Parents' Guide to

Me Before You

By Mary Cosola, Common Sense Media Reviewer

age 14+

Moving story of a quadriplegic and his quirky caregiver.

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age 15+

Based on 5 parent reviews

age 18+

Another movie that gives the message that it is better to be dead than disabled

I am pretty furious at the excellent review given to this book and movie by Commonsense Media. How many more movies do people with disabilities have to endure about what a pitiful lot it is to be disabled? How more more movies do the disabled have to sit through about how it is better to be dead than disabled? How many times will reviewers say " it is just one person's story" when there has rarely been an authentic movie about people with disabilities? This rationale would never be accepted for other oppressed groups. I would never let my daughter see a film that basically is a snuff film of a disabled person. I have a friend who has the same exact disability as Will and he runs a national organization! It's ironic that the reviewer noted that Will does not have real voice in this movie but doesn't speculate on the fact that this is a movie about Will, as a main character. You're right. Disabled people have not had a voice, just abled bodied people telling them how "brave" they are or how they could "never deal with being disabled" while they silently assent to messages that demean and debase them and yes, so tiredly, nod their head with compassion and fake tears? Then nobly watch as the disabled person commits suicide (and even more disgusting, it means that other character gets to have a better life-how brave of him!) because, according to abled bodied people, it is just pathetic to live with a disability. If you want your children to grow up and have pity and disgust for people with disabilities please have them go, but if you want your children to see disabled people as the authentic people they are, then do not see this film and please talk about it with others. Luckily there are people, all kinds of people, protesting the film and reviewers in the real media are starting to get it. Go on the website for "Not Dead Yet" a national organization and find out the details of what is happening on Twitter and other social media and live protests. To end, in the guidelines to post it says that reviews that targets a group will be taken down. The Commonsense Media review is the one that should be taken down.
age 11+

Great read

This book was absolutely amazing! Perfect for any kid over the age of 11!

Is It Any Good?

Our review:
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Kids say (13 ):

It's impossible not to fall in love with the characters and story in this deeply emotional and insightful novel. Me Before You tells the story of a man and a woman in a small British town: One is confined there, and one has confined herself there. Readers might think they're getting into a romance, but instead they find themselves enmeshed in a beautiful, emotional, and suspenseful novel. No character in this book is a cliche, not even minor characters, such as an ex-girlfriend of Will's who easily could have been a stereotype. The story's told mostly from Lou's viewpoint, with a few chapters from the viewpoints of other characters, with the notable exception of Will. Lou has a great voice as a character. She has a lot on her shoulders, but she's charming and funny, especially when she babbles nervously. Will is more of a cipher as he confronts major problems: confined to a wheelchair, living with pain, missing his old life, and not knowing when or how badly his condition will deteriorate. Author Jojo Moyes provides an eye-opening look at what quadriplegics have to deal with on a daily basis, physically, emotionally, and socially. Also addressed is the issue of death with dignity. That said, the book has stirred controversy for offering what some consider a stereotypical portrayal of a disabled person who feels that life's not worth living because he's disabled.

Me Before You will move many readers to tears, but not in an overly manipulative way. In addition to the humor and emotion in the book, the suspense is gripping. Moyes doesn't telegraph the ending at all, which will have most readers on the edge of their seat.

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