Destination Wedding

Movie review by
Jeffrey M. Anderson, Common Sense Media
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Romance is brainy, talky, and delightful; sex, language.
  • R
  • 2018
  • 86 minutes

Parents say

age 18+
Based on 1 review

Kids say

age 9+
Based on 1 review

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The parents' guide to what's in this movie.

Positive Messages

No matter how cynical, world-weary, or over-analytical we become, there's always hope for a connection -- and possibly for love.

Positive Role Models & Representations

The characters are clearly very smart, but they spend a lot of time arguing and looking on the negative side of things.


Characters run across a mountain lion; one makes noises and chases it away. Tumble down a hill. Lots of arguing. Brief, verbal story about a man being shot and a scuffle.


Fairly graphic sex scene: No nudity, but one partner is shown on top of the other, with constant thrusting, for a long while. Loud moaning. Kissing. Discussion of pansexual man. Groom makes out with his new bride. Sex-related talk. Couple falls asleep together.


Very strong language, with many uses of "f--k" and "s--t." Also "bitch," "goddamn," "oh my God," "Jesus Christ" (as an exclamation), "vagina," "penis," "stupid," "douche bag," "idiot," "pissed off." Middle-finger gestures.


Trader Joe's and Pringles mentioned.

Drinking, Drugs & Smoking

Character gets tipsy while drinking wine on plane. Characters drink wine in hotel room. Wine tasting with wedding party.

What parents need to know

Parents need to know that Destination Wedding is a romance in which two cynical characters (Keanu Reeves and Winona Ryder) talk a lot and make a love connection during a wedding. Expect frequent strong language, with many uses of "f--k," "s--t," and more. A fairly graphic sex scene includes lots of thrusting and loud, orgasmic moaning. And there's also plenty of sex-related talk, kissing, etc. Characters drink wine in several scenes, and a woman gets tipsy on a plane. One character briefly describes a violent incident in which he was shot, and there's lots of arguing. Characters are also frightened by a mountain lion; one chases it away by making noise, and they tumble down a hill while escaping. This is the fifth movie that Reeves and Ryder have made together, and their chemistry (along with the movie's general intelligence, humor, and pleasantness) helps sell it.

User Reviews

  • Parents say
  • Kids say
Adult Written byNiweera December 10, 2018

Really good romcom which give away some messages.

Keanu Reeves is not your average John Wick in this movie where he is a charming man with a hint of cynicism and depression. However, he is on the path to find t... Continue reading
Teen, 13 years old Written byIkeabird September 13, 2019

Weird but not bad

Very different than a normal movie but not bad

What's the story?

In DESTINATION WEDDING, Lindsay (Winona Ryder) meets Frank (Keanu Reeves) at the airport just as they're both about to hop on a small plane to San Luis Obispo for the same "destination" wedding. They take an instant dislike to each other and so are dismayed to discover that they're sitting together on the plane ... and then staying next door to each other at the hotel. Then, while sitting together at the rehearsal dinner, they bond over their mutual distaste for the groom, who's Frank's half-brother and Lindsay's ex-boyfriend. During the wedding, they take a walk in the hills and encounter a mountain lion. They escape and make love on a hillside. But later, talking in bed, they're too cynical to admit that they might have a good thing and essentially talk themselves out of continuing to see each other. Could there still be hope?

Is it any good?

This story about two narcissistic, cynical characters could quickly have become irritating, but the tone stays light and prickly, and the enormously appealing stars have fine chemistry. Writer/director Victor Levin is perhaps best known for penning many episodes of the TV series Mad About You and directing another two-character piece (indie movie 5 to 7). He's very good at the kind of intellectually romantic dialogue on display in Destination Wedding, in which characters analyze their every move, even as their emotions chart a different course.

As director, Levin stages an admirably simple, almost experimental, movie, with the two stars performing largely in sustained two-shots, with an occasional reverse angle or cutaway and then a few beautiful "pillow" shots of San Luis Obispo to emphasize the leisurely weekend. No other characters really come into it; they're shown only at a distance and never heard speaking. The gentle score also elevates the mood, creating smiles out of supposedly downbeat conversations. Ryder and Reeves are, of course, old hands at this. They sink into their characters flawlessly and work together effortlessly. Their screen relationship began back in 1992 with Bram Stoker's Dracula and has lasted over the course of five movies, including this one. Destination Wedding is as weightless as a weekend getaway, but it's a treat.

Talk to your kids about ...

  • Families can talk about how Destination Wedding depicts sex. Is it silly, or is it supposed to be titillating? What values are imparted?

  • How is drinking portrayed? Is it made to look glamorous? Are there consequences? Why does that matter?

  • Why are these characters appealing, even though they tend to be so negative? Do you think there's hope for them? Why or why not?

  • What does it mean when actors have "chemistry"? Do you think Ryder and Reeves have it?

Movie details

  • In theaters: August 31, 2018
  • On DVD or streaming: November 6, 2018
  • Cast: Winona Ryder, Keanu Reeves
  • Director: Victor Levin
  • Studio: Regatta
  • Genre: Romance
  • Run time: 86 minutes
  • MPAA rating: R
  • MPAA explanation: language throughout and sexual content
  • Last updated: September 20, 2019

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