The Best Man

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Mary Cosola, Common Sense Media
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Witty, sweet story of boy figuring out school, family, love.

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age 12+
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Educational Value

A few young kids show off their advanced vocabularies. And Tango Makes Three and Daddy's Roommate, two children's books about gay couples and nontraditional families, factor into the plot. Information on military dog training, duty, and life after deployment. Chicago landmarks and culture are mentioned, as is some other Midwest geography.

Positive Messages

Family members should pull together and take care of one another. It's good to try new things. Give people a second chance; you might not know as much about them and their problems as you think you do. Being gay isn't a choice. It is never OK to bully anyone, and you should act when you see bullying. When life gives you unpleasant surprises, learn to roll with them, and good things may happen. Growing up is about emotional maturity as much as physical changes.

Positive Role Models & Representations

The book deals with Archer talking about his role models -- his dad, his uncle, his grandfather, and a teacher -- and why he wants to be like them. Archer's dad and mom are good parents who take time for their kids. Archer's dad lovingly cares for his ailing father. Uncle Paul is a great adult role model to Archer: He listens, takes him out, and helps him with his problems. Mr. McLeod bravely confronts school bullies. Lynette is a funny, honest, take-charge friend to Archer.


The few moments of violence in the book aren't graphic or intense. A fellow first-grader pulls a knife on Archer in the bathroom. The aftermath of a schoolyard fight is depicted, but nothing serious happens. Archer's school is briefly put on lockdown over a false alarm. A boy is shown after being tied to a sink in the boys' bathroom.


Some talk among the kids about dating, but nothing serious or sexually charged. A gay relationship between two adults figures into the plot. Archer makes a few references to his pregnant teacher and her sonograms. Archer's mom jokes with him about finding him in a cabbage patch, but they skirt the talk of where babies really come from.


"Butt" is the strongest language.


Numerous products and media mentioned for scene setting and cultural references. Characters described by the brands of clothing they wear and cars they drive. Products and media mentioned include Trader Joe's, PayPal, Audi, YouTube, FedEx, Shell gas station, Kleenex, Angry Birds, Tupperware, Nordstrom, Gucci, Gatorade, Facebook, Skype, Applebee's, Twitter, Whole Foods, Tom Ford, Ralph Lauren, MacBook Air, Uber, Starbucks, Costco, Walgreens, ABC News, Fox News, WGN, and Kmart.

Drinking, Drugs & Smoking

What parents need to know

Parents need to know that The Best Man is about a boy's journey into the middle school years and the male role models in his life. Archer Magill humorously narrates his life in elementary school: the ups and downs, the turning points, and life with his family, especially his dad, his uncle, and his grandpa. He learns some life lessons and discovers that maturing is about more than growing taller and getting a deeper voice. Even though the tone is light, the book touches on important topics such as friendships, love, death, same-sex marriage, and bullying. There are a few scenes of violence, but nothing graphic. The content is tame overall, with no swearing, drinking, or drug use. Archer's friendship with Lynette could spark discussion about how boys and girls navigate friendships with each other.

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Adult Written byMommaKo January 9, 2018

Coming of Age

This book deals with so much more than the other reviews have mentioned- family, strong father/son relationships, death, boy/girl friendships and navigating tho... Continue reading
Parent Written byclaireclaire March 8, 2017

Parents being undermined

Mr. Peck, the author, in interviews says he deliberately wrote this book in the hopes it would be read by younger audiences (young elementary). Why?

To tell... Continue reading

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What's the story?

Archer Magill's narration of his grade school life in THE BEST MAN starts and ends with weddings, the first being a hilarious story of his ill-fated turn as a ring bearer, the second a poignant family wedding in which he understands so much more about life and love. Over the course of the book, Archer inches toward puberty, enduring the sometimes confusing and exasperating world of his schoolmates and teachers. And as confusing as childhood and approaching puberty are for Archer, adulthood is totally baffling. Why can't adults just say what they mean? Fortunately he has his dad, grandpa, and uncle Paul around to help him figure things out. All three are completely different from one another, but each has a sweet and special relationship with Archer. When Mr. McLeod -- the first male teacher at his elementary school -- comes into his life, he gains another role model and starts to look at the world from a slightly more grown-up point of view. He also comes to understand marriage, including same-sex marriage for a gay relative. This book is a sweet and funny look into the brain of a maturing boy who's trying to figure out the world around him.

Is it any good?

Archer Magill is a funny, sweet narrator who hilariously conveys how confusing life can be for kids. The Best Man deftly deals with important topics such as loss of a loved one, bullying, and same-sex marriage without being heavy-handed. This humorous, light touch will resonate with kids for this reason, and it will appeal to parents who can discuss these topics with their kids. Some of the situations that crop up in the book are over the top, and some of the side characters fall into clichés -- for example, the thuggish bully, the prissy know-it-all, and the bumbling teacher. Fortunately, all the main characters are well-developed, interesting, and engaging.

Archer's journey from first grade through sixth and the situations he encounters are fun to follow. He goes from not understanding what's going on around him to eventually keying in on conversations and social nuances. It is nice to see a book show this aspect of maturing into a young adult. Much of the book centers on Archer's relationships with his male role models. They all bring something different to his life and help him grow into a good young man. The story is funny, poignant, and heartwarming. It'll give younger readers a lot to think about while also entertaining them.

Talk to your kids about ...

  • Families can talk about the friendship between a boy and girl in The Best Man. How are boy-girl friendships usually portrayed in books and movies? Do you think it's a big deal for boys and girls to be friends in grade school? Why, or why not?

  • In The Best Man, Archer often doesn't pick up on things that happen around him and needs situations spelled out for him. Do you think this is typical of kids between are 5 and 12? Have you ever had one of those moments when you finally understand things that grown-ups around you are talking about?

  • Do you have any role models in your life? What about these people makes you admire and want to be like them?

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