Parents' Guide to She's Gotta Have It

Movie R 1986 84 minutes
She's Gotta Have It Poster Image

Common Sense Media Review

Andrea Beach By Andrea Beach , based on child development research. How do we rate?

age 17+

Spike Lee's breakout comedy has lots of nudity and sex.

Parents Need to Know

Why Age 17+?

Any Positive Content?

Parent and Kid Reviews

age 17+

Based on 1 parent review

age 16+

Based on 1 kid review

What's the Story?

In SHE'S GOTTA HAVE IT, Nola Darling (Tracy Camilla Johns) is a young graphic artist living on her own in Brooklyn, New York. Three men and one woman each want to be the "it" that Nola's just gotta have. But all four of them, in their own way, want to change Nola by telling her who she ought to be and how she ought to live. Nola may not know exactly what she wants, but she knows it's not just one person, or one thing. And it's definitely not someone else controlling anything about herself or her life.

Is It Any Good?

Our review:
Parents say ( 1 ):
Kids say ( 1 ):

The movie that launched Spike Lee's career takes a humorous and sometimes dark look at Nola Darling's struggle to keep control of her own life and body in 1986 Brooklyn. Filmed in black and white, and structured as a series of flashbacks from people being interviewed about their relationships with Nola, this "mockumentary" doesn't pass judgment on any of the characters, inviting viewers to draw their own conclusions.

Legend has it that She's Gotta Have It was filmed on a shoestring budget in 12 days, with absolutely no retakes of anything. That may explain why a lot of the actors sound more like they're reading out loud than speaking naturally. Still, it's a sometimes funny, always insightful, effective character study. It also asks questions as important today as they were in 1986, about female empowerment, African-American representation in the media, sex, and sexuality. The frequent sex scenes and nudity make it best for mature teens ready to tackle these and lots of other adult issues.

Talk to Your Kids About ...

  • Families can talk about the sexual content in She's Gotta Have It. How much is OK to show in movies? Why?

  • Have attitudes about having more than one partner changed since 1986? If so, how? If not, why not?

  • Why do you think the movie is in black and white? What other black-and-white movies have you seen? Do you like it, or do you wish it were in color?

Movie Details

Did we miss something on diversity?

Research shows a connection between kids' healthy self-esteem and positive portrayals in media. That's why we've added a new "Diverse Representations" section to our reviews that will be rolling out on an ongoing basis. You can help us help kids by

She's Gotta Have It Poster Image

What to Watch Next

Common Sense Media's unbiased ratings are created by expert reviewers and aren't influenced by the product's creators or by any of our funders, affiliates, or partners.

See how we rate