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10 Things We Should Do Before We Break Up

By Sandie Angulo Chen, Common Sense Media Reviewer

age 15+

Well-acted, mature love story has language, sex scenes.

Movie NR 2020 74 minutes
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Community Reviews

age 18+

Based on 1 parent review

age 18+

Woeful depiction of ‘romance’

Horrendous movie. Wholly inappropriate for children. The woman is impregnated by a philandering manchild. Horrible depiction of ‘romance’, if anything it’s a semi-abusive relationship. If a man cheats on you dump him and never look back. If a man shouts and swears at you or your children chuck him out of your home and life and never look back. Scary. I find it alarming that movie was made in 2020.

This title has:

Too much sex
Too much swearing
Too much drinking/drugs/smoking

Is It Any Good?

Our review:
Parents say: (1):
Kids say: Not yet rated

This short, surprisingly affecting relationship dramedy explores the challenges of attempting a blended family that involves a womanizing bachelor and a cautious divorced mom. Ricci and Linklater are well cast and believable in their roles, and they sell viewers on the titular idea (like kissing -- and just kissing -- to make up, eating breakfast in bed, etc.). There's a tender moment in which Abigail, Benjamin, and the two kids all cuddle together in bed for a family movie night and Benjamin whispers "I had no idea it could be like this ... love, family, and commitment. This is everything I've ever wanted." Audiences will cheer for the not-so-young couple to have truly found a lasting kind of love.

But writer-director Galt Niederhoffer isn't interested in what's easy, predictable, or romantic. 10 Things We Should Do Before We Break Up is about the complicated nature of love, parenting, and relationships. It's heartbreaking at times to see the sweet ups and bitter downs of Abigail and Benjamin's couplehood. And while it's not nearly as moving or memorable as Marriage Story, it has similarly uncomfortable-to-watch arguments that are full of ugly truths ("you're a scary drunk" / "yeah, well, you're a boring sober person") and hurtful proclamations that can't ever be taken back. Strangely satisfying (if not romantic), this is ultimately a movie about Abigail, whose truest love is for her children.

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