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Since You've Been Gone



Charming summer story encourages taking risks, finding love.

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Educational value

Although this isn't meant as an educational or historical story, readers will learn about Tesla and Edison, since they're the focus of the play Emily's parents are writing.

Positive messages

Since You Were Gone encourages readers to take chances, seize the moment, and step out of their comfort zones. Although some of the tasks seem a bit iffy at first (stealing something, breaking something), they can be metaphorical tasks that help the protagonist boost her confidence and figure out who she is without her best friend's presence. This also is a story about friendship being unconditional and proves that distance doesn't have to end a close relationship.

Positive role models

Emily's a devoted friend and a wonderful big sister to Bennett, particularly because their parents are often preoccupied with their artistic endeavors. Despite how unavailable they might seem, Emily and Bennett's parents are more observant than the kids give them credit for, and they do want to know what's going on in their kids' lives. Frank's smart, caring, and funny -- and his best friend Collins is an excellent and loyal lifelong friend. Sloane has her flaws, but she wants the best for Emily.

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Emily recalls how Sloane went pretty far physically with her boyfriend, whereas she barely kissed hers. Emily has a rather explosive kiss toward the end of the book and wonders if Frank has had sex with his long-term girlfriend. Two members of a couple sleep next to each other but don't have sex. There also are references to "cheating" when someone hooks up with someone who's already dating.


Occasional strong language and insults include "f--k," "s--t," "a--hole," "bitch," and "douche bag."


Brands mentioned include Volvo, Hermès, BMW, Diet Coke, Fritos, and other food items, and pop culture references to music, plays, and movies abound.

Drinking, drugs, & smoking

Grown-ups drink at parties; teens also drink but only a couple of times in the current time line or in flashbacks.

Parents Need to Know

Parents need to know that Since You've Been Gone is the latest summer-set teen novel by young-adult author Morgan Matson. Unlike her previous book, Second Chance Summer, which was heavy and emotional, this story is more light-hearted and friendship-themed, chronicling how the main character spends a summer crossing off items from a must-do list sent by her best friend. There's some infrequent strong language ("f--k," "s--t," "a--hole") and a couple of adolescent-appropriate references to making out, hooking up, and finding someone to love. Like all of Matson's books, Since You've Been Gone is a lovely tribute to unconditional friendship, strong sibling relationships, and finding the kind of romance that changes your life.

What's the story?

Emily is ready to have an amazing summer working and hanging out with her BFF Sloane in their picturesque Connecticut town of Stanwich, but her plans are foiled when she realizes Sloane and her family have moved without a trace -- leaving no text message, no email, and no forwarding address. Two weeks after painfully shy Emily discovers her extroverted, life-of-the-party bestie has gotten out of dodge, she receives a letter from Sloane. The letter consists of a 13-item checklist of things Sloane must do, from relatively simple tasks such as "apple-picking at night" and "sleep under the stars" to much squirmier commands such as "kiss a stranger" and "go skinny-dipping." With the help of handsome (but taken) class valedictorian Frank Porter, new pal Dawn, and Frank's clownish best friend Collins, Emily tackles "the list" seriously in hopes of finding Sloane.

Is it any good?


Author Morgan Matson has quickly developed into one of contemporary YA's most delightful authors, creating thoughtful stories about friendship, family, and first love. Whereas Second Chance Summer and Amy and Roger's Epic Detour both focused on main characters grieving the loss of a parent, SINCE YOU'VE BEEN GONE​ chronicles a different kind of grief: the abrupt loss of a friend (who's still alive but mysteriously gone without any communication except a letter). Matson deftly captures the intimacy of teen best friendship -- how it really does feel like you're "only half" (and, in many cases, the "lesser" half) of a two-person whole. Emily sans Sloane is barely able to talk to strangers, so the list is like a farewell present that dares Emily to find out what makes her awesome all on her own.

The romance in Since You've Been Gone isn't as straightforward as it is between Taylor and Henry in Second Chance Summer, but it's a satisfying slow burn reminiscent of Amy and Roger's in Matson's first novel. The friends-to-more theme might be obvious in YA (and all romances, for that matter), but it's a much more fulfilling alternative to the "instalove" that's so prevalent in teen books. What's even better than the romance in Emily's story is that it's a tale of self-discovery. At first, Emily honestly doesn't think she's worth knowing without her more popular and outgoing best friend, so it's heartening to see her discover how captivating she is, too.

Families can talk about...

  • Families can talk about the popularity of books about life-changing summers. Why is summer such a magical time for teens? What are some of your favorite books set in summer?

  • What messages do you take away from Since You've Been Gone about taking risks and going outside your comfort zone? Which parts of the list were good for Emily and which weren't so easy?

  • How are romantic relationships treated in the book? Why is Dawn so upset with Emily for kissing Frank? Do you agree with Dawn's view of what constitutes cheating?

Book details

Author:Morgan Matson
Genre:Contemporary Fiction
Topics:Friendship, High school
Book type:Fiction
Publisher:Simon & Schuster
Publication date:May 6, 2014
Number of pages:449
Publisher's recommended age(s):12 - 17
Available on:Nook, Audiobook (unabridged), Hardback, iBooks, Kindle

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Teen, 15 years old Written by5sos_LHR1996 October 18, 2014
This is a great summer read that I recommend to anyone. It's about trying new things and meet people along the way. There's a few cuss words and kissing but brief.
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Teen, 13 years old Written byXinaTurtle July 26, 2015

Age 10 plus

I think this book is really cute and sweet and innocent. The parts you may want to watch out for are a skinny dipping scene, no details, a stranger and the main character kiss in a closet and it's clear he wants to hook up and that's it so I think this book is good for ages 10 plus.
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Teen, 14 years old Written byBookAddict78 October 7, 2015


I loved this book. It was a great story about confidence and finding yourself. I was (and am) 14 years old when I read the book, and I would say that around 13 would be a good age to read this book. Honestly, I think 11 and 12 is too young (as that is what common sense says and some other kids). I guess it just depends on your views and if you think that your kid could handle reading it. There was some language in the book, but not too strong, as I recall from finishing the book a couple days ago. There was no sex in the book, there were several kisses. Emily and Frank sleep in a tent, sharing a pillow, but nothing more happens. There is quite an intense kiss, when Emily fulfills number 1 on the list: kiss a stranger. The stranger gets a little intimate, pushing his hand up her shirt almost to her bra, but that's when Emily steps away and nothing more happens, other than him asking for her number and flirting in later scenes. There are a few instances with problems of cheating (ie A boyfriend making out with a girl who is not his girlfriend, Emily (SPOILERS) kissing Frank when he still has a girlfriend, but it's all resolved in the end. There was no violence in this book. There was some under-age drinking, which surprised me a bit because I believe the kids are around 17 years of age. It was at a party where kids could get beer in cups from the back of a truck and so on. Although Emily simply uses the cup as a prop in the first instance, she does still drink from it.
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