Forever

 
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Real look at first love (and sex) -- a teen classic.

What parents need to know

Educational value

Through Katherine's experience, teen readers will get a good sense of what  to expect during an OB/GYN visit. Author Judy Blume also writes an opening note to readers explaining that when she wrote the book, "sexual responsibility meant preventing unwanted pregnancy. Today, sexual responsibility also means preventing sexually transmitted infections (STIs), including a potentially fatal one -- HIV/AIDS." 

 

Positive messages

In a world where there is so much sexual posing on TV and in movies, this book offers an excellent way to thoughtfully explore the sensitive issue of talking about sex with your teen.

Positive role models

Whether or not to have sex is a decision that needs to be made thoughtfully, and the characters in the book approach their decisions with deliberation. Not only do Katherine and Michael have a real relationship, but Katherine thinks carefully about her choice to have sex.

Violence

Michael's best friend tries to hang himself.

Sex

This is a book that explores teen sexuality, so it's appropriate that there's lots of sex in it. Katherine has sex with Michael. Katherine visits Planned Parenthood to get birth control pills -- and also has discussions about sex with her mother, grandmother, and best friend. Another character, who has had many sexual partners, gets pregnant and has a baby.

Language

The characters swear, including "f--k."

Consumerism
Not applicable
Drinking, drugs, & smoking

Michael gets drunk with Katherine's best friend. Some characters smoke marijuana, and Katherine admits to trying it once.

Parents Need to Know

Parents need to know that this book is often challenged and even banned because of its depictions of teen sex. But it remains one of the best ways of discussing this very sensitive subject with your very sensitive teens. It deals frankly and responsibly with tough questions. Katherine has sex with her boyfriend, talks frankly about his penis, visits Planned Parenthood to get birth control pills, and discusses sex with her mother, grandmother, and best friend. She also deals with other adult issues: Michael's best friend tries to hang himself; another character, who has had many sexual partners, gets pregnant and has a baby; and Katherine's grandfather dies. There's some drinking, and some characters smoke marijuana. Readers who are mature enough for the content will find a very realistic portrayal of first love -- and a thoughtful protagonist who considers carefully before deciding to enter a sexual relationship. There are plenty of opportunities for parents to use this book to talk about their own values about sex, birth control, teen pregnancy, and more.

What's the story?

Katherine is a high school senior when she meets -- and quickly falls in love with -- Michael. Her parents grow concerned about how much time they're spending together -- and it's true that they're together whenever possible. Soon they even begin a sexual relationship. But with high school ending -- and grown-up problems just beginning -- will their young love be able to last?

Is it any good?

QUALITY
 

This classic from the '70s may seem tame compared with some of today's young adult literature, but readers will still appreciate Judy Blume's honest depiction of young love. Some of the language is dated, but Katherine and Michael are both believable characters. While there are depictions of sex, there's a lot more here, too. Not only do Katherine and Michael have a real relationship, but Katherine is thoughtful about her decision to have sex.

Katherine has some open conversations, including one in which her mother tells her: "Sex is a commitment ... once you're there you can't go back to holding hands." Blume opens newer editions of the book reminding readers that things have changed since she wrote FOREVER: "Today, sexual responsibility also means preventing sexually transmitted diseases, including AIDS which can kill you." Whatever your family's values, you can use Forever to start many conversations with your kids, from your own beliefs about premarital sex to your thoughts about book censorship.

Families can talk about...

  • Families can talk about why this book is considered controversial. It was ranked as the eighth most-challenged book in the 1990s, according to the American Library Association. Why do some adults think teens can't handle the material in the book? What do kids think their parents worry about?  

  • This book was written in the '70s -- how have attitudes about teens and sex continued to change since then? What causes these changes in attitudes? Is it media or something else? Do you think today's teens feel pressured to have sex earlier than their parents?  

  • What do you think of Katherine's parents' attitudes toward dating and sex? This conversation might provide a good opportunity to discuss your own values. 

Book details

Author:Judy Blume
Genre:Coming of Age
Book type:Fiction
Publisher:Simon & Schuster
Publication date:April 1, 1975
Number of pages:192

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Teen, 15 years old Written bykfrench06 December 14, 2009
 

Not for tweens, but perfect for kids 14+

Okay, well I'm 15 years old, and I read this book when I was 14. I loved the book! It is a fairly sexual book, so if you're under 14, I wouldn't recommend reading it just yet. The message in this book is positive, talking about the consequences that come with sex instead of making seem like and easy thing, which it isn't. This book almost, to me, gives off the vibe of when a parent is giving their kid "the talk" because there is some talk about that. Overall: Amazing book, but not for tweens.
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Too much sex
Great messages
Teen, 13 years old Written bysoccer_mufc13 September 26, 2009
 

Dear Parents: Not For Teens !

Im only 13, but I LOVE READING! I picked this book at my school library and i thought it was just about love, nothing sexual. But i recall the first line stated " Sybil had been laid by at least 6 guys" or something similar. I didn't think to go on, but i didn't think i should judge it by the first. But i was wrong. Katherine thinks she has fallen in love and has sex with her boyfriend...and she calls it 'making love'. But the book goes into detail, and describes WAY TOO MUCH information or detail about sex, e.g. how it feels, positioning etc. my opinion is that this book was completely inappropriate for teens my age and even a little bit older. Oh and by the way im not sure how to work the iffy,on and off thing so im sorry!
What other families should know
Too much sex
Too much swearing
Adult Written byfdm1388 October 29, 2009
 
I loved the book. It lays down some pretty controversial topics but present them through a character who makes responsible choices. As the reader you feel for Katerine, and begin to understand the pressures she is going through. I read this book when I was 21, and I should have read it in highschool when I first started having sex. I was in a serious relationship just like Katerine, atleast so I thought. However, this book would have opened doors to being safe when having sex, and all girls need to know their options. This is a great book to present this topic. Still today in our society it isn't okay for girls to have sex with multiple people, but for some reason it is okay for boys to have sex with multiple people. Girls get a bad reputation, and boys get a pat on their back by their friends and fathers. This book allows for the girl to expand on her side of the story, and should be a book that all teenage or preteen girls read at some point.
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