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By Jan Carr
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based on child development research. How do we rate?
Encouraging advice for kids who feel excluded or less than.
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What's the Story?
THE DAY YOU BEGIN describes various kids who feel different and uncomfortable with their peers at school. For instance, a boy named Rigoberto feels self-conscious about his name. One girl doesn't want to report what she did for the summer since she stayed in the hot city while her classmates took enviable trips. Another girl wonders why her friend wrinkles her nose at the girl's lunch of rice and kimchi. And one boy isn't picked for a team. The author addresses the kids directly, counseling them that if they open up and express themselves, "the world opens itself up a little wider to make some space for you."
Is It Any Good?
This sensitive and emotionally astute book about kids feeling like outsiders addresses kids directly, like welcome advice from a trusted elder, encouraging kids to "share your stories." In The Day You Begin, the prose is poetic but accessible. A teacher pronounces a boy's name "so soft and beautifully that your name and homeland sound like flowers blooming the first bright notes of a song." A girl admires "a jar filled with tiny shells so fragile, they look like they'll turn to dust in your own untraveled hands." Yet the text is never out of reach, and the situations are carefully chosen to be ones kids will relate to -- for instance, not getting picked for a team or hesitating to share in class.
The illustrations by Rafael López fit the text perfectly and are just as welcoming. The art depicts and celebrates kids of different races. On many pages, López also includes a looming measuring stick, which seems to represent the way kids feel they measure up or not. This very inviting art extends a friendly hand just as the kids in the story do.
Talk to Your Kids About ...
Families can talk about the feelings the kids have in The Day You Begin. Do you ever feel that other kids have advantages you don't? What's different about you? What's special? What are your strengths?
Do you ever think other kids might feel bad about or unsure of themselves, too? Have you ever noticed things about other kids you hadn't been aware of before? How do the boy and girl become friends at the end?
Why do you think the illustrator put a ruler or measuring stick on the cover and in many of the pictures? Can you find them all? What do you think they might mean?
Book Details
- Author :
- Illustrator : Rafael Lopez
- Genre : Picture Book
- Topics : Friendship
- Book type : Fiction
- Publisher : Nancy Paulsen Books
- Publication date : August 28, 2018
- Publisher's recommended age(s) : 5 - 8
- Number of pages : 32
- Available on : Nook, Hardback, Apple Books, Kindle
- Last updated : September 30, 2025
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