Parents' Guide to Paper Spiders

Movie NR 2021 109 minutes
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Tara McNamara By Tara McNamara , based on child development research. How do we rate?

age 15+

Teen drama addresses mental health sensitively; drinking.

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What's the Story?

PAPER SPIDERS follows Melanie (Stefania LaVie Owen), a high school senior who's looking forward to attending the same university as her late father. But her future gets more uncertain when her mother, Dawn (Lili Taylor), becomes obsessed with the belief that the new nextdoor neighbor is out to get her.

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With Taylor's painfully real performance as a woman sliding into paranoid delusions, director Inon Shampanier pulls off a tonally tricky drama that reeks of lived experience. So much so that it makes you question what a happy ending should look like. When we first meet Dawn and Melanie, life is happy and full of love. Melanie's best friend, Lacy (Peyton List), is a wild child, and the school's cute, hard-partying rich kid, Daniel (Ian Nelson), is adorably in pursuit of Melanie's heart. With all these marks of a coming-of-age teen film, you're just waiting for Molly Ringwald to come walking around the corner. While never silly, it's laugh-out-loud light.

But as Dawn's concerns about the new neighbor's antagonistic behavior start to grow, the movies tone slowly shifts. As viewed through 17-year-old Melanie's perspective, we, too, aren't sure what's going on -- or, for that matter, how to handle it. How does a child manage when she believes her only surviving family member needs help? What should she do, and how could taking action jeopardize her own current and future existence? Melanie tries to guide and help her mother, but to question Dawn is to suggest that she doesn't believe her, which only pushes her mother's paranoia further. The simultaneous honesty and impossibility of the situation come from the lived experiences of Inon and his co-writer/wife, Natalie Shampanier, who based the script on their own experiences with Natalie's late mother. As a result, Dawn's descent still leaves her with some dignity. And Melanie's journey -- including taking on riskier behaviors -- feels closer to reality than typical movie high school hijinks. There's a moment where it feels like the movie is over, and viewers will likely feel content with that ending. But it's really not -- which is also likely true to real life, because when a family member is struggling so deeply with mental illness, the door never closes.

Talk to Your Kids About ...

  • Families can talk about how the movie portrays drinking and drug use. Are they glamorized? Are there realistic consequences? Why does that matter?

  • When is it important to talk about mental health, especially if you're worried about a friend or family member? What resources are available to help both kids and adults?

  • Inon and Natalie Shampanier wrote the screenplay from their own experiences with Natalie's mother, who had persecutory delusional disorder. Why is "write what you know" often good advice for new writers?

  • Discuss the portrayals of the supporting characters compared to the leads. When do characters become caricatures? Do you think any of the ones in Paper Spiders are harmful stereotypes?

  • How does Paper Spiders shift its tone from comedy to tragedy? Do you think it works? Why do you think the writers chose to approach the subject matter this way?

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