The Sittin' Up
What parents need to know
Parents Need to Know
Parents need to know that The Sittin' Up, set in the Deep South in the 1940s, concerns a community's mourning of a beloved man and may bring up questions about death, its aftermath, and different cultures' funeral customs. Since the departed was the last survivor of slavery in a small African-American community in the South, the story also may prompt discussion of the issues facing black people in the years following the Civil War and the abolition of slavery. Most issues the book raises offer a teaching moment.
What's the story?
Mr. Brother Wiley, the oldest living former slave in the county, has died, leaving the town without a treasured, quiet hero and a boy named Bean without the man who served as the only grandfather he can remember. Bean, his family, and his best friend, a sassy girl named Pole, come to terms with how Mr. Brother Wiley's life affected the entire community. They also face the challenge of bringing the community together to mourn -- while preparing for a threatening storm. The \"sittin' up\" (vigil) for Mr. Brother Wiley is the first Bean and Pole have been old enough to attend, and they're hoping they can honor Mr. Brother Wiley before the storm sends them all to a premature reunion in the hereafter.
Is it any good?
THE SITTIN' UP offers a colorful, engaging look through one young boy's eyes at a community grappling with changing societal norms, a beloved elder's death, and a devastating storm. Readers unfamiliar with the dialect may need to get accustomed to the narrative voice, but author Shelia P. Moses does a wonderful job of capturing the emotions of each moment in authentic language. The book's meandering pace seems slow and a bit stagnant, like a hot summer afternoon, when anticipation for an upcoming event runs high.
The book's unabashed sweetness will resonate with teens and parents, while younger readers may not relate to certain coming-of-age struggles. The story offers plenty of conflicts -- two deaths, Jim Crow South issues, and a terrifying life-or-death struggle against a raging storm -- but also a quiet, undramatic realness.
Families can talk about...
Families can talk about funerals and whether the way they're portrayed in the media is the same as the traditions you're familiar with. How does your family honor the memories of loved ones who've passed away?
What does it mean to be a part of a community? How do members of your community take care of each other? Are there any special activities or events that bring everyone together?
The Sittin' Up shows several men and boys crying in reaction to the death of a beloved old friend. How does this compare with today's social expectations about men and boys showing emotions other than anger? Is it fair to say that men don't cry?