So B. It

Movie review by
Joyce Slaton, Common Sense Media
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 Parents recommend
Beautiful coming-of-age drama tackles tough topics.
  • PG-13
  • 2017
  • 98 minutes

Parents say

age 9+
Based on 5 reviews

Kids say

age 10+
Based on 1 review

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Positive Messages

Heidi lives with and loves two people with emotional and mental disabilities. Her acceptance of them just as they are -- even when their limitations impact her life negatively -- sends strong positive messages of tolerance, dignity, and caring. Family isn't just who you're related to by blood; it's the people who love and support you.

Positive Role Models & Representations

Twelve-year-old Heidi has had to become very independent and strong, taking care of tasks and going on journeys that even much older people would be afraid of. She's courageous, clear-minded, powerful, and loving, as well as respected and appreciated by those around her. Her guardian, Bernadette, who suffers from agoraphobia, is loving, caring, and supportive. Includes realistic, appreciative portraits of people who are intellectually disabled. 


There's a tragic death (not a child), which could upset young/sensitive viewers. The fact that Heidi goes on a long journey by herself could also alarm some kids.

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What parents need to know

Parents need to know that So B. It is a touching coming-of-age drama about a 12-year-old girl named Heidi (Talitha Bateman) who's growing up in isolation because she lives with her intellectually disabled mother and a family friend who has agoraphobia and can't leave the house. These characters' limitations are treated with respect, and they're loved and given dignity and understanding, with their needs considered. Heidi goes on a long journey alone, essentially running away in the middle of the night, but she's never in any real danger and meets people who treat her with kindness. A tragic death late in the movie may upset young or sensitive viewers; Heidi's plight may also be disturbing to some viewers. But tweens and teens will relate to the character and may be inspired by her strength, perseverance, and courage. The movie is based on the same-named novel by Sarah Weeks.

User Reviews

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  • Kids say
Parent Written byMark R. April 18, 2020
Adult Written bygia123 April 7, 2019


So b.It is an amazing family movie. Every kid should watch it.
Teen, 14 years old Written byTalithaBatemanFan May 8, 2019

I approve! Must watch!

Great movie about diversity and family, finding who you are, and coming of age. The Book is great, and Talitha Bateman is actually the greatest child actor in t... Continue reading

What's the story?

Twelve years ago, Heidi (Talitha Bateman) and her intellectually disabled mother, who's known only as SO B. IT (Jessica Collins), arrived on the doorstep of Bernadette (Alfre Woodard). Heidi was a baby, and So B. It can speak only 23 understandable words, so Bernie never knew where they came from or why they were alone in the world. But she knew that Heidi and her mom needed help, so she cared for both of them, home-schooling Heidi as best she could, since Bernadette's crippling agoraphobia prevents her from leaving the house. When a sudden discovery throws their world out of balance, Heidi wonders just who she is and where she came from. So she sets out on a journey of self-discovery that brings her far from the people and places she knows. 

Is it any good?

Sad, beautiful, and unique, this sympathetic coming-of-age tale based on Sarah Weeks' novel about a determined young girl with a mysterious past will resonate with adults, tweens, and teens. It's not that Heidi is unhappy, exactly, even though she seems to know only one child her own age, and even though her mom, while loving, needs Heidi to care for her rather than the other way around. But, like most 12-year-olds, Heidi is starting to question the staus quo. Why are things the way they are? Where's the rest of her family? Who took care of her mom before they landed in Bernadette's lap? Since Bernadette has no answers, Heidi digs into the mystery on her own -- and what she finds is neither pleasant nor simple. 

What's ultimately uplifting about a story that could be really depressing is So B. It's focus not just on the terrible things that can happen to people but also on how the love and support of other people -- blood relations or not -- can make these realities bearable. Heidi's past is tragic, her present complicated. But she is loved, and she is accepted. And So B. It's ultimate sweet message is that sometimes that's enough. 

Talk to your kids about ...

  • Families can talk about how So B. It handles tough topics like disability, isolation, and even death. Are kids ready to deal with these issues? How can media help families address them?

  • How does Heidi show courage and perseverance when searching for the truth about her past? Why are these important character strengths?

  • The movie's characters frequently understand and accept the limitations of the people around them. What value does that have to those who are accepted? What about to the person who accepts others' imperfections?

  • Do you empathize with Heidi? Is it realistic that a person would be so driven to find out about their past? Do Heidi's actions ultimately improve her life? 

  • If you've seen the book the movie is based on, how does it compare? What's the same? What was changed?

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