Parents' Guide to My Brother's Wedding

Movie NR 1985 80 minutes
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Barbara Shulgasser-Parker By Barbara Shulgasser-Parker , based on child development research. How do we rate?

age 13+

'80s film about family strife has mature themes.

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What's the Story?

MY BROTHER'S WEDDING is set in South Central Los Angeles of the 1980s, where Pierce (Everett Silas) is 30 and seemingly waiting for a better life to come along. He went to technical school, but the jobs didn't materialize, so he's working at his parents' dry-cleaning store, where his religious mom doles out charity as often as she reaches for a gun behind the counter when she senses "customers" are really thieves. His brother Wendell, a lawyer, is marrying up, to a lawyer named Sonia (Gaye Shannon-Burnett, the director's wife). Her upper-middle-class family irks Pierce. Pierce claims it's because he despises doctors and lawyers, who in his view are all crooks. Yet he embraces his criminal friend Soldier (Ronald E. Bell), a selfish lout who has been in and out of jail, abuses women, and seems to have no use for a job. Will Pierce get past his bitterness to be the best man in the wedding?

Is It Any Good?

Our review:
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This is an important film about Black life in South Central Los Angeles of the 1980s, but it's not a good film. Many viewers may find much to appreciate here in its authenticity, in its depiction of people who maintain their dignity in the face of financial struggle, in a dedication to decency and an affinity for Christian values, all slamming into the chaos and oppression of poverty, racism, crime, unwed pregnancy, police abuse, bad schools, drug use, and joblessness. Burnett does justice to a Black world, the way Toni Morrison did in her novels -- a world that's a proudly distinct and separate entity that may suffer under White prejudice but doesn't depend on White influence for its identity.

The trouble is, for all the director-writer's efforts, Burnett couldn't make a good film with a shallow script and inexperienced actors. Neither the stilted dialogue nor the actors dig deep enough to express the underlying truth Burnett is clearly and earnestly striving to present. As written, the character of 30-year-old Pierce seems bright and decent, but we're never shown why he's stuck and lacks the tools to move forward, unlike his brother, who is a lawyer. With no carefully constructed true dramatic arc, My Brother's Wedding poses a false choice at the end that no real person would leave to the last minute to make. This is a monotone movie where no event, no matter how substantial, is given more weight than any other. Note that Burnett's rough cut was finished in the 1980s, when the film was unable to find a distributor. In 2007, Burnett edited it again to an hour and 20 minutes, 37 minutes shorter than the originally shown version. It's now clear that in terms of film quality, the edit wasn't the problem.

Talk to Your Kids About ...

  • Families can talk about whether things have changed for inner-city people of color economically since My Brother's Wedding was made. How do you think situations depicted here connect to Black Lives Matter protests of today?

  • Pierce directs his anger at rich Black people. Why do you think he's angry at them?

  • How does this story suggest that forces from outside the community -- prejudice, crime, policing, drugs -- rather than intrinsic weaknesses have made it difficult for Black people to succeed?

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