Since You've Been Gone

Book review by
Sandie Angulo Chen, Common Sense Media
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Charming summer story encourages taking risks, finding love.

Parents say

age 13+
Based on 1 review

Kids say

age 12+
Based on 15 reviews

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Educational Value

Although this isn't meant as an educational or historical story, readers will learn about Tesla and Edison, since they're the focus of the play Emily's parents are writing.

Positive Messages

Since You Were Gone encourages readers to take chances, seize the moment, and step out of their comfort zones. Although some of the tasks seem a bit iffy at first (stealing something, breaking something), they can be metaphorical tasks that help the protagonist boost her confidence and figure out who she is without her best friend's presence. This also is a story about friendship being unconditional and proves that distance doesn't have to end a close relationship.

Positive Role Models & Representations

Emily's a devoted friend and a wonderful big sister to Bennett, particularly because their parents are often preoccupied with their artistic endeavors. Despite how unavailable they might seem, Emily and Bennett's parents are more observant than the kids give them credit for, and they do want to know what's going on in their kids' lives. Frank's smart, caring, and funny -- and his best friend Collins is an excellent and loyal lifelong friend. Sloane has her flaws, but she wants the best for Emily.


Emily recalls how Sloane went pretty far physically with her boyfriend, whereas she barely kissed hers. Emily has a rather explosive kiss toward the end of the book and wonders if Frank has had sex with his long-term girlfriend. Two members of a couple sleep next to each other but don't have sex. There also are references to "cheating" when someone hooks up with someone who's already dating.


Occasional strong language and insults include "f--k," "s--t," "a--hole," "bitch," and "douche bag."


Brands mentioned include Volvo, Hermès, BMW, Diet Coke, Fritos, and other food items, and pop culture references to music, plays, and movies abound.

Drinking, Drugs & Smoking

Grown-ups drink at parties; teens also drink but only a couple of times in the current time line or in flashbacks.

What parents need to know

Parents need to know that Since You've Been Gone is the latest summer-set teen novel by young-adult author Morgan Matson. Unlike her previous book, Second Chance Summer, which was heavy and emotional, this story is more light-hearted and friendship-themed, chronicling how the main character spends a summer crossing off items from a must-do list sent by her best friend. There's some infrequent strong language ("f--k," "s--t," "a--hole") and a couple of adolescent-appropriate references to making out, hooking up, and finding someone to love. Like all of Matson's books, Since You've Been Gone is a lovely tribute to unconditional friendship, strong sibling relationships, and finding the kind of romance that changes your life.

User Reviews

  • Parents say
  • Kids say
Parent Written byahuttoLMS January 19, 2016
This book was a little hard to get into at the beginning, but once Emily accepts that Sloane is gone and begins to embrace the "list" things really pi... Continue reading
Teen, 14 years old Written byBookAddict78 October 7, 2015


I loved this book. It was a great story about confidence and finding yourself. I was (and am) 14 years old when I read the book, and I would say that around 13... Continue reading
Teen, 13 years old Written bybookworm_01 June 27, 2020


I had really high hopes for this book because I read her other book The Unexpected Everything and LOVED it. It was a good book though.

What's the story?

Emily is ready to have an amazing summer working and hanging out with her BFF Sloane in their picturesque Connecticut town of Stanwich, but her plans are foiled when she realizes Sloane and her family have moved without a trace -- leaving no text message, no email, and no forwarding address. Two weeks after painfully shy Emily discovers her extroverted, life-of-the-party bestie has gotten out of dodge, she receives a letter from Sloane. The letter consists of a 13-item checklist of things Sloane must do, from relatively simple tasks such as "apple-picking at night" and "sleep under the stars" to much squirmier commands such as "kiss a stranger" and "go skinny-dipping." With the help of handsome (but taken) class valedictorian Frank Porter, new pal Dawn, and Frank's clownish best friend Collins, Emily tackles "the list" seriously in hopes of finding Sloane.

Is it any good?

Author Morgan Matson has quickly developed into one of contemporary YA's most delightful authors, creating thoughtful stories about friendship, family, and first love. Whereas Second Chance Summer and Amy and Roger's Epic Detour both focused on main characters grieving the loss of a parent, SINCE YOU'VE BEEN GONE​ chronicles a different kind of grief: the abrupt loss of a friend (who's still alive but mysteriously gone without any communication except a letter). Matson deftly captures the intimacy of teen best friendship -- how it really does feel like you're "only half" (and, in many cases, the "lesser" half) of a two-person whole. Emily sans Sloane is barely able to talk to strangers, so the list is like a farewell present that dares Emily to find out what makes her awesome all on her own.

The romance in Since You've Been Gone isn't as straightforward as it is between Taylor and Henry in Second Chance Summer, but it's a satisfying slow burn reminiscent of Amy and Roger's in Matson's first novel. The friends-to-more theme might be obvious in YA (and all romances, for that matter), but it's a much more fulfilling alternative to the "instalove" that's so prevalent in teen books. What's even better than the romance in Emily's story is that it's a tale of self-discovery. At first, Emily honestly doesn't think she's worth knowing without her more popular and outgoing best friend, so it's heartening to see her discover how captivating she is, too.

Talk to your kids about ...

  • Families can talk about the popularity of books about life-changing summers. Why is summer such a magical time for teens? What are some of your favorite books set in summer?

  • What messages do you take away from Since You've Been Gone about taking risks and going outside your comfort zone? Which parts of the list were good for Emily and which weren't so easy?

  • How are romantic relationships treated in the book? Why is Dawn so upset with Emily for kissing Frank? Do you agree with Dawn's view of what constitutes cheating?

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