Can You Keep a Secret?

Movie review by
Tara McNamara, Common Sense Media
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"Be yourself" romcom has strong messages, sexual situations.
  • NR
  • 2019
  • 94 minutes

Parents say

age 15+
Based on 3 reviews

Kids say

age 10+
Based on 1 review

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Positive Messages

The only path to true love is being true to yourself. Cautionary tale: Getting romantically involved with the boss often creates more challenges than opportunities. Communication is a clear theme.

Positive Role Models & Representations

This film is told from the female perspective, and those telling the story include a female director, female producers, and female cinematographer. While the main characters match the Hollywood norm (awkward, average White girl falls for rich, handsome White guy), positive diversity choices include casting a Black transgender actress to play a tough but compassionate boss who's an excellent leader.


Characters aren't shown having sex, but there's plenty of talk, innuendo, and implications of it happening under the covers. On a first date, a couple engages in a passionate make-out session during which clothes come off; the film then cuts to a post-sex cuddle. In a comically graphic scene, one character explains to another what he's doing right and wrong in bed, gesturing with hands and tongue. A woman consistently dresses in clothing that's meant to be interpreted as revealing. A naked rear end is completely exposed in a way that's not meant to be appealing.


Multiple uses of "f--k" and "s--t," plus "douche bag," "goddamn," and "Jesus" (as an exclamation).


Apple computers in an office. Tinder and My Little Pony are referred to for a laugh.

Drinking, Drugs & Smoking

Wine is served in social situations. It's implied (but not crystal clear) that the main character drank too much sparkling wine, which leads to behavior that causes a handsome man to fall for her.

What parents need to know

Parents need to know that Can You Keep a Secret? is a romcom based on a popular novel by Sophie Kinsella. The film explores the idea that we hide who we really are from other people, thinking they'd reject or ridicule us if they knew our true selves. It shows that communicating and sharing vulnerabilities are tools that can bring couples together -- but so, it suggests, is Champagne. After drinking too much, main character Emma (Alexandra Daddario) reveals her secrets to a stranger, which he finds appealing. Emma has a couple of workplace romances, including secretly dating the founder of the company. Characters are in their late 20s/early 30s, and there are many sexual situations, plus innuendo and blunt gesturing; they also curse ("f--k," "s--t,"etc.). The supporting cast is notably diverse.

User Reviews

  • Parents say
  • Kids say
Parent of a 11-year-old Written byMarie H. September 6, 2021

Cute, predictable, romantic comedy but too much sexual content for younger crowd

Read the book as an adult and enjoyed it. Cute romantic comedy but several scenes with sexual humor and oral sex. Too graphic for preteens and young teens. Cut... Continue reading
Adult Written byDiana-parent of... October 10, 2020

Worthwhile, fun, and has a good lesson in the end.

I almost didn't let me 15 yr old watch it due to the review that mentions a scarring oral sex scene. Turns out, nothing is actually shown, everything is im... Continue reading
Teen, 14 years old Written byprettylittleliars2 February 18, 2021

What's the story?

In CAN YOU KEEP A SECRET?, when her plane seems like it's about to crash, Emma (Alexandra Daddario) confesses her secrets to the handsome stranger sitting next to her (Tyler Hoechlin). They happily survive, but the next day, the same man walks into her workplace, and Emma is shocked to discover that he's the mysterious absentee CEO of her company. Uh-oh!

Is it any good?

This romcom lacks both polish and information, but the plot points, dialogue, and characters suggest that the novel is a must-read. Not that Can You Keep a Secret? doesn't try hard -- it does. And no one tries harder than Daddario (who's also an executive producer): She's believable as the awkward, mousy Emma, who can't believe that a handsome, successful man is interested in her. And overall, the film is a strong example of diversity. What's really remarkable is how unremarkably the story includes a mix of races, sexualities, and genders in all of its roles (including Black transgender actress Laverne Cox as a wonderful boss who's commanding yet caring). You don't even think about it, and it's not seen as special -- it just is. It's that kind of representation that eventually changes the world.

And it makes sense, because that's the moral of this story: Be comfortable in your skin, because what makes you unique is what makes you lovable. That's a message that today's teens need to hear in a world in which social media encourages them to show the filtered, Photoshopped, happy version of themselves. Here, we get dancing lawyers, a body-positive roommate, and a boyfriend who unapologetically goes pantsless in safe spaces. All are embracing who they are no matter what others think -- after all, the person who will fall in love with you will fall in love with you. Can You Keep a Secret? provides both laugh-out-loud moments and cringey ones. It could be much better, but it deserves praise for its positive messages and representations that come through loud and clear. 

Talk to your kids about ...

  • Families can talk about the balance of revealing and concealing personal information. Is there information you should keep to yourself? Can everyone be trusted with your secrets? Why is communication important in successful relationships?

  • The film hinges on two people keeping each other's secrets. Why is it important to not break a trust, even if you think it's not important? How does Emma demonstrate self-control, even when she's been hurt? Can friends, in an effort to be encouraging, sometimes lead us down the wrong path?

  • Why is it important to see diverse characters and role models in the media? Do you think a female director and female director of photography are better at telling a woman's story -- or does it matter?

  • Do you think dating co-workers is OK? What if people are at opposite ends of the company hierarchy -- does that make a difference? Why?

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