A Lot or a Little?
What you will—and won't—find in this movie.
The importance of being true to oneself, even if it may run counter to the values of family members.
Positive Role Models
As director of his own "coming out" story, Hao Wu doesn't flinch from the challenges of revealing that he's gay to his traditional and socially conservative Chinese family, as he and his partner begin their new lives as parents of two children.
Sex, Romance & Nudity
Movie is about coming out as gay.
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Infrequent profanity: "bulls--t," "damn."
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Drinking, Drugs & Smoking
Some beer drinking at family gatherings.
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Parents Need to Know
Parents need to know that All in My Family is a short 2019 documentary about a Chinese filmmaker trying to come out as gay to his traditional and socially conservative extended family. While the documentary is centered on a specific family and culture, director Hao Wu's honest presentation of the apprehensions faced when trying to be true to yourself despite fearing the possible lack of acceptance from beloved relatives could inspire discussion -- particularly between LGBTQ parents and/or kids -- about the real challenges in "coming out" to more conservative family members. In terms of content, there's infrequent profanity ("bulls--t") and some drinking. To stay in the loop on more movies like this, you can sign up for weekly Family Movie Night emails.
Is It Any Good?
On the surface, this short documentary is a coming out story, but it turns out to be so much more. While All in My Family chronicles filmmaker Hao Wu's attempts at coming out to his extended family -- including an elderly grandfather who continues to exhort Wu to find the right woman, marry her, and have kids -- what emerges is that some things will never change. Wu doesn't shy away from the complexities inherent in being a gay man in a very traditional family and a socially conservative culture, and the exasperation, frustration, and apprehension Wu feels is evident throughout. However, the love this family feels for one another, as complex and challenging as that love may be from time to time, also comes through.
The documentary manages to convey so much in such a short time. It would be easy to imagine less skilled (or more narcissistic) filmmakers trying to pad this story into a feature-length documentary. Wu, however, keeps the documentary tightly focused, allowing the family members to reveal who they are without stepping in unless necessary to provide context. The honesty in the presentation is what makes this a standout documentary. Wu is unafraid to show how vulnerable he really is in this situation, and the result is a candid glimpse into a family trying to make sense of each other.
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