Lost It

Book review by
Terreece Clarke, Common Sense Media
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Comical coming-of-age with teen sex, MIA parents.

Parents say

age 14+
Based on 3 reviews

Kids say

age 13+
Based on 6 reviews

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A lot or a little?

The parents' guide to what's in this book.

Positive Messages

Parents are uninvolved in their children's lives. A girl lies about having a medical condition. A girlfriend becomes obsessed with her relationship with her boyfriend. A girl becomes obsessed with blowing up a poodle.


A girl is injured in a car accident and an animal is killed. A girl creates a bomb and detonates it.


A girl talks about how her breasts are two different sizes. A teen discusses her heavy petting sessions with her boyfriend and how she lost her virginity. Her grandmother gives her a book on sex and sexuality. Talk of infidelity in a couple's marriage.


Mild swearing.


Cars and Diet Coke mentioned

Drinking, Drugs & Smoking

Adults drink alcohol.

What parents need to know

Parents need to know that the main character discusses losing her virginity. She talks about the experience and subsequent sexual encounters. The sexual encounters aren't graphic, but are still detailed. Another girl acts out violently by making and detonating a bomb. Parents abandon their children and are unfaithful to their spouses. While there are some positive adult role models, the teens are largely left on their own.

User Reviews

  • Parents say
  • Kids say
Adult Written byLibraryMom April 5, 2014

Not for my kids

Contains explicit sex scene
Adult Written byvbutler9 July 7, 2010
It was a very acceptable book when I read it at age 14. It has just enough detail to keep you hooked but not enough to be offended. I suggest that you let girls... Continue reading
Teen, 14 years old Written byNadinejaz November 27, 2011

Must read for everybody

Kids are getting more and more into sexual things, I think it's 100% ok for a 12 year old to read, or maybe even younger. It teaches about how lies can tur... Continue reading
Kid, 12 years old January 11, 2011

Perfect book for kids13 and up

I love this book and im only in Grade 7. It was inappropriate, but then again I read Forever.. by Judy Blume and its WAY worse but a great book,

What's the story?

Tess Whistle is having a rough year. Her parents get some insane idea about joining a survival camp in Utah and leave her with her grandmother, plus her best friend builds a bomb and obsesses about blowing up a poodle. When a new boy shows up at school she falls for him instantly and hopes he can block out all the craziness in her life. Maybe, maybe not.

Is it any good?

LOST IT is a pretty darn funny coming-of-age book that takes us through a complicated time in quirky teen Tess Whistle's life. In a twist, while Tess is exploring more grown-up relationships and sex, parents in the book are off experiencing a second adolescence. No meddling parents are shocked with Tess' explorations, and it's her grandmother who gives her a book on sexuality. It takes a pretty dangerous situation to get parents to take notice again.

The book is clear on what happens to girls like Tess without parenting -- they become dependent on their boyfriends for support, often too dependent. Still Tess' mistakes and her ability to cope offer positive lessons for mature teen readers.

Talk to your kids about ...

  • Families can talk about healthy relationships, sex education, and ways to cope with negative issues. Would Tess have made the same decisions if she had had access to sex education? How did Tess' worries about her family and friends hurt her relationship with Ben?

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