The Way I Used to Be

Book review by Mary Cosola, Common Sense Media
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Common Sense says

age 14+

Teen's life unravels after rape in insightful, sad tale.

Parents say

age 15+

Based on 1 review

Kids say

age 14+

Based on 10 reviews

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age 15+

Beautifully Thorough Book

This book is about a girl who was raped and finds ways to cope with this awful occurrence thought out her highschool career. It does discuss sensitive topics which is why I think only 15 year-olds and up should read this. As a part of her coping, she finds momentary closure with having sexual relations with others. As I was reading this book, I thought that because her decisions, it took a weird turn, but the author has such a beautiful resolution that honestly and very sweetly condones the main character's actions throughout the novel. It's a well written novel and anyone who is looking to understand or gain new perspective, I highly recommend reading this!

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Book Details

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