Alex Strangelove

Movie review by
Renee Schonfeld, Common Sense Media
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Comedy with heart about teen sexuality; language, drinking.
  • NR
  • 2018
  • 99 minutes

Parents say

age 16+
Based on 2 reviews

Kids say

age 14+
Based on 9 reviews

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The parents' guide to what's in this movie.

Positive Messages

Lots of iffy behavior by teens, but also solidly promotes self-acceptance, self-respect, honest communication, and unconditional friendship. Even if it's difficult and causes problems, everyone has the right to be themselves. "Being angry is an exhausting way to spend your day."

Positive Role Models & Representations

The central character -- who's bright, trustworthy, responsible, and good-hearted -- must come to terms with his sexuality, despite his apprehension. Beneath the movie's comic preoccupation with sex and partying, the teen characters are portrayed as loyal, accepting, and fair-minded. Some stereotypes (i.e. drama club, bullies, geeks). One parental figure is compassionate and wise; others are mostly clueless. Some ethnic diversity.


A fist fight. A bully intimidates a victim.


Sexuality/sexual behavior are central elements of the story. Kids kiss, engage in foreplay and oral sex (off camera), undress (bra and panties, no nudity). Many scenes take place in bed as teens initiate sexual activity. Gender identity/acceptance is a dominant theme. Discussion of characters' virginity.


Near-constant profanity/sexual conversation. Words used include "c--k," "d--k," "balls," "vagina," "penis," "f----t," "ass," "junk," "jerking off," and countless uses of "f--k" and "s--t."


Trojan condoms, Coca-Cola.

Drinking, Drugs & Smoking

Teens drink alcohol, get drunk, and smoke pot in multiple sequences. Raucous partying.

What parents need to know

Parents need to know that Alex Strangelove is a teen comedy that puts sex and sexual orientation front and center. While the characters and situations are funny and light-hearted, the story has a serious core, as a very popular student with a reputation as "the best boyfriend in the world" confronts unacknowledged sexual desires just as he's about to graduate from high school. Teens are portrayed (humorously) as raunchy, obsessed with sex, and unconcerned about social conventions. While there's no on-camera nudity or simulated sex, you can expect lots of sexual activity and racy conversation, including kissing, foreplay, and constant references to sex (including many uses of body-part words like "vagina, "c--k," "penis," and "ball sack"). Swearing and graphic insults are nearly constant, including "bastard," "ass," "f----t," and countless uses of "f--k" and "s--t." Underage teens also drink, get drunk, smoke pot, and party hard. But underneath all of the iffy stuff are strong messages about self-acceptance, self-respect, honest communication, and unconditional friendship.

User Reviews

  • Parents say
  • Kids say
Parent of a 14-year-old Written byAlex527 March 16, 2020

Good LGBTQ+ movie!

an amazing and fun lgbtq comedy! It agnolages more than two sexualities which is nice but has some problematic charechters (uses slurs like f*g) though they are... Continue reading
Adult Written byBen777 December 15, 2018
Teen, 13 years old Written byPurple.lights July 17, 2019

Love it

I saw this movies with a bunch of friends at a sleepover about a year after coming out. There is a lot of sex scenes, but nothing is shown. When Alex got pushed... Continue reading
Teen, 13 years old Written byRossrachel05 February 9, 2019

Great message

Even though the movie may have some mature language, the theme the movie sends out to the viewer is a great and positive message that all teens need to hear.

What's the story?

In ALEX STRANGELOVE, Alex Truelove (Daniel Doheny) seems to have it all. He's president of the senior class, on the fast track to an Ivy League college, and in love with Claire (Madeline Weinstein), a girl who shares his spirit, his intellect, and his tendency to plan ahead. But there's just one problem: Alex can't quite bring himself to take those final, last steps toward a fully intimate relationship with Claire -- i.e. having sex. In a high school like Alex's, where sex is the number one topic of conversation (just ahead of partying, getting drunk, and stoned), the fact that Alex is still a virgin is humiliating for him ... and disappointing for Claire. And so they set a date -- and book a hotel room -- for the "big moment." In the meantime, though, Alex meets Elliott (Antonio Marziale), a charismatic young man who's quite comfortable with his own sexuality. He's gay and is quickly smitten with Alex. It's a fateful, eye-opening experience for Alex. From that moment, no "date setting," no awkward foreplay, and no macho posing, no matter how deep his denial, can keep Alex from recognizing who he truly is.

Is it any good?

Some genuinely funny scenes and predicaments, bright teen characters, and a kind-hearted look at a boy's acceptance of his sexual orientation make this timely film highly enjoyable. An added plus is that the young actors are all very relatable and give earnest, skilled performances. Though writer/director Craig Johnson doesn't avoid some obvious stereotyping (i.e., the drama club party), it's all fun and purposefully over-the-top, as is the constant profanity. Johnson embellishes Alex Strangelove with some quirky animations, flashbacks, and exaggerated tricks-of-the-trade (the gummy worms are unforgettable) that are fine, if sometimes bit too precious. And perhaps Johnson meant to leave the college application subplot unresolved, but it was missed. On a most positive note, the resolution is a lovely exercise in wish fulfillment -- if only it were that easy. Teens will laugh, and it sends a solid message.

Talk to your kids about ...

  • Families can talk about the way Alex Strangelove depicts sexual identity and Alex's emerging awareness of his own orientation. The film and its characters take a loving, non-judgmental approach to Alex. Is that what would happen in your community?

  • How does the movie portray teen drinking and drug use? Are they glamorized? Are there consequences? Why does that matter?

  • Do you think Alex develops any character strengths (such as communication skills and courage) as the story moves forward?

  • Did you notice any stereotyping in the film? If so, did it bother you? Why or why not?

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