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By Jan Carr
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Poignant letter encourages girls to be all they can be.
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What's the Story?
DEAR GIRL, is written as a letter from a parent, and the advice in it is far-ranging. Some presses girls not to hold back and to actively put themselves forward: "Do you know that there is no such thing as asking too many questions?" Other advice encourages quiet contemplation: "Write down your thoughts once in a while, even if it's just to enjoy the way your pen feels against the paper." And some promotes body acceptance: "Look at yourself in the mirror. Say thank you to something that makes you YOU." In this body-positive spread, girls are pictured thanking their freckles, birthmark, and red hair. All the advice is emotionally healthy, encouraging girls to trust themselves and their feelings.
Is It Any Good?
This encouraging book for young girls is a grab bag of advice -- some practical and some whimsical. The girl in the pictures is told, "Sometimes you may feel like being pink and sparkly. Sometimes you may feel pretty much the opposite." Here she's shown dancing in a tutu, then romping in a mud puddle. As she deliberates on the edge of a diving board, she's urged, "Listen to your brave side." And another page reminds, "You won't be invited to every single party on the planet. (Which is really okay -- can you imagine how exhausting that would be?)." But a more generic page, arced with a rainbow, says, "don't ever lose your sense of wonder."
The mixed-media art, which includes some collage elements, is upbeat and cartoony, which lends Dear Girl, an air of lightness and fun. The same white-skinned, dark-haired girl is pictured throughout, and her family consists of a mom, dad, brother, and dog. A few of her friends are girls of color. Though the book works best when the advice is pointed and specific, it’s a great jumping-off point for parents and caregivers to talk with and encourage the girls they love.
Talk to Your Kids About ...
Families can talk about the advice in Dear Girl,. Does any of it sound like what your parent or caregiver has told you? Does any of it sound different?
Why do you think this book offers advice to girls but not boys? Do you think it's important to sometimes focus on girls alone? Would some of the advice be the same for boys? What might be different and why?
If you were a mom with a daughter, what advice would you give her? Try making a book for your future daughter.
Book Details
- Authors :
- Illustrator : Holly Hatam
- Genre : Picture Book
- Book type : Non-Fiction
- Publisher : Harper
- Publication date : December 26, 2017
- Publisher's recommended age(s) : 4 - 8
- Number of pages : 40
- Available on : Hardback
- Last updated : September 25, 2020
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