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Really Love
By Barbara Shulgasser-Parker,
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What's the Story?
REALLY LOVE begins as a travelogue of urban Black life on the streets of Washington, D.C., and slowly the camera moves from the general to the particulars of two attractive young people looking for professional and personal fulfillment. Isaiah (Kofi Siriboe) is a promising young painter looking to attract the attention of an influential gallery owner and manager named Chenai (Uzo Aduba). At a solo show of his older, successful friend Yusef (Michael Ealy), Isaiah runs into Stevie (Yootha Wong-Loi-Sing), a law school student who dreams of working for a well-respected firm in Chicago. Isaiah filters his subjects -- ordinary Black people -- through what he calls a "distortion," and makes them extraordinary through thick layerings of sculptural paint. Chenai encourages him but counsels that he must dig deeper and commit himself more deeply to his work before she can offer him a solo show and represent his work. Well-meaning parents insert themselves into their children's lives, with a concerned dad questioning the practical value of creating art in a mercenary society, and an adoring mom worrying that the love of the moment can distract her daughter from climbing the professional ladder to the highest rungs of success. Class, economic status, and race all join the couple in bed and begin to plant seeds of doubt in the relationship.
Is It Any Good?
Like Toni Morrison's fiction, Really Love is a moving portrait of Black life that's not filtered through a White gaze but instead framed as a page in the book of humanity. The cast is almost entirely Black, and the story, refreshingly, presents regular Black people leading regular lives. Isaiah and Stevie fall deeply in love and work gets in the way, as everyday a story as was ever written. Director-producer-writer Angel Kristi Williams guides us with a sure hand toward an artistic vision that isn't blind to color and differences, but that chooses to portray them as shades in a spectrum of humanity. When painter Isaiah talks about offering his deliberate visual "distortions" to portray Black lives as normal, ordinary, and extraordinary all at once, we know that the movie is striving to do the same.
This is an absorbing romance, but the director has enough faith in the depth of her material to omit extraneous drama. No need for chase sequences, drug overdoses, screaming and yelling. Instead, she mirrors the sensuality of applying paint to canvas in the beautifully-rendered scenes of lovemaking between two people who have given themselves to each other in every way. This is normal life in all its dignity, enhanced by the incidental glamour of two beautiful and gifted lead actors. Kofi Siriboe as Isaiah is a special standout. Supporting the simple and emotional message is a moving score by Khari Mateen. If it can be said to have a flaw, the movie leaves unspoken the difficulty all women face, compared to men, in the struggle to actualize potential. If racial prejudice holds Black men back from achieving, it does so doubly in the case of Black women, who face the added bias against their gender. But, the movie hints, this struggle intrudes on every couple, no matter what race, religion, or economic stratum, and it's what breaks apart the otherwise well-suited lovers portrayed here. The question is: When a woman pays for her impoverished lover's gas, is she supporting him or emasculating him?
Talk to Your Kids About ...
Families can talk about how two gifted, hard-working strivers can manage their deep love at the same time as fulfilling their career potentials. Do you think this couple could have found a solution? Why or why not?
The movie looks at mobility in America today and how routine it is today for kids to leave their hometowns to live and work far away from their families. Do you think people should be adventurous in seeking their fortunes or stay close to home? Why?
What does the movie say about the difficulty women have in pursuing careers? Do you think women are more likely to move to a new city to support a man's new job than the other way around? Do you think men and women should be equally willing to uproot themselves for a partner? Why?
The movie asks should the characters sacrifice financial success to do important work to raise others up? Is it possible to do both?
Movie Details
- In theaters: August 21, 2020
- On DVD or streaming: August 31, 2021
- Cast: Kofi Siriboe , Yootha Wong-Loi-Sing , Michael Ealy , Uzo Aduba , Suzzanne Douglas , Blair Underwood
- Director: Angel Kristi Williams
- Inclusion Information: Black directors, Black actors, Female actors
- Studio: Macro
- Genre: Drama
- Run time: 95 minutes
- MPAA rating: NR
- Last updated: February 17, 2023
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