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Lost It

Comical coming-of-age with teen sex, MIA parents.

What parents need to know

Positive messages

Parents are uninvolved in their children's lives. A girl lies about having a medical condition. A girlfriend becomes obsessed with her relationship with her boyfriend. A girl becomes obsessed with blowing up a poodle.


A girl is injured in a car accident and an animal is killed. A girl creates a bomb and detonates it.


A girl talks about how her breasts are two different sizes. A teen discusses her heavy petting sessions with her boyfriend and how she lost her virginity. Her grandmother gives her a book on sex and sexuality. Talk of infidelity in a couple's marriage.


Mild swearing.


Cars and Diet Coke mentioned

Drinking, drugs, & smoking

Adults drink alcohol.

Parents Need to Know

Parents need to know that the main character discusses losing her virginity. She talks about the experience and subsequent sexual encounters. The sexual encounters aren't graphic, but are still detailed. Another girl acts out violently by making and detonating a bomb. Parents abandon their children and are unfaithful to their spouses. While there are some positive adult role models, the teens are largely left on their own.

What's the story?

Tess Whistle is having a rough year. Her parents get some insane idea about joining a survival camp in Utah and leave her with her grandmother, plus her best friend builds a bomb and obsesses about blowing up a poodle. When a new boy shows up at school she falls for him instantly and hopes he can block out all the craziness in her life. Maybe, maybe not.

Is it any good?


LOST IT is a pretty darn funny coming-of-age book that takes us through a complicated time in quirky teen Tess Whistle's life. In a twist, while Tess is exploring more grown-up relationships and sex, parents in the book are off experiencing a second adolescence. No meddling parents are shocked with Tess' explorations, and it's her grandmother who gives her a book on sexuality. It takes a pretty dangerous situation to get parents to take notice again.

The book is clear on what happens to girls like Tess without parenting -- they become dependent on their boyfriends for support, often too dependent. Still Tess' mistakes and her ability to cope offer positive lessons for mature teen readers.

Families can talk about...

  • Families can talk about healthy relationships, sex education, and ways to cope with negative issues. Would Tess have made the same decisions if she had had access to sex education? How did Tess' worries about her family and friends hurt her relationship with Ben?

Book details

Author:Kristen Tracy
Genre:Coming of Age
Book type:Fiction
Publisher:Simon Pulse
Publication date:January 23, 2007
Number of pages:288

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Kid, 12 years old April 9, 2008

A must read book for teens and adults:Lost it

Lost it is a funny but serious book . i can relate with the crazy family and friends thing so it was a great book to read. tess is a typical teen and so is ben even though he has struggled with cancer and as for zena well shes odd but cool. Marissa ♥
Teen, 14 years old Written byPolkaDot123 September 28, 2010
Adult Written bytwistofcain August 20, 2009