Parents' Guide to

All of Us Strangers

By Jeffrey M. Anderson, Common Sense Media Reviewer

age 15+

Gentle, tender, mature romance about ghosts, second chances.

Movie R 2023 105 minutes
All of Us Strangers Movie Poster: Adam (Andrew Scott) is front and center, tilting his head up to the sky, with his eyes closed, while Harry (Paul Mescal) looks at him from the left

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age 15+

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age 15+

What if we could just talk to those that died when we still needed them?

The film is slow in spots at first, but the film delivers in powerful ways in the third act and all of that time that felt slow is reimagined and suddenly you are clinging to these characters, feeling the emptiness as they leave. Scott is excellent at vacillating between grief, regret, trauma, and an immense sadness that seems to permeate every pore. His desperation is palpable as is his 12 year old anguish. It is a ghost story that walks us through grief in a way that feels both satisfying and leaves us out on a limb where we have to keep living and experiencing loneliness that has been built up over a lifetime. Haunting, beautiful and full of love, family cruelty and pain.

Is It Any Good?

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This drama might sound offbeat, but director Andrew Haigh's gentle, exploring tones make everything seem quite natural. It's a ghost story, perhaps, but there's more than one kind of ghost. Based loosely on a novel by Taichi Yamada and adapted by Haigh, All of Us Strangers is an exceptionally quiet movie, lingering in the spaces between memory and time. Adam is lost, formed by emptiness springing from a tragic childhood and growing up gay during the AIDS crisis. While he seems settled in his life, he frequently answers "I don't know" when asked questions (Scott's performance is deeply affecting). Haigh often shows characters in reflection, indicating their indistinct, perhaps temporary, nature -- and, of course, he never directly answers the question of how Adam's parents are there; they just are.

The relationship between Adam and Harry is refreshingly easy, even tender. When Adam returns from a trip, feverish from having been caught in the rain, Harry draws him a bath. And the conversations between the parents and Adam are extremely open, exploring past hurts and Adam's sexuality, all with thoughtfulness rather than hysteria. In the end, All of Us Strangers doesn't leave off with a clear theme; instead, it suggests that maybe that which is already broken cannot be unbroken, but love helps.

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