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How to Deal
By Nell Minow,
Common Sense Media Reviewer
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Even Moore fans may find this hard to deal with.

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Based on 3 parent reviews
Fairly decent teen comedy.
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Good film/Relatable for teens
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What's the Story?
Mandy Moore plays Halley (named for the comet), hurt and angry because her radio-host father has left her mother for a younger woman. She thinks her sister's new engagement to a straight-laced young man as the divorce becomes final and her father announces (on his radio show) his own marriage plans is insensitive. When her best friend's boyfriend dies very suddenly, it seems to Halley that love can never work out well. So she tries to ignore her feelings for Macon (Trent Ford), a guy whose primary appeal seems to be the fact that most of his face is hidden by his bangs.
Is It Any Good?
Alison Janney and Dylan Baker do their best not to appear to be slumming, but the movie keeps tripping itself up on idiotic developments that are supposed to be comic. There's Halley's pot-smoking grandmother (played by 1940's movie star Nina Foch) and the stuffy family of the sister's fiance, and idiotic developments that are supposed to be touching (like a car accident). And it also has the worst costume design of any movie in decades.
HOW TO DEAL is based on two popular books by Sarah Dessen. The books' fans -- and Moore's -- will enjoy the movie. But those not already committed to the star or the books will find the movie hard going, because director Claire Kilner and screenwriter Neena Beeber demonstrate stunning ineptitude in translating written material to the screen. The story, the characters, and the relationships seem to go in completely different directions from scene to scene. Without knowing what's in the books, it is not episodic; it is incoherent. And the dialogue is just painful. Deal me out.
Talk to Your Kids About ...
Families can talk about how it can be hard to take emotional risks -- but harder not to.
Movie Details
- In theaters: July 18, 2003
- On DVD or streaming: December 9, 2003
- Cast: Allison Janney , Mandy Moore , Trent Ford
- Director: Clare Kilner
- Inclusion Information: Female actors
- Studio: New Line
- Genre: Drama
- Run time: 100 minutes
- MPAA rating: PG-13
- MPAA explanation: sexual content, drug material, language and some thematic elements
- Last updated: November 24, 2022
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