Parents' Guide to Every Breath You Take

Movie R 2021 105 minutes
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Tara McNamara By Tara McNamara , based on child development research. How do we rate?

age 15+

Mature thriller about grief explores intense emotions.

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What's the Story?

EVERY BREATH YOU TAKE follows a psychiatrist named Philip Clark (Casey Affleck) who's treating a woman named Daphne (Emily Alyn Lind) using an unusual approach. After he shares his findings in a professional setting, she dies via suicide. With his career and credibility in jeopardy, Philip is unaware of his family's attachments to Daphne's brother, James (Sam Claflin).

Is It Any Good?

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For adults, this Cape Fear wannabe could be seen as a flawed script with characters who make iffy decisions -- but for families with older teens, it could actually be subconsciously brilliant. Thanks to the film's third-person perspective, viewers' suspicions are raised about the interloper in the Clark family before the characters start to feel like something is off. As with a good horror film, we scream at the screen: "No! Don't do it!" Viewers may find themselves feeling smarter than the characters -- and that can be particularly useful when it comes to teens. It's almost a practice run for actively recognizing dangerous situations; kids who are faced with a relatable situation in real life may be more likely to listen to their intuition because they've "been in" this situation before.

Plus, by making the lead character a psychiatrist who works in a university setting, behavioral patterns are identified. The rich irony is that Dr. Clark helps other people cope with their mental health challenges while his own family is falling apart. There's a great lesson to be learned here about the power of communication when it's so abundantly clear how the lack of it is destroying the Clark family. And at the same time, unfolding the mistakes of "an expert" (even a fictional one) allows parents to be more aware of the ways we interact with our own families. So while some plot points in Every Breath You Take will likely leave you shaking your head (the ending's "big reveal" logically could have been dealt with at the beginning with a simple internet search), the film has the potential to foster empathy and understanding about the fact that we all handle our trauma differently, and not always well -- and that a little compassion can go a long way. A weak film that's actually doing some good? That's some excellent reverse psychology.

Talk to Your Kids About ...

  • Families can talk about the importance of communication in a family. How does lack of communication create deeper issues for the Clarks?

  • Discuss the moments in which each of the Clarks pauses before ignoring their intuition or better judgment. How can predators take advantage of kindness?

  • How are the suspense/thriller and horror genres related? Why is it empowering to know when the characters are about to make a poor decision?

  • How is the setting of Every Breath You Take -- the family's home -- symbolic of the family's relationship to one another?

  • How does Philip demonstrate self-control? What are the possible consequences -- positive or negative -- that might have occurred had he not self-regulated his emotions?

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