
My First Mister
By Tracy Moore,
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Offbeat friendship is provocative, dark but sweet.

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What's the Story?
Jennifer (Leelee Sobieski) is obsessed with dark poetry, wearing black, piercings, and anything involving alienation from her family or society at large. So when she spies Randall (Albert Brooks), an uptight, square retail employee dressing mannequins at the mall, she's intrigued -- plus, she needs a job if she's going to get her own place. What begins as pestering and conflict turns into an unlikely friendship when the two realize they have more in common than they ever imagined.
Is It Any Good?
MY FIRST MISTER is about an unlikely friendship, and the key word here is "unlikely"; it takes a while before audiences will believe these two could ever hit it off. Though anyone who has made an unexpected acquaintanceship at an odd job will realize it's entirely possible. But what feels a bit contrived about this over-the-top angsty teen in one outrageous pose after the next and this predictably square retail employee soon finds an organic, natural pace as the two open up, give back and forth, and realize they're both very lonely, disconnected people who long to be understood.
Here is where the heavy themes come in, and there are plenty: disconnects from family, divorced parents, past cheating, a ruined marriage, and a terminal illness, as well as a long-lost son. There are some cutting, casual references to death, sex, and the kind of faux maturity teens are always putting on to pretend to be sophisticated, such as references to taking lovers and trying out lesbianism. But if those can be endured with discussion or the appropriate sense of humor, there are some very sweet, sad-tinged but ultimately hopeful messages at the core of this movie about making connections, honoring family (whatever that may mean for you), and sticking by your people -- people who may not, at first glance, even seem like your people until we give them a real chance.
Talk to Your Kids About ...
Families can talk about My First Mister's portrayal of teen angst. Do you think it's over-the-top compared to other films about the darker side of the teenage experience? Why, or why not?
How are themes of alienation addressed in the film? Why is each of these characters alienated? And how do they all forge connections?
What do you think is wrong with Jennifer? Is her experience normal for teenagers, or is something deeper going on? If so, what?
Movie Details
- In theaters: October 26, 2001
- On DVD or streaming: April 23, 2002
- Cast: Albert Brooks , Leelee Sobieski , Carol Kane , John Goodman
- Director: Christine Lahti
- Inclusion Information: Female actors
- Studio: Paramount Pictures
- Genre: Drama
- Topics: Friendship
- Run time: 109 minutes
- MPAA rating: R
- MPAA explanation: Rated R for language and some sexual material
- Last updated: December 8, 2022
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