules for the family, and figuring out how to use various apps (safe search, screen time limits, etc) to enforce the rules is driving me crazy. I imagine that many of these behaviors and dynamics are not limited to kids with significant challenges like my son's, so I wonder if there could be an article written/posted on this site that would help parents like me and kids like mine who are really struggling, to find ways to cope better with the tough tech issues of modern life.
Adult written by HMBMom

Thanks for your post. I feel the same way you do (driving me crazy monitoring screen time!). I also have two boys: a 10 year-old (who is neuro-atypical and exhibits some of the same behaviors your son does), a 12 year old who is "neuro-typical", and a 14 year old girl also "neuro-typical". I've been looking for suggestions from other parents here and am writing up some rules as we speak. Thanks for sharing! I'l post in a few weeks to let everyone know how it's going.
Parent of a 12 and 17-year-old written by LiveLoveLead

I think it depends on the child. I have a 20-year-old, 17-year-old (bio kids) and a 12-year-old (foster son). My kids are good students, responsible, volunteer in the community and attend church regularly. I put restrictions on video game, TV and computer time during school days and allow more time on weekends, holidays and summer, with less restrictions when they are in high school, as long as homework and chores are being done. I found that if my kids have unlimited use of electronics (computer or video games especially), they will choose that over other activities. When my oldest was younger, he wasn't allowed to play video games on school days. With homework, church activities and sports, he had enough on his plate, and if he knew he could play video games, that would be all he would want to do. Same problem happened when my 6th grader had unlimited use of the computer after his homework and chores were done. He started not wanting to read or go to TaeKwonDo (which he loved before we got the extra laptop.) If he knows he can use the computer, he doesn't want to do anything else, he'll sit on the computer for hours, but when his computer time is restricted to 1 hour on school days, he wants to go to TaeKwonDo and will read more than the required 30 minutes. Kids don't often make the wisest decisions and don't usually understand the long term effects of their choices...that's why they have parents, to help guide and teach them from their experience and wisdom. This is day and age of people wanting and expecting immediate gratification, causing unhealthy choices. We don't let our kids eat candy and ice cream every day for breakfast because it's not healthy for them, and the same goes for over indulging on electronics too. There are tons of studies that prove there are many consequences of too much time on electronics. I know as an adult I even get stressed and overwhelmed trying to keep up with all my emails, Facebook, Pinterest and articles I want to look up or share. I often stay up way later than I should trying to catch up on emails or unable to get off the typing this right now...LOL. As parents, we should want to teach our kids to make healthy choices when it comes to screen time, just like anything else that affects their lives.
Teen, 15 years old written by considermythoughts

I am a 15 year old girl in three above grade-level classes. I personally believe that after lots of time-consuming homework us teenagers need some time to unwind. Giving us limits and not letting us discover ourselves how much is too much is not good in my opinion. I had a friend who in middle school had very strict limits on everything. Sadly, her mom died in a car accident and in high school she no longer had limits because her dad couldn't keep up with them. She then had a few bad days, figuring out her own personal limits. Her grades went down, and she became friends with the wrong people. She started realizing the things everyone else realized before. But I agree, don't completely let your kids free from bounds. Teens should not have any headphones in or electronics on during meals. But remember, us teens are under lots of pressure but music and YouTube can help relieve us from those stresses. Think when you were a teen, and go easier on you kids.
Teen, 13 years old written by DexterMorgan

Chya brah. No I'm just playing. I agree with you. But I think it depends on the maturity level and factors. I mean I'm 13 and watching house of cards, scandal and the walking dead(not really a thing to keep as far away into the depths of the earth show).
Kid, 11 years old

It would be helpful if it didn't have the AAP tie-in because I have unlimited video game time after homework and dinner, and I weigh a normal amount, sleep well, am 2 grades ahead in most of my subjects, and get all As, am not overly aggressive, and have no behavior difficulties with the exception of my "special needs", which at this point isn't much of a problem. They just want to ruin everything. 1-2 hours? RIDICULOUS!
Teen, 16 years old written by Troy_G

Not all kids spend their time on YouTube, 1-2 hours can be quite limiting when you take into account all the things teens use technology for. Everyone is different, you might not spend as much time on technology as other people and that's great. But for other kids they might do more, it's not so much the limit they give it's that they give that limit without consulting you first. Limits are fine and can help but giving a limit the child doesn't agree with and trying to pass of a reason like "You need to spend time doing other things!" is not and will just anger them. Instead of giving a limit right away spend more time with the kid when they're available and talk to them about a limit they can agree with.
Kid, 11 years old

I agree 1-2 hours is insane i mean i guess 8 hours a day is to much (that can cause eye strain then headaches) my opinion 3-4 a day
Adult written by GamerWhoReviews

Depends on the child age, my reccomendation (Total screen time) : Ages 1-3: 20 mins Ages 4-5: 45 mins Ages 6-8: 1 hour Ages 8-10: 1hr 30 mins Ages 11-12: 2 hours Ages 13+: Dont bother having a screen time limit anymore
Kid, 10 years old

as much time as they want while doing work or something constructive like writing a book and 85 minutes on a timer for iPod or computer. Also 2 hours for tv or one hour and a half if they watch it on the computer or netflix.
Parent of a 13-year-old written by fleecy34

I have a 13 year old and I let him have 1 hour in the morning and 1 hour in the afternoon
Teen, 13 years old written by Ki-RBT

Personally, I am on my computer much of the time, but the real issue is what kids (myself included) are doing on the computer. If they're learning new things or being creative, then that's clearly not such a problem as it is often made out to be. So long as there are no obvious behavioral or academic difficulties as studies show may occur, screen time can be a beneficial form of entertainment.
Teen, 13 years old written by fangkitty

I, (a child the age of 13), personally believe that I have no academic challenges, I am not aggressive, and yes, I do lack sleep, but that's mainly because when I go to sleep, I stare at my wall lost in thought and find it better to just spend time online and be entertained rather than stare blankly at something until I'm asleep, which could take hours. As far as obesity goes, yes, I am quite fat, but I'm dieting and exercising unlike before, and still getting plenty of screen time (7-8 hrs), and maintaining A's and B's in school. (Mainly A's except P.E because I hate running the mile, and Algebra because it's super confusing. ) But yeah. I don't know what kind of studies are being done, but basing the results off of myself, find them very incorrect and suggest doing more accurate studies.
Teen, 16 years old written by brendanl1998

Watching a lot of television is not a bad thing. I'm sixteen and I watch hours of television every day. I am also an honors student who is in five college level classes with all "A's". Television is not bad if it doesn't interfere with other things, such as homework and studying. It is perfectly fine to watch television as much as you want, as long as you balance it with other things. I think it is very misguided when parents put limits on their children's television watching. In my experience, whenever there is a kid who has something limited by their parents, the second they are away from the parents, they do as much of it as possible. My friends whose parents restrict what food they eat want to eat everything when they are at someone else's house, because they don't learn how to choose what to eat for themselves. The same goes with how much television a person watches. Kid's don't learn how to figure out how much television is right for them when their parents make arbitrary restrictions on the amount of television they can watch everyday. They are not going to turn into television addicts without restrictions because they will learn how much television per day is right by themselves and actually turn off the tv on their own, instead of taking every available second of tv time allocated to them by their parents. Everyone, especially teenagers, want something much more when it is restricted versus when they can choose how much of it to do.
Teen, 15 years old written by shinyNINJA

I agree with you about kids taking advantage, those are immature. If kids or teens, don't take advantage, they are mature, and should be exempt from screen limits.
Kid, 10 years old

I'm 10 years old I play various hour of video games and I always get As and Bs. Dont have "lack of sleep, agression orother behavior challenges". Thither are my freinds, there not stupid and mean just becaus they watch tv or play video games. So those studies were probably wrong.
Teen, 13 years old written by buzzerb

Adults sould just say what my friends parents do. Once you've done your hw do what you like but be sensible.
Kid, 10 years old

I agree as well. BTW, I'm 10 too! Kids aren't really influenced by it but should do other things as well.
Teen, 14 years old written by Basicly No One

The thing is, yes I am 13 and maybe there is something I am looking over, but I play for atleast 10 hours a day (on weekends and days off) and I play with my friends all the time. I get straight A's and I'm in geometry for math. I am 5'6 113 and play 4 sports. My point is you can play for hours on end and still be none of those. You just need to find he mix of good and bad.
Adult written by Meghan Johnson

I feel the issue should be less about screen time, and more about what the child is doing on the screen. I wouldn't limit their time with paper, or another medium. If they are reading, writing letters, researching, using YouTube to learn a new way to make friendship bracelets, studying flashcards, I'm not going to focus on number of minutes. I tend more to focus on sedentary v. active time.
Adult written by DaveMCO

During the school year we typically don't set limits but screens and screen time is typically the first thing taken away as punishment. Due to no camps that made sense the 10 year old had a daily limit of 3 hours for the summer. This included any time on iPod, computer, PS3, Nintendo DS or anything with a screen really. It was interesting to watch how he would provide me updates and try and budget his time so that he and his friend can play together instead of him just becoming a veggie on the couch for hours on end.
Teen, 14 years old written by isabellalopezz

As me being a teen some may not understand my perspective on the situation. I definitely am addicted to my phone, therefore my mom put screen time. She says shes doing it for the best but it making our mother daughter relationship go downhill. My phone has downtime at 10 and I have 3 hours a day. I spend my time on snapchat talking to all my friends that im not allowed or able to see right now. I like going to sleep early, but as an example almost all of my friends are on their phones all day all night going to sleep at 1/2/3/4 in the morning (which is not what i want to do) Im the oldest and most mature in my friendgroup and im the one stuck going to bed at 10 every night. She says im "staring at a screen" but im texting, NOT every second of the day, whenever someone snaps back then i put it down for a bit, or im dancing making tiktoks. Her putting screen time affects her and me. There is constant screaming, crying and unhappiness between us and ive talked about moving to my dads house many times. I just got this new phone (bought by my dad) thinking that it was just gonna be mine and they were gonna trust me and let me do my own thing. I personally think screen time can be necessary for young kids such as 5-10 because they are developing and they can still play with toys. But at my age what is there for us to do, whether its playing cod, fort, gta, tiktok, snap, insta, twitter its all on a social media/gaming platform. Most of my friends are busy during the day and dont have time to talk in the day. But my phone turns off when everyone wants to talk to me. I feel like id almost be better off without a phone because screen time is creating a tension that i hate with a passion. Then she goes to my friends moms and asks what time their kids go to sleep, and every parent was saying "they dont care as long as they wakeup in the morning" or "we've made an acception during this pandemic" but obviously my mom doesn't want to let me be a normal teenager who talks to her friends all day. Its kinda screwed up in a way. Like yes it gets me off my phone but it also causes me to dislike her very much at some points in time. I think she should just trust that im getting good grades, im going to cheer 3 times a week, i go outside with my friends for at least two hours a day and i need some time to just be normal.