Movie review by
Renee Schonfeld, Common Sense Media
Otherhood Movie Poster Image
Good actors can't overcome forced comedy; language, drinking
  • R
  • 2019
  • 100 minutes

Parents say

age 17+
Based on 3 reviews

Kids say

age 15+
Based on 2 reviews

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Positive Messages

Advocates for open, honest communication between parents and kids, reevaluating those relationships as they mature. Comments upon need for women to adjust goals as life changes occur. Values promoted: respect for others (including their choices), teamwork, compassion, courage, importance of friends. "Think more about what you say and less about what you feel." A gay couple is treated respectfully and without judgment. 

Positive Role Models & Representations

Central characters are evolving throughout. Ultimately, they exhibit gratitude, perseverance, empathy, better communication skills. Their sons also mature, learning acceptance, gratitude, and empathy. Ethnically diverse cast.


No overt sexual activity. References to infidelity, gay and lesbian relationships. Characters undress and begin sexual foreplay until they realize they're being watched. Brief look at a male backside.


Profanity includes: "f--k," "s--t," "scrotum," "a--hole," "woody," "bitch," "penis," "t-tties," "balls," "jerking off," "d--khead."


Hudson Hotel, NYC. Versace, Gucci.

Drinking, Drugs & Smoking

Characters drink alcohol, get tipsy or drunk in several sequences.

What parents need to know

Parents need to know that Otherhood is a comedy about three moms who feel neglected by their young adult sons and make a trip from Poughkeepsie to New York City to surprise them on Mother's Day. It's based on the book Whatever Makes You Happy by William Sutcliffe. There are serious issues underlying the humor, such as infidelity, parent-adult child relationships, middle-age anxiety. Viewers can expect profanity and sexual banter, including "f--k," "s--t," "jerking off," "d--khead," "a--holes," and more. A man and woman undressing and passionately kissing are interrupted in a comic moment (a brief look at a male backside). A monogamous gay relationship is depicted respectfully. Lead characters drink alcohol in several sequences; in some instances it results in mild inebriation, in others drunkenness. Though Otherhood's MPAA "R" rating seems a bit harsh, the movie will have little appeal for most kids.

User Reviews

  • Parents say
  • Kids say
Adult Written byMomoftwogirl August 1, 2021

Good for adult

It's a good movie for adults! The movie advocate gay relationships, mothers love and forgiveness envelopes through infidelity
Adult Written byWendy A. August 17, 2019

Too much alcohol lets down great middle aged mom focus

So I watched this with another mom of teens and we laughed and commiserated with many of the issues the film moms are facing. Loved watching great middle aged a... Continue reading
Teen, 16 years old Written byCooltiger37 August 31, 2019

Don't bother

My sister really wanted to watch this movie because her best friend recommended it to her, but we wound up turning it off about 20 minutes in because it was so... Continue reading
Teen, 14 years old Written byPenguilpal August 10, 2019

What's the story?

Lifetime friends Carol (Angela Bassett), Gillian (Patricia Arquette), and Helen (Felicity Huffman) get together in Poughkeepsie for their annual Mother's Day celebration in OTHERHOOD. They have to spend the time together because their three oblivious sons, who all live in New York City, can't ever seem to remember to acknowledge the special day. The moms are so annoyed that they make an impulsive decision: They'll pack up, make the two-hour drive to NYC, and surprise all three before Mother's Day is over. And what a surprise it is. Gillian's son, Danny (Jake Hoffman), a struggling writer, is in the middle of a painful break-up. Matt (Sinqua Walls), Carol's son, a rising star in the business world, is in the throes of passion with an attractive woman he's just met. And, Paul (Jake Lacy), a successful designer, hasn't officially come out to his mom, Helen. In the days that follow the three mothers learn as much about themselves as they do about their sons' lives, and the three sons make some important changes as well. 

Is it any good?

Good parts for women "of a certain age" are hard to come by in Hollywood, so three stellar actresses decided to produce one for themselves; unfortunately, the material doesn't measure up. The filmmakers, with Cindy Chupack as director and co-writer, try to play it safe. They include as many obligatory species as possible, none of them fresh or memorable: a meddling Jewish mother, an African American preppie, a widow who hasn't emerged from grief, a happily gay young man, an insecure writer. They don't stint on trite situations either, like a mom inadvertently catching her son on the verge of sex with a beautiful young woman and the predictable make-over moment. As solid as the entire company of players is, Otherhood feels forced and by-the-numbers. Sadly, the script simply misses more than it hits. 

Talk to your kids about ...

  • Families can talk about the drinking and intoxication shown in Otherhood. What was it intended to tell us about the characters? Are there consequences for the drinking? 

  • In any form of storytelling, most lead characters have an "arc." Find out what a character arc is, then pick any two of the moms or sons and talk about the changes they make (or don't make) over the course of the movie.

  • Parent-child relationships are featured in many successful movies. What qualities do you think it takes to establish successful alliances, particularly as kids reach adulthood? What are your favorite parent-child films? Why?

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