Happiest Season

Movie review by
Monique Jones, Common Sense Media
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Parents recommend
Sweet holiday romcom about coming out; drinking, language.
  • PG-13
  • 2020
  • 102 minutes

Parents say

age 12+
Based on 7 reviews

Kids say

age 11+
Based on 9 reviews

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The parents' guide to what's in this movie.

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Positive Messages

Courage can help you be your true self despite fears of possible disapproval. The drawbacks of hiding your true self are made clear, as are the rewards for self-acceptance. Empathy can help you imagine what others are going through and sympathize with them. It's important for parents to love their children as they are, not as they want them to be.

Positive Role Models

Characters are complex, which means that both their good and bad sides are explored. They're great examples of flawed people who are learning to live more truthfully and in harmony with one another. The lessons learned from the characters' mistakes go further to teach audiences than any of the characters' positive attributes. Main characters are White, but there are some diverse representations within the supporting cast. The character of John plays into "gay male best friend" romcom stereotypes.


Adult siblings fight physically during a climactic moment, with some minor destruction of property. The moment is used for both comedic effect and drama. Arguing/sharp words.


Brief scene in which suggested BDSM is used for a punchline. Suggested sex scene and a brief scene with characters redressing, with underwear shown on screen. Kissing/affection between a committed couple.


Language isn't frequent but includes "s--t" and "hell."


Product placement for Brilliant Earth jewelry. Scene showcasing Pittsburgh restaurant Merchant Oyster Co. 

Drinking, Drugs & Smoking

Characters drink frequently, at parties, bars, and a family gathering. Beer, shots, and more. Characters talk about wanting "alcohol" as a way to avoid upsetting thoughts/conversations.

What parents need to know

Parents need to know that Happiest Season is a funny, heartfelt Christmas-themed romcom about a young woman named Harper (Mackenzie Davis) who brings her girlfriend (Kristen Stewart) home for the holidays but hasn't told her family about her relationship -- or her sexuality. Expect some strong language ("s--t," "hell," etc.), kissing, and implied sex, as well as a fair bit of drinking. But overall the film offers a powerful message about having the courage to be yourself, especially amid the fear of familial rejection. Both parents and kids can learn from Harper's struggle to accept herself and be truly happy with who she is. Some viewers may also relate to Harper's parents in terms of the movie's themes about admitting their mistakes and helping their children feel accepted exactly as they are. 

User Reviews

  • Parents say
  • Kids say
Adult Written byMomoftween November 27, 2020

Heartwarming romantic comedy

This is a great movie. Love to see queer representation. My 10-year-old daughter and I watched this. She and I both loved it. There was implication that sex... Continue reading
Parent of a 11-year-old Written byMishaleclair December 20, 2020

Beautiful holiday story about loving yourself and your children

This movie surprised me in a good way. All the makings of a family holiday and rom-com. It was funnier than expected, thanks to the great ensemble cast. I’m str... Continue reading
Teen, 13 years old Written byRickAstleysTwin... November 27, 2020

Lgbtqiap+ Romantic Comedy About Coming Out

Parents and Teens should know that Happiest Season is a lgbtqiap+ holiday movie. Overall the meaning of the movie is to be true to yourself even in trying circu... Continue reading
Teen, 15 years old Written bybookworm701 November 25, 2020

Best LGTBQIAP+ Rom Com Ever!!

Great Messages:
There so many great messages in this movie such as nobody's perfect, there is no such thing as perfect, and that it's always better to... Continue reading

What's the story?

HAPPIEST SEASON tells the story of Harper (Mackenzie Davis), a young woman living in Pittsburgh with her girlfriend, Abby (Kristen Stewart). Harper invites Abby to spend the holidays with her family, but then -- at the last minute -- confesses that she hasn't come out to her parents or told them about Abby. The situation leads to a heartfelt comedy of errors that brings Abby in contact with Harper's family: her sisters -- uptight Sloane (Alison Brie) and creative Jane (Mary Holland) -- and her parents, mayoral hopeful Ted (Victor Garber) and wife Tipper (Mary Steenburgen). And then there's both Harper's ex-boyfriend, Connor (Jake McDorman), and her ex-girlfriend, Riley (Aubrey Plaza). Harper's reluctance to come out to those around her begins to take its toll on her relationship with Abby (who vents to both her friend John, played by Daniel Levy, and to Riley). Can Harper overcome her fear -- and save her relationship?

Is it any good?

Written and directed by Clea DuVall, this romcom is groundbreaking in that it's one of the few LGBTQ+-themed films made for the holiday season. But Happiest Season ultimately hits many of the same beats that a holiday film about a heterosexual, cisgender couple would. For better or worse, this makes it feel immediately comfortable and familiar. The cast does a great job at keeping the film feeling light, funny, and heartwarming. And the film's humor also ensures that the tough, complex subject of coming out never gets too dramatic or possibly triggering. But the retreading of popular holiday movie/romcom themes does prevent the film from breaking out of traditional Hollywood modes. For instance, Levy's character, John, embodies several too-familiar "gay male best friend" stereotypes -- i.e. characters who are often mysteriously devoid of familial ties, always have snappy comebacks ready, and are the emotional backup for their best friend when needed. John does have a more serious, expansive moment when he counsels Abby on Harper's reticence to come out to her family, citing how some families disown or disapprove of children who identify within the LGBQ spectrum and talking about his own traumatic coming-out experience. But beyond this, John remains a character of cliches, which is unfortunate in a film like this, which overall aims to break stereotypes.

Davis does well with Harper, who could be read as unlikable or even manipulative. Harper's fear of her parents' reaction to her sexuality is understandable, and the regretful actions she takes can be put into the context of that fear. But compared to Stewart's likable Abby, who's comfortable with herself, Harper can seem like she's taking advantage of Abby's love and devotion. Things only ramp up when viewers learn more about what Harper did to Riley in the past, making you wonder whether Abby and Riley should be together instead. But Harper's fear is only part of the problem with her dysfunctional family, and her courage to be herself eventually helps the rest of her family members be themselves, too, bringing the film back to its ;roots of togetherness, happiness, and holiday cheer. Despite its flaws, Happiest Season does remind audiences that, for many people, the point of the holidays is to be with family and celebrate love and joy. And the film's message that everyone deserves love, understanding, and empathy rings true.

Talk to your kids about ...

  • Families can talk about how it feels to stand up for yourself. How can you muster courage to speak up despite your fears? How do Happiest Season's characters demonstrate -- and learn -- empathy? How can family members practice empathy in real life?

  • Did you notice any stereotyping in the movie? If so, which characters? Why are stereotypes harmful?

  • How does feeling accepted feel vs. not feeling accepted? How can you practice self-acceptance? What message do you think parents are intended to take away from the film? What about kids?

  • How does the movie portray drinking? Why do characters drink? Do their reasons seem justified?

  • How does Happiest Season compare to other romcoms you've seen? What's similar, and what's different? Why do you think holiday movies so often have a romance plot?

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