My Amanda

Movie review by
Barbara Shulgasser-Parker, Common Sense Media
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Best friends consider a relationship; language.
  • NR
  • 2021
  • 89 minutes

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age 13+
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The parents' guide to what's in this movie.

Positive Messages

Don't text while driving. A man and woman can be friends without falling for each other. All things have an end.

Positive Role Models & Representations

Best friends are devoted to each other while their romantic lives with other people keep failing.

Violence

Offscreen, a character is assaulted by a physically abusive spouse. A woman makes excuses for her abusive spouse, saying she was "asking for it." Two characters die offscreen.

Sex

No sex is shown but the friends discuss the fact that they don't have sex with each other.

Language

Infrequent use of "f--k" "s--t," "bitch," "damn," "hell," "balls," "crap," and "boobs."

Consumerism
Drinking, Drugs & Smoking

Adults consume large amounts of alcohol.

What parents need to know

Parents need to know that My Amanda is a portrayal of a deep friendship. Both the man and woman flail in their supposedly romantic relationships, the love lives they can't sustain, but the true romance is in the platonic relationship they share together. This Philippine production is mostly in Filipino with English subtitles. Teens may enjoy the way friends try to sort out a close but messy relationship. Language includes relatively infrequent use of "f--k" "s--t," "bitch," "damn," "hell," "balls," "crap," and "boobs." No sex is shown but the friends discuss the fact that they don't have sex with each other. Offscreen, a character is assaulted by a physically abusive spouse. A woman makes excuses for her abusive spouse, saying she was "asking for it." Two characters die offscreen. Adults consume large amounts of alcohol.

User Reviews

  • Parents say
  • Kids say
Adult Written byPrecious Gem August 7, 2021

Surprisingly beautiful

Feel good.
Unusual.
Strong chemistry between the actors.
I-want-a-Fuffy-in-my-life kinda movie.

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What's the story?

In MY AMANDA, Amanda (Alessandra de Rossi) adores her best friend TJ (Piolo Pascual). They share a fun, easy, and deep camaraderie and comfort. Both have romantic relationships on the side but, for unexplained reasons, they always fail. The only constant in their lives is their enduring friendship. They take trips together. They sit in their hammock and look at the starry sky. They barge into the bathroom while the other is showering. They sleep innocently in the same bed. They drink and dance and party together. The movie focuses on that connection, so we know little about what occupies the rest of their lives, jobs, other friends, family. They visit Amanda's grandmother, played by Luz Valdez, and she hopelessly roots for a romantic connection between the two so she can enjoy a wedding, but the friends continue to date others. Can they keep their special connection going?

Is it any good?

The characters and actors are winning enough to make this tearjerker work. While the film is moving, My Amanda could've been a better film had it opened the curtain on all the real drama, events that happen offscreen and are described later. While lead actor Allesandra de Rossi does a great job playing the ebullient Amanda (nicknamed Fream), and capably directs the film, her script makes amateur errors. Couples break up offscreen, and we don't know how or why.  An ex turns out to be a bad guy, but we never see his badness in action. Everything we know about him comes in the form of an after-the-fact description. We are told that there's something wrong with TJ (Fuffy). The proof? Offscreen, he can't keep a girlfriend. Yet onscreen, he seems perfect, a flawless, gentle man, loyal, kind, caring, funny, and compassionate. As narrator, he tells us how surprised he is to change into a better person, but we've never seen the qualities that would make him want to change. Piolo Pascual is a charismatic actor with a Brad Pitt tenderness and strength. His relaxed give and take with de Rossi makes the film.

Talk to your kids about ...

  • Families can talk about what makes a friendship different from a romance. What do you think kept the friends here from crossing over to a committed romantic relationship?

  • What made the friendship here special?

  • Amanda seems like a strong independent woman, yet she makes excuses for her abusive husband. What does this movie tell us about domestic abuse?

Movie details

Our editors recommend

For kids who love romance

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