If I Was Your Girl
By Lucinda Dyer,
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Transgender teen finds first love in moving coming-of-ager.
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Thought-provoking story about being true to yourself; inclusion and acceptance
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A must read!
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What's the Story?
When Amanda arrives in a small Tennessee town for her senior year in high school, she's perceived only as the pretty new girl. Boys flirt with her, and she quickly finds herself with three close girlfriends. Only her father knows that Amanda is transitioning from male to female after being harassed and tormented for years in her life as Andrew. IF I WAS YOUR GIRL flashes back to several pivotal points in her life -- to her being a small boy who knew he was a girl, to her being a junior high student who was constantly bullied, and her suicide attempt three years ago. Keeping her secret becomes increasingly difficult as Amanda's friendships deepen; she shares her first kiss with Grant, her football player boyfriend; and is even nominated for homecoming queen. Will her new friends stand by her when her secret is revealed?
Is It Any Good?
This poignant and believable coming-of-age love story resonates with a powerful message of tolerance and acceptance. Never preachy or forced, If I Was Your Girl focuses on Amanda's evolving relationships with a new group of friends, her parents, and her boyfriend. Because of that, the storyline is a comfortable one for readers and allows Amanda's story to unfold without "she's transgender" always being at the forefront.
In the end, this is a story about an enormously likable teen whose hopes for her senior year are just like those of any reader: spending time with good friends, feeling accepted by peers, falling in love, and being loved in return.
Talk to Your Kids About ...
Families can talk about being different. What makes someone "different" in your school or community? Has someone ever made you feel as if you didn't fit in?
If If I Was Your Girl were made into a movie, do you think a transgender actress should play Amanda? Would the message of the book/movie be diminished if a straight actress played the part?
How would you react if someone in your class decided to transition?
Book Details
- Author: Meredith Russo
- Genre: Coming of Age
- Topics: Friendship, Great Girl Role Models, High School
- Book type: Fiction
- Publisher: Flatiron Books
- Publication date: May 3, 2016
- Number of pages: 272
- Available on: Audiobook (unabridged), Hardback, iBooks, Kindle
- Last updated: June 2, 2022
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