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First They Killed My Father: A Daughter of Cambodia Remembers

By Renee Longstreet, Common Sense Media Reviewer

age 16+

Poignant, violent story of child during Khmer Rouge's reign.

Movie NR 2017 135 minutes
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Anne K.
Anne K. Adult
September 15, 2017
age 14+

As seen through the eyes of a child

This will be panned and overlooked for what its not by people too narrow minded to appreciate what it is. If you forget who made it, forget that a woman directed it, only then will it get recognition on its merit and artistry in film making.

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What's the Story?

Phnom Penh, Cambodia, is home to the large, happy Ung family when armed soldiers of the Khmer Rouge move into the city in FIRST THEY KILLED MY FATHER: A DAUGHTER OF CAMBODIA REMEMBERS. Given only moments to evacuate their comfortable home, "Pa" (an excellent Phoeung Kompheak) shepherds his loved ones, including Loung (Sareum Srey Moch), a little girl who appears to perceive every nuance in her surroundings, through the crowds leaving the city. It's an exodus that leads to brutality, starvation, and terror. A series of makeshift shelters, camps, and hideouts become temporary homes, as the Ung family prays that Pa's government affiliation won't be uncovered. As the atrocities escalate and some can't be saved, the family is separated. Loung finds herself alone and part of an intensive effort to indoctrinate the children and turn them into soldiers. Only a clear mind, a resilient spirit, and her devotion to her family enable Loung to survive and return to the arms of whatever family she may have left.

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This artful depiction of the brutality visited upon the Cambodian people by the Khmer Rouge is even more affecting because it's seen only through the eyes and heart of a 7-year-old girl. Filmmaker Angelina Jolie, noted for her personal commitment to children around the globe, has found the perfect vehicle for that commitment, and Sareum Srey Moch is stunning as Loung. Like its predecessors, Empire of the Sun and Beasts of No Nation, the film tells a war story by showing a child's fear, grief, and ultimate resilience. Jolie is careful to keep moments of extreme violence to a minimum. What Loung sees, the audience sees, and it's enough. If bearing witness is a reason for movies to exist, First They Killed My Father has strong purpose. Recommended for mature teens.

Talk to Your Kids About ...

  • Families can talk about the violence in First They Killed My Father. Is it harder to watch the violence in this film because you know it's a true story? What's the impact of media violence on kids? Do you think that impact is even greater when the story is based on actual facts?

  • In what ways does this story have relevance today? Are you aware of the places around the globe with such continuing conflict? Why is it important to be aware of such events? What is meant by the movie's statement: "A daughter remembers so that others may never forget."

  • How does the movie emphasize such important character strengths as perseverance and courage?

  • Did this movie motivate you to learn more about the events in Cambodia and other Southeast Asian countries during the 1960s and 1970s? How could you find out more?

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