Sleeping with Other People

Movie review by
S. Jhoanna Robledo, Common Sense Media
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Appealing stars, lots of sex in racy romcom.
  • R
  • 2015
  • 92 minutes

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The parents' guide to what's in this movie.

Positive Messages

Sex is easy, but love requires commitment and a willingness to be vulnerable. Taking the time to develop a real relationship can help you form a deep connection.

Positive Role Models & Representations

Jake and Lainey have been consistently unfaithful to their respective romantic partners. He's a notorious womanizer (he finds it easy to sleep around, harder to love, and would rather cheat on a girlfriend than tell her he wants to break up), while she's obsessed with a married doctor. But they're dedicated to maintaining their platonic relationship at all costs, even if it means ignoring their obvious attraction, because neither wants to risk losing a good friend.

Violence

A fist fight involves punches, wrestling, and grappling on the ground; the fighters end up with disheveled clothes and a bloody nose, respectively.

Sex

The whole plot revolves around serial infidelity (and ultimately breaking that pattern). The main characters agree not to sleep together, despite their obvious attraction, but both engage in plenty of sex with others; several scenes show them in bed (and other locations), moving, grunting, and eventually falling down exhausted. Several woman are seen in their underwear, but no graphic nudity is shown. Several graphic verbal descriptions of various sexual activities. While high, a character takes off her shirt, revealing a red bikini top, and tries to get children to join her in an uninhibited dance.

Language

Frequent swearing includes "f--k," "s--t," "d--k" and "a--hole," in addition to many sexual references.

Consumerism

A newly rich character talks about buying a Tesla. A person who's moving to another city loads her stuff in a U-Haul truck .

Drinking, Drugs & Smoking

Several scenes set at bars show people drinking beer, shots, and stronger drinks. Adults drink wine at meals and parties; a few characters smoke cigarettes. One long sequence involves two characters who are high on Ecstasy during a 7-year-old's birthday party.

What parents need to know

Parents need to know that Sleeping with Other People is a romcom that's heavy on sexual content. It centers on a man (Jason Sudeikis) and a woman (Alison Brie) who struggle with monogamy and end up becoming platonic friends, even though they're very open about their mutual attraction. Characters talk a lot about sex, and there are several long, suggestive sex scenes -- and plenty of women in their underwear -- but no actual graphic nudity. Expect frequent swearing (especially "f--k," "s--t," and "d--k"), and scenes in which characters drink, smoke cigarettes, and -- in one long sequence -- take Ecstasy while at a child's birthday party.

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What's the story?

Jake (Jason Sudeikis) and Lainey (Alison Brie) have each destroyed every relationship they've ever had because they have trouble with monogamy -- he sleeps with just about anyone, while she's been having an affair for years with a married doctor. When the two meet (at a meeting for sex addicts), it's clear they're attracted to each other, but they decide not to fall into bed so they can instead try to form a healthy platonic friendship. Soon they become best friends, even while SLEEPING WITH OTHER PEOPLE. It's clear their attraction is still growing, but it's less clear whether they'll ever act on those feelings. Or if they should.

Is it any good?

Thank heavens for chemistry; Sudeikis and Brie make this somewhat relatable movie work. Who among us hasn't had an amorphous on-again, off-again crush on the same person that's lasted for years? Brie is so especially charming that we wind up cheering for her even though she is, for lack of a better description, a mess.

What's less realistic is how convoluted the situations that Jake and Lainey find themselves in are. And then there's the gendered one-sidedness of Jake and Lainey's dynamic: He finds himself by continuing to sleep with many women, while her path through means steering clear of most everyone. The ending is as you'd expect, but it's still fun to see the movie arrive at its destination, if only because we've been rooting for Lainey to find happiness.

Talk to your kids about ...

  • Families can talk about how Sleeping with Other People depicts sex and relationships. What role does love play in the equation? Parents, talk to your teens about your own values on these topics.

  • Do you think Jake and Lainey's issues are realistic? Why do they decide not to sleep with each other? How does that decision underpin their friendship? Do you think it seems sensible? 

  • How does this film compare to other romcoms -- like, say, When Harry Met Sally? Do you think think it follows the standard formula?

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