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Odd Girl Out

Dramatic but realistic look at how girls bully each other.
  • Rated: PG-13
  • Genre: Drama
  • Release Year: 2006
  • Running Time: 84 minutes

What parents need to know

Positive messages

Bullying is the name of the game among the girls in this middle school scenario. In fact, the bullying is so severe that the main character attempts suicide. She survives the attempt and faces the bully, but the damage has already been done.

Positive role models

Vanessa's mom, Barbara, is a caring and pro-active mom. This movie illustrates how signals get crossed between well-meaning parents and adolescents who are caught up in peer pressure and bullying. Barbara stands by her daughter, while being a nurturing, protective adult.


Emotional violence and cyberbullying are the weapons used in this movie. Not physically damaging, per se, but characters are scarred by slander. A fistfight between boys is watched by a big group of kids. School officials are slow to intervene on all counts.


Vanessa talks about "1, 2, and 3," which is code for how many bases she went with a guy. Many kids in school call her a "slut" and a "whore."


For the target age group, there is a good deal of profanity: "bitch," "damn," "whore," "ho," "slut," etc.


Clothes shopping at an exclusive store results in a character buying $650 worth of clothes, kissing her credit card, and saying "Thanks, Daddy." Lots of peer pressure to dress nicely. T Mobile Side-Kick is featured, and some items in the bathroom, like Dove and Johnson & Johnson body products, are shown.

Parents Need to Know

Parents need to know that this movie starts out like a giggly teen romance movie, but it gets serious as the bullying intensifies. There's a scene where a teen takes an overdose of pills and is taken to the hospital. There's some salty language for a middle school movie, and some sexual references.

What's the story?

Vanessa Snyder (Alexa Vega) is pretty lucky to be part of the popular crowd. She gets the inside jokes, she gets attention from the guys, she even gets gifts from her wealthy BFF, Stacey (Leah Pipes) when they go on an expensive shopping spree. But these alliances are pretty precarious, and Vanessa finds out just how painful it is to be dumped by the in-crowd. She becomes the victim of a cyberbullying campaign against her that is so damaging that she begins to skip school. Stacey's manipulations drive Vanessa off the deep end, doing damage that Vanessa's mother (Lisa Vidal) cannot stop, despite her good efforts. Inspired by Rachel Simmons' book Odd Girl Out: The Hidden Culture Of Aggression In Girls, this movie is an important look into the emotional damage that can be wreaked in school.

Is it any good?


It's gut-wrenching to see Vanessa drop from the heights of popularity to the rocky depths of rejection, but this movie has an important message for adults and teens alike. For one thing, it illustrates how the cyberage provides a platform for bullies to ply their trade. And Alexa Vega portrays the arc of a victim of bullying convincingly. Her eyes absolutely shine when her friend Stacey smiles at her. Moreover, she is absolutely crushed when she discovers how she is being ridiculed. Luckily, Vanessa has a mother who cares profoundly for her well-being. Here is a hip, engaged parent, who suddenly loses the ability to relate to her daughter and watches helplessly while tantrums are thrown and doors are slammed. Like many contemporary parents, Barbara has no idea how the cyberculture is affecting her child's private life. Barbara is shocked to see her daughter's computer screen fill with jeers, taunts, and insults. She rails against the school that allows this emotional violence to occur, and sits mutely as her daughter falls for the sweet talk of her former best friend -- in short, she is given the role of a real mom in a delicate situation.

Though the end of the movie feels a little jangly, there is enough substance here to open some vital doors of communication between parents and their kids -- especially those kids who might very well experience this type of emotional warfare at school.

Families can talk about...

  • Families can talk about how hard it is for tweens and teens to talk to their parents about the stuff that goes on in school. Vanessa's mom wants to help Vanessa, but she can only intervene so much. She's torn between getting involved in her daughter's business and encouraging her daughter to stand up for herself. Vanessa needs help, but there is no one she feels she can turn to. How can families avoid this trap?

  • This movie illustrates how terrifying cyberbulllying can be. Did you know that 43% of kids have been victims of cyberbullying -- and only 10% tell their parents about it? But that's just scratching the surface. Protect yourself if you're a kid, or your kids if you're a parent, by reading more here.

  • Vanessa is horrified to hear that her friends think she's fat -- even though she's lean. How can girls deal with pressure to be thin? Here's some advice for those coping with the pressure to be thin.


Movie details

DVD/Streaming release date:January 10, 2006
Cast:Alexa Vega, Leah Pipes, Lisa Vidal
Director:Tom McLoughlin
Run time:84 minutes
MPAA rating:PG-13
MPAA explanation:For mature thematic issues and language

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Teen, 17 years old Written bykelsey805 October 23, 2010

great movie, although hard to watch......

i personally think this movie is fantastic, although i don't like the language, sex talk, and somewhat nudity, if you can look past that and see the message behind it all, it's a REALLY good movie. it turns out that although through all the worse then torment and torture this poor girl goes through, vanessa turns out to be a fantastic role model, and there's an unforgettable for any girl who has or is going through this kind of thing (if not worse......) and well, her mom on the other hand, i think is a fantastic role model, unlike a lot of mothers these days, her mom cares, and is there for her and tries to help her as much as possible, which, is kind of rare to see mothers being involved like that, sometimes. so overall, this movie, although it's VERY hard to watch (or at least was for me) is a fantastic movie.
What other families should know
Too much violence
Too much sex
Too much swearing
Great messages
Great role models
Kid, 12 years old June 1, 2013

Odd Girl Out Review

I think it is a really well done movie and should be watched by the age of thirteen, to give teens an idea of what to do/ not do when bullied. It has a lot of swearing and some violence, but is fine for 12 year olds and up.
What other families should know
Great messages
Great role models
Too much violence
Too much swearing
Teen, 15 years old Written byAuthor221 February 14, 2013


This movie was so darn fantastic... I like the dark (literally) school and the emotions Vanessa shows in the movie. I can't relate to everything in the film, but when Vanessa was put in the ER, I felt like I was being slapped in the face (I've been to the hospital WAY too many times for a fifteen year old.) I felt so bad I just wanted to hug her. I recently found a friend who is my Emily when I turn into emotional, hurt Vanessa. My complaints about the film (though minor) involve the profanity. When I was in middle school, while kids still cussed, they did NOT say words like some that they use in the film (I refuse to use them now) That's my only complaint. All in all, fantastic movie with a wonderful message
What other families should know
Great messages
Great role models
Too much swearing
Too much consumerism