A Lot or a Little?
What you will—and won't—find in this movie.
Not much to hold onto here except unconditional love a son has for his mother. The importance of education.
Positive Role Models
Shuhei's mother, Akiko, is a liar, thief, and overall immoral person. She uses sex to manipulate men, drinks excessively, and neglects and abuses her son. She blackmails someone by telling her son to lie about being molested. Most of the other adults in Akiko's orbit are bad men or men just looking for sex. Her boyfriend, Ryo, often beats her despite Shuhei's weak attempts to stop him. The grandparents, sister, and social worker seem to be decent people, however.
Violence & Scariness
Lots of emotional violence directed toward a young child, up close yelling and screaming. Knives and stabbings, bloody wounds, facial cuts and bruising. Hitting, fighting, beatings. Young boy covered in blood after killing his grandparents. Multiple scenes of Akiko's abusive boyfriend, Ryo, beating, punching, slapping, and kicking her. Ryo also violently throws young Shuhei onto a bed.
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Sex, Romance & Nudity
Many scenes after sex with skin showing, bare shoulders, and men in underwear. Frequent passionate kissing, touching, and groping. Open talk about sex around young children. Assisted masturbation in a car, implied sex in hotel rooms, and depiction of sex undercovers. Nonsexual bubble bath with couple and child. The boy's bare buttocks are shown prior to the bubble bath. No nudity except for a man's testicles casually visible during scene on a bed.
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Frequent use of "bitch" and "ass," and mild use of "s--t."
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Drinking, Drugs & Smoking
Lots of drinking and smoking, often around kids.
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Parents Need to Know
Parents need to know that Mother is a Japanese drama based on a true story about an abusive mother and her son that contains lots of emotional violence and many scenes sexual in nature. Main character Akiko has no problem talking about sex around her 8-year-old (and later 13-year-old) son Shuhei, nor does she have a problem with getting him to lie, steal, and ultimately, kill. She abandons him for days on end a few times, leaving young Shuhei to fend for himself. They are often seen dirty and hungry and for periods live on the street. A few sex scenes under covers; a man's testicles casually visible during scene on a bed. Many scenes end in implied sex and Shuhei leaving the scene to go buy beer, candy, or cigarettes, as he's told. Some strong language includes "s--t," "bitch," and "ass." Characters often smoke and drink, often near kids. The film is dark, sad, and hard to watch. Multiple scenes of Akiko's abusive boyfriend, Ryo, beating, punching, slapping, and kicking her. Ryo also violently throws young Shuhei onto a bed. Stabbings, including two grandparents and another man. To stay in the loop on more movies like this, you can sign up for weekly Family Movie Night emails.
Is It Any Good?
Tatsushi Ohmori captures the tragic grip and violent destruction of abuse, but offers no light at the end of the tunnel, no redemption for its characters or viewers, and no pleasure in watching. Mother is hard to stomach, not only because of its overt violence (like the numerous times Ryo beats Akiko) but also because of the emotional violence it shows being inflicted upon young Shuhei. These heart-wrenching moments heavily outnumber those of love, goodness, or joy, like when Fuyuka sees a mattress in the new room set up for them by the social worker and says, "Yay! A mattress!" while promptly jumping on it. Or when Akiko repeatedly forces Shuhei away from school and learning, sometimes literally throwing his books away. The film is a series of increasingly horrible scenes, many of them sexual and many of them violent. Moments of hope quickly get dashed by the abusive boyfriend or by the selfishness of Akiko. At some point she seems to lose altogether any sense of humanity and tells her son to kill her parents, his grandparents, but this jump to murder seems sudden and is delivered too casually. Further, when Akiko tells a now older Shuhei that the grandparents' deaths are "the only way to get money," the inquisitive and smart Shuhei would've known not to believe his mother. But he agrees anyway.
Mother doesn't examine how disempowered, disenfranchised, or marginalized people can often end up committing immoral and criminal behavior; it just shows these behaviors. And yet, if the film offers a take on how a young boy could kill his grandparents, it clearly suggests that the only explanation in this instance is simply that the mother is wholly to blame because just look at how evil she was, just look at how she raised her son. While this may be true, it offers no conclusion, happy ending, or enlightening lesson. Nothing emerges from all the horror. Akiko never shows any remorse for her often-spiteful words to Shuhei or for leaving him countless times or for telling him to kill his grandparents. It's a display of the complete taking advantage of a young child's love for his mother, no matter how bad, damaged, ill, or toxic she might be. Some may find some cinematic beauty here, but most will just find difficulty. The performaces are quite amazing, though, and especially those from the kids.
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