Parents' Guide to Meet Me at the River

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Kate Pavao By Kate Pavao , based on child development research. How do we rate?

age 14+

Moving romantic read deals with grief, suicidal impulses.

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What's the Story?

After her boyfriend dies in an accident, Tressa isn't sure she wants to live and even attempts suicide. Now, instead of going to college with Luke, she's repeating her senior year, while her flaky mother and cold stepfather await a new baby. Tressa's happiest moments come when Luke's ghost visits her at night. They can talk about anything that happened before his death, but nothing that's happened since. As Tressa starts to make friends, she finds reasons to live in the present.

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Tressa's whole family situation in this compelling tale takes some sorting out. Her mother and Luke's father had a set of twins before splitting up, then got back together years after Tressa and Luke were born on the same day to different mothers. The reunited parents are understandably unhappy about the step-siblings' romantic relationship. Unrealistic and complicated as this might seem, it does set up Tressa and Luke as fated -- and doomed -- lovers.

Although it seems as if it could easily feel clichéd, the ghost story is actually sweet and sad. It's Tressa's story, though Luke and Tressa take turns narrating. Readers will empathize with her daily struggle with grief after Luke's death and her sharp insight about life's randomness: "All my life...I felt like I could never be sure of anything. When the truth is, that's how everybody lives. Nobody can be certain, ever, not for a single second." Maybe the story goes on a bit long, but Meet Me at the River offers a sophisticated and satisfying look at loss -- and what it takes to move on afterward.

Talk to Your Kids About ...

  • Families can talk about stories featuring ghosts. How does the ghost in this story compare to the ones in other stories you've read?

  • Should authors writing for teens be concerned about romanticizing dangerous behaviors like cutting and suicide attempts -- or just write about grief as accurately as possible?

  • In Meet Me at the River, a young teacher's response to a girl who's cutting herself gets him fired. What would you do in his place?

Book Details

  • Author : Nina de Gramont
  • Genre : Coming of Age
  • Topics : School ( High School )
  • Book type : Fiction
  • Publisher : Atheneum
  • Publication date : October 15, 2013
  • Publisher's recommended age(s) : 14 - 18
  • Number of pages : 384
  • Available on : Nook, Hardback, Apple Books, Kindle
  • Last updated : October 1, 2025

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