Parents' Guide to The Leaving Room

The Leaving Room book cover: Silhouette of the head of a teenage Black girl set against a background of mosaic swirls in blue and gold

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Lucinda Dyer By Lucinda Dyer , based on child development research. How do we rate?

age 12+

Haunting, complex, extraordinary story of loss and love.

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What's the Story?

THE LEAVING ROOM is a place children under 17 phase through after death. Gospel is a Keeper, someone who's charged with helping them make that passage. Her Leaving Room has no windows or doors, but she's made it as welcoming as possible for the young Leavers, with paintings on the wall and "dessert, moonsets & warm blankets." Gospel collects memories from the air as the Leavers speak, as Leavers can't take memories with them. The memories harden over the years and turn into marbles she stores in Memory Jars on her bookshelves. When Gospel begins to hear music, she can't imagine where it might be coming from. Then a glittering emerald green door appears and Gospel walks through it into the room of a girl named Melodee, who plays a black and gold violin. Melodee's a Keeper, but unlike Gospel, she's been given a way to leave her room. But only if she can complete everything on a list she's been given—including perfectly performing a symphony. Gospel and Melodee decide to combine their two rooms (very much against the rules) and begin a sweet and tentative romance. Then Gospel wakes one day to find the seams between their rooms have closed and she's alone. Her Memory Jars begin to fall to the floor and shatter. Only one remains and when she opens it, she remembers.


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This deeply moving fantasy explores death, love, and memory in spare and vibrant free verse that's filled with unexpected and dazzling imagery. Readers who've experienced a loss may find The Leaving Room a difficult journey. Each Leaver represents and experiences one of the five stages of grief (denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance). Discussing their stories could be a starting point for a parent and young reader to talk openly about the sorrow that follows the death of a loved one.


Talk to Your Kids About ...

  • Families can talk about the importance of memories in The Leaving Room. If you could change a memory into one of Gospel's marbles, what would it be?

  • How would the story be different if the Leavers had been adults instead of children? Would you like it as much? Why or why not?

  • What would your Leaving Room look like if you were a Keeper?

  • Gospel is compassionate and empathetic to the Leavers who pass through her room. How does her kindness affect the Leavers? Talk about a time someone showed you compassion or empathy. How did it affect you.

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The Leaving Room book cover: Silhouette of the head of a teenage Black girl set against a background of mosaic swirls in blue and gold

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