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She Hate Me

By Nell Minow, Common Sense Media Reviewer

age 18+

This extremely graphic movie is not for kids.

Movie R 2004 138 minutes
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Is It Any Good?

Our review:
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So many movies get released without any ideas or point of view whatsoever that it seems churlish to say this one from Spike is overstuffed, but it is. Its many directions are intended to enrich each other, but they ultimately diminish each other. There are also elements that just feel pointless. Monica Bellucci is not only too old to be the daughter of John Turturro, but she speaks with an Italian accent while he does not. The security guard subplot seems completely extraneous and is quite a stretch, and the lesbian plot shifts from female empowerment to male heterosexual fantasy.

It may be troubling and imperfect, but it's still a Spike Lee movie, which means that it is well worth watching and arguing over. Perhaps the issues he is trying to raise can only be addressed in a fractured style. But the individual shards of this film have more audacity and intelligence than most of what is out there, and its failures are more interesting to ponder than most films' successes.

Movie Details

  • In theaters: July 28, 2004
  • On DVD or streaming: February 1, 2005
  • Cast: Anthony Mackie , Ellen Barkin , Kerry Washington
  • Director: Spike Lee
  • Inclusion Information: Black directors, Black actors, Female actors
  • Studio: Sony Pictures
  • Genre: Drama
  • Run time: 138 minutes
  • MPAA rating: R
  • MPAA explanation: strong graphic sexuality/nudity, language and a scene of violence
  • Last updated: January 28, 2023

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