Parents' Guide to

If I Was Your Girl

By Lucinda Dyer, Common Sense Media Reviewer

age 14+

Transgender teen finds first love in moving coming-of-ager.

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What you will—and won't—find in this book.

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age 14+

Based on 2 parent reviews

age 14+

Thought-provoking story about being true to yourself; inclusion and acceptance

The story of trans girl and her journey and an insightful look at the discrimination, violence and prejudice many trans people experience within community and family. An important story for young people in building more inclusive societies.

This title has:

Educational value
Great messages
Great role models
age 14+

A must read!

If you are looking for a title to help put life of a transperson on perspective, this is a great choice! The writing makes it an easy read while the content makes it an essential read. As an intermediate teacher I would hesitate having this on my classroom bookshelf due to the language and references to sex. As a parent of a mature 7th grader I am confident that she could mange the material just fine.

Is It Any Good?

Our review:
Parents say (2):
Kids say (4):

This poignant and believable coming-of-age love story resonates with a powerful message of tolerance and acceptance. Never preachy or forced, If I Was Your Girl focuses on Amanda's evolving relationships with a new group of friends, her parents, and her boyfriend. Because of that, the storyline is a comfortable one for readers and allows Amanda's story to unfold without "she's transgender" always being at the forefront.

In the end, this is a story about an enormously likable teen whose hopes for her senior year are just like those of any reader: spending time with good friends, feeling accepted by peers, falling in love, and being loved in return.

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