The Queen Bee and Me
By Joly Herman,
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Relatable story about conformity has strong science content.

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What's the Story?
In The Queen Bee and Me, Meg is a seventh-grader living in a small town in North Carolina. She describes herself as having had anxiety since she was a kid, and she has even fainted a few times because of it. Her best friend, Beatrix, however, has enough confidence for the both of them. But Meg is feeling that her interests are starting to be eclipsed by Beatrix's, and she's getting lost in Beatrix's shadow. When Meg meets a new girl in town named Hazel on the evening of Beatrix's family's annual party for the town, she invites her to join them. She doesn't expect Beatrix to post mean-girl messages that make Hazel feel very unwelcome. Hazel doesn't dress like anybody at their school, and she's not about to apologize for her interest in bees. Meg's upset by about how Beatrix is behaving, but she's too afraid of being dropped by her friend to say anything. When Beatrix finds out that Meg and Hazel are pairing up for a major science project about bees, she starts a secret campaign to turn the whole seventh grade against them. Meg has to learn that her first loyalty is not to her best friend, but to herself and her own interests and principles. Will she be able to face her fears and stand up for what's right?
Is It Any Good?
Approachable and nicely paced, this story of nonconformity adds lots of information about bees. THE QUEEN BEE AND ME doesn't shy away from integrating the scientific method, detailed descriptions of different kinds of bees, and their importance to human survival into the story. Written another way, it could feel like overkill to notice that a bossy character is named Beatrix. But this story is subtle enough to allow the reader to figure that out.
Though the plot could have sprung into action with more intensity at the start, the lessons that the characters learn feel earned at the end. Some characters, like Meg's brother, and her peripheral friends, Arshi and Zoe, could have benefited from a little more detail. But the focus is really on Hazel, the odd kid with the weird sweaters and the bee obsession. Her refusal to conform shines in this story, and Meg is influenced by her strength. Kids will relate to the tricky social footwork that middle school requires. And they'll appreciate Meg's newly found courage and her willingness to do what's right, even if it means eating alone sometimes. But, as her dad says, middle school is a moment, and if you figure out who you are, you've done your job.
Talk to Your Kids About ...
Families can talk about peer pressure in The Queen Bee and Me. Beatrix uses the in-school social network to spread hurtful rumors. How could you see this playing out in social media? How do you react to mean posts or texts?
Moving to a new school is a challenge for lots of kids, which is why it's featured in a lot of movies and books. Which coping strategies have you learned from books or movies?
Beatrix's mom is critical of Beatrix, calling her a "hot mess" in front of her friends. Does hearing that help Meg understand Beatrix's mean behavior? Can you think of instances of positive parent-kid problem solving in shows that you like?
Book Details
- Author: Gillian McDunn
- Genre: Coming of Age
- Topics: STEM, Bugs, Friendship, Great Girl Role Models, Middle School, Science and Nature
- Book type: Fiction
- Publisher: Bloomsbury
- Publication date: March 3, 2020
- Publisher's recommended age(s): 8 - 12
- Number of pages: 288
- Available on: Audiobook (unabridged), Hardback, iBooks, Kindle
- Last updated: April 30, 2020
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