Ordinary People

Movie review by
Nell Minow, Common Sense Media
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Story of emotional honesty is best for teens and up.
  • R
  • 1980
  • 124 minutes

Parents say

age 18+
Based on 3 reviews

Kids say

age 14+
Based on 3 reviews

A lot or a little?

The parents' guide to what's in this movie.

Positive Messages

The series tackles some strong issues, including the death of a loved one, survivor's guilt, suicide, dysfunctional family relationships, and other mature themes. The importance of grieving, sharing feelings, and healing is also highlighted.

Positive Role Models & Representations

The entire family is struggling to deal with Bucky's death, but do so differently (and often destructively).

Violence

Conrad's scars from his attempted suicide are visible; another character kills herself (but the event is not visible). Tense arguments emerge between Conrad and his parents. A fight leaves one cast member with a bloody nose. The moment Bucky is lost at sea is shown several times.

Sex

Some references to sexual acts.

Language

Contains curses like "s--t" and "f--k".

Consumerism
Drinking, Drugs & Smoking

A party features drinking and drunken behavior. Whiskey consumption is visible. Dr. Berger smokes cigarettes.

What parents need to know

Parents need to know that this drama deals with mature themes like death, suicide, and dysfunctional family relationships. Many of the scenes are intense and sad. It contains some arguing, a fist fight (leading to an injury), some strong language ("s--t," "f--k"), and some sexual references. Drinking and cigarette smoking is also visible.

User Reviews

  • Parents say
  • Kids say
Adult Written byI Love Movies April 9, 2008

I'd have to say 14+

I'm not sure why CSM gave the language a "mild". There were about seven f-bombs and "s" words, while most of the other cuss words were... Continue reading
Adult Written byluvtwoteach December 7, 2011

Ordinary People

Very inappropriate for kids or teens. The content is extremely depressing and to heavy for many teens. It also introduces serious situations that students may n... Continue reading
Teen, 16 years old Written bymoviemogul 2.0;... April 9, 2008
Teen, 13 years old Written by4kidshater September 21, 2010

A very good movie for families that have faced tragedy

This movie is good. It has a heart. It has tragedy,love, and suspense. It's better than Xanadu and more successful, but both are good. I give this the Aust... Continue reading

What's the story?

Conrad Jarrett (Timothy Hutton) returns home after four months in a mental hospital. He tried to kill himself following a tragic boating accident with his brother, Bucky, who drowned. His father, Calvin (Donald Sutherland), tries to reach out to him, but is afraid of saying the wrong thing, and is shy about his own emotions. His mother, Beth (Mary Tyler Moore), is uncomfortable with emotions and with anything "messy" or hard to control. After some hesitation, Conrad seeks out psychiatrist Dr. Berger (Judd Hirsch). With Berger's help, Conrad begins to reach out to a sympathetic girl at school, Jeannine (Elizabeth McGovern). He makes contact with Karen (Dinah Manoff), a friend from his hospital stay who seems to be in control, and is later devastated when he learns she killed herself. He calls Berger in the middle of the night, to confess that he can't forgive himself for surviving when his brother died, that he feels guilty and unworthy. Calvin begins to realize that Beth's unwillingness to connect to her own emotions or anyone else's is suffocating the family. Their relationship unravels quickly, and she leaves, as Cal and Conrad begin to share their feelings.

Is it any good?

ORDINARY PEOPLE is a hard-hitting movie about emotional honesty. It's about the courage and emotional vocabulary that are necessary for the connections and intimacy we need to be able to survive challenges like the tragedy faced by this family. The characters represent a wide variety of approaches and abilities to emotional openness and "control." Conrad and Calvin are both groping their way toward a better understanding of themselves and others and the ability to communicate.

Beth does not want to try, but it's clear that the director and writer feel sorry for her. She has chosen emptiness rather than "messy" feelings. What Conrad feels as rejection is really Beth's fear of his sensitivity and vulnerability. Jeannine at first pulls back from Conrad's attempt to connect with her by telling her the truth about himself, but then apologizes. She wants to understand him; it was just that at first she did not know how to respond, so retreated into the more comfortable and familiar environment of joking around. In contrast, Karen, who seems to have so much "control" and goes to elaborate pains to persuade Conrad that she is doing fine, is unable to cope.

Talk to your kids about ...

  • Families can talk about whether they know of someone who has attempted suicide, or who has been successful. Is this movie a realistic portrayal of the experiences around suicide? Do you know where to go for help if you or someone you know is considering suicide?

  • Does this movie stand the test of time? What qualities can age a movie quickly, or what can give it longevity?

Movie details

For kids who love dramas

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