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Positive Role Models
The characters are mostly terrible people who assault an older woman.
Violence & Scariness
Frequent sexual violence played for comedy. Men and women frequently sexually assault older woman, try to get her clothes off, and take a picture of her genitals. They lock the older woman in an apartment with them. During one of the assaults, the older woman has a heart attack and collapses. A woman takes out a knife and forces a man to sexually assault an older woman while saying, "I'll rape your trachea." A story is mentioned of a woman piercing the eye of a bird, killing it. A woman defecates on a bed.
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Sex, Romance & Nudity
Frequent references to sex and sexual practices. Some full-frontal male and female nudity. Sex scenes show moaning and sounds of sexual activity. A man goes to a sex worker and buys oral sex. A young woman is shamed for having sex with 4 men at once. A man dreams he romantically kisses his naked mother (nudity not shown). A man has a sex dream about his wife (no nudity). A naked woman and a naked man are shown at the bottom of shot glasses. Some romantic kissing.
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Strong language throughout includes: "f--k," "f--kng," "s--t," "a--hole," "p---y," "d--k," "pr--k," "damn," "vagina," "tranny," "blowjob," "suck," "bastard," and "piss off."
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Products & Purchases
References to Polaroid, YouTube, TripAdvisor, and WhatsApp.
Drinking, Drugs & Smoking
Adults smoke cigarettes often. Adults drink alcohol over a meal. A man takes horse tranquilizer medicine and later passes out.
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Parents Need to Know
Parents need to know that Dear Mother is a French dramatic comedy based on a 2013 play by Sébastien Thiery about a professionally successful man experiencing a midlife crisis of boredom. While a comedy, still expect many scenes that show 2 men and a woman repeatedly trying to remove the clothing of an older woman who doesn't give her consent. They try many different schemes to accomplish this goal. In addition to the sexual violence, an older woman collapses from a heart attack, a woman with a knife threatens sexual violence to a man, and a young woman is shamed for having sex with multiple partners. There's male and female full-frontal nudity (not erect penises), frank discussions about sex, sexual practices, and intimacy, sex work, oral sex, a few sex scenes, and sexual noises. Adults frequently smoke cigarettes, and a man passes out from taking horse tranquilizers. Strong language throughout includes: "f--k," "f--king," "s--t," "a--hole," "p---y," "d--k," "pr--k," "damn," "vagina," "tranny," "blowjob," "suck," "bastard," and "piss off." To stay in the loop on more movies like this, you can sign up for weekly Family Movie Night emails.
Is It Any Good?
This comedy is often wacky and ridiculous, but too much of its chaos is too hard not to grimace at. The performances in Dear Mother are committed, zany, goofy, and even admirable, especially given what's asked of them, but unfortunately the commitments of the performers can't save this Freudian inspired story of a man needing a photograph of his mother's vagina. For many viewers, it will feel just too icky to try to look for laughs while watching 3 adults sexually assault an older woman over and over, and to the point of her almost dying. The premise has to do with something about Jean-Louis needing to rectify his relationship with his mother, or he will die. And in order to do that he needs the photo. Because the photo will accomplish that magically, instantly, evidently. But over the course of the film, nothing about the journey nor its conclusion (the attaining of the photograph of his mother's vagina) has anything to do with Jean-Louis's relationship with his mother. In other words, by the end, Jean-Louis isn't all of a sudden "closer" to his mother nor is their relationship better, fixed, or different, really, at all. The only difference is that in the last however many days, her son, and his wife and friend, repeatedly sexually assaulted her, the friend even posing as a gynecologist, an infatuated lover, and a nude photographer. Sure, "hilarity" ensues, but the logic of the story doesn't make sense.
And the conclusion seems to suggest that through sexual violence, lying, manipulation, coercion, and false imprisonment one's goals can be achieved? The plot is basically a pro-Machiavellian exercise. Of all the goals or things the main character could've done to achieve or attain, why this goal? Because the idea, itself, is funny? Because it then authorizes scene after scene of sexual assault? Or is that merely a "comedic" bonus? Either way, what the film ends up with is an older woman character who is basically in the film only to be attacked. She is continuously "tricked" into believing her son actually wants to spend time with her and is eventually imprisoned to suffer attack after attack until she suffers a stroke or heart attack (isn't clarified).
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