Parents' Guide to Funny Boy

Movie NR 2020 109 minutes
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Kat Halstead By Kat Halstead , based on child development research. How do we rate?

age 15+

Queer coming-of-age story has violence and racism.

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What's the Story?

In FUNNY BOY, young Tamil boy, Arjie (Arush Nand), is beginning to explore his sexuality. While his father attempts to quash his "girly tendencies," his free-spirited aunt shares secret make-up sessions and encourages his individuality. As he moves into his teenaged years, Arjie (now played by Brandon Ingram) falls for his Sinhalese classmate Shehan (Rehan Mudannayake) -- a relationship doomed both due to the illegality of homosexuality and the tensions between the two ethnicities during a time of civil war.

Is It Any Good?

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Adapted from Shyam Selvaduri's novel of the same name, director Deepa Mehta's imbues the story of a boy coming of age against the backdrop of the Sri Lankan civil war with warmth and humor. With both young and older Arjie (Nand and Ingram) delivering intimate, captivating performances -- alongside the poignant technique of momentarily switching the young and old actors to connect the journey -- the movie is engrossing at every turn. Early scenes are rich with color and a sense of near-freedom, as Arjie dresses as a bride with his friends and later shares secrets and make-up sessions with his free-spirited aunt (Agam Darshi) who teaches him that nobody messes with "the grand diva."

As the movie develops, similar abandon is seen in scenes with Arjie's boyfriend, Shehan, as the two bond over Western music and dance naked together, full of joy. While impacting on the story throughout, the atrocities of the civil war are very much a backdrop here. The movie has caused some controversy in its portrayal of the Tamil experience, as well as the decision to cast non-Tamil actors in Tamil parts, some of whom struggled with the language. Yet, as a story of burgeoning sexuality and self-discovery, amid familial, cultural, and political turmoil, Funny Boy truly soars.

Talk to Your Kids About ...

  • Families can talk about how Funny Boy depicts the challenges Arjie faces growing up. Is the movie respectful of and empathetic to his situation? Does it give viewers a deeper understanding of the social and cultural forces that shape his life? Do you think Arjie would face the same challenges today?

  • Discuss the violence in the movie. What role does war play in the story? How to talk to kids about violence, crime, and war.

  • How does the movie convey themes of courage, curiosity and perseverance? Why are those important character strengths?

  • Discuss the some of the language -- including homophobic slurs -- used. Does it seem necessary or excessive? What does it contribute to the movie?

  • How is gender explored within the movie?

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