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By Nayanika Kapoor
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Half-Iraqi teen finds her way in scattered coming-of-ager.
Parents Need to Know
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What's the Story?
In NOT THE GIRLS YOU'RE LOOKING FOR, Lulu Saad is a half-Iraqi teen living in Houston, Texas, inseparable from her three best friends. It's senior year and everything's going great -- except for that horrible Dane Anderson in her French class. Into her life walks charming James, and Lulu is inexplicably intrigued by him -- so much so that she pushes him into a pool. From then on, things tumble out of control -- from outbursts at Ramadan to fights with her friends and numerous drunk party mistakes. Amid the mess, Lulu must figure out who exactly she is, what's important to her, and who's worth fighting for. And while she repairs relationships with loved ones, Lulu's cooking up a revenge plot to make sure that no one ... and she means no one ... messes with her and the people she loves.
Is It Any Good?
Through the flawed, vulnerable character of Lulu, this coming-of-age story offers an authentic perspective on what it's like to feel caught between two cultures and not fully a part of either one. Lulu's experience as a biracial Muslim can be relatable for teens who've ever felt isolated because of their ethnicity, and having her as the narrator gives readers an honest glimpse of the discrimination that Muslim Americans face. Teens may find themselves relating to parts of Lulu, but the plot is all over the place, with no clear direction at times, and some of the characters are underdeveloped.
Lulu is a confusing character, and there are a lot of things that may disappoint readers about her and her trash-talking girlfriends. While her group of friends is very close and they stand up for one another, they also put one another down quite a lot, for no apparent reason. James and Lulu's romance is very cute and playful, and teens will root for them to end up together.
Talk to Your Kids About ...
Families can talk about how discrimination of Muslim Americans in the United States is portrayed in Not the Girls You're Looking For. Why does Lulu not feel welcome in the Iraqi community or the American one?
What other books have you read about the experience of Muslim American teens? How does learning about kids from various religious or cultural heritages and reading books by authors from various backgrounds expand your worldview?
Why do you think Lulu was so scared to fall in love before James? What about James made her feel safe and comfortable?
Book Details
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- Genre : Coming of Age
- Topics : Friendship , School ( High School )
- Book type : Fiction
- Publisher : Macmillan
- Publication date : June 19, 2018
- Publisher's recommended age(s) : 13 - 18
- Number of pages : 327
- Available on : Paperback, Nook, Audiobook (unabridged), Hardback, Apple Books, Kindle
- Last updated : September 30, 2025
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