So My Grandma's a Lesbian!

Movie review by
JK Sooja, Common Sense Media
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Sweet but shallow queer romcom has mature themes.
  • NR
  • 2021
  • 95 minutes

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Positive Messages

Positive themes of being true to who you are. Live freely and don't care about what other people think. True love is special. Don't marry for status or other superficial reasons. You can choose family as much as be born to one.

Positive Role Models

While the adult grandchildren of the two grandmothers in question are way too concerned with their own well-being, Celia and Sofia are strong women who wish to show the world their lifelong love for one another. They are loving, considerate, and have strong relationships with their kids.

Violence

A woman spikes a man's drink with peyote and eagerly gets him to drink it. The man then hallucinates and has a bad trip.

Sex

Romantic kissing, some cuddling. A couple in pajamas cuddle and kiss in bed. A woman takes a man's shirt off while kissing. Some vague discussion about adult relationships and marriage.

Language

"Goddamn."

Consumerism
Drinking, Drugs & Smoking

Adults drink alcohol, beer. A woman drugs a man's drink with peyote. The man then trips and hallucinates mildly scary things.

What parents need to know

Parents need to know that So My Grandma's a Lesbian! is a romantic comedy from Spain about two grandmothers who wish to come out to their families. Celia and Sofia both have adult grandchildren who haven't exactly found their way yet, and they each feel that they have legitimate reasons for why their grandmothers should both stay quiet about their love. One of them is about to marry into a very wealthy and conservative family that "voted for Trump," and the other doesn't like spending time with other people, period. Strong themes of being true to yourself, "living fearlessly," and marrying for love. Some general discussion about marital life, adult relationships, and love. A few scenes where adult couples romantically kiss. A woman takes off a man's shirt. Two adults in pajamas cuddle and kiss on a bed. A woman drugs a man's drink with peyote. He has a mildly violent trip and hallucinates a little. Language includes one or two instances of "goddamn."

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What's the story?

In SO MY GRANDMA'S A LESBIAN! two adult grandkids try to stop their grandmothers from marrying one another. Celia (Rosa Maria Sarda) and Sofia (Veronica Forque) are lifelong friends and have finally found themselves eager to come out to their family, friends, and religious communities. But Eva (Ingrid Garcia Jonsson), the granddaughter of Sofia, is about to marry into a very conservative and "Trump voting" family with lots of money. And Eva doesn't want her grandmother's newly public love for another woman to ruin any potential wealthy future. Meanwhile, Celia's grandson, Jorge (David Verdaguer), wishes to prevent the embarrassment and hardship that he assumes will befall his grandmother if she publicly marries Sofia. Will the kids succeed in stopping a wedding? Will they change their minds?  

Is it any good?

Enjoyable and strong performances by Sarda and Forque make the love between Celia and Sofia believable, but they have little to work with. The adult grandchildren, Eva and Jorge, oddly, take up most of the attention, screen time, and focus in So My Grandma's a Lesbian! and so much so that the straight romantic relationship between them far overshadows the love between their grandmothers. The central plot clearly becomes about whether or not they'll end up together. Not exactly a centrally queer story, here, then. Too much of the movie worries about this straight love between Eva and Jorge, how their small town will take the "gay news" of Celia and Sofia, and defending the existence of queer love, like during the moments where characters declare that their love "is the same as straight love." 

Further, the adult grandchildren have depth, quirks, idiosyncrasies, and flaws, as do other straight characters. But Celia and Sofia remain weirdly flat. Both are sweet, nice, loving, and clearly good people. But outside of Celia being a little more eccentric and eager to out their love than Sofia, not much separates the two characters. Further, in any more serious film that shares context would certainly have to engage with in some way the kinds of actual danger that many queer people face when coming out. Which is just to say that this movie very casually plays with the "consequences" of coming out, when in most real-world cases, coming out can be very dangerous and/or have incredibly dangerous outcomes. Nevertheless, the acting is committed and believable, the tone is happy and playful, and the intention is good and positive.  

Talk to your kids about ...

  • Families can talk about queer representation in movies. How does So My Grandma's a Lesbian! portray the love between Celia and Sofia? Is it any different to how the film portrays the love between their grandchildren, Eva and Jorge? Why might this matter?

  • Do you think the kids were right to have concerns about their grandmothers' wedding? Why or why not? 

  • Why do you think Jorge doesn't like people? What does his job suggest about how he feels about himself? 

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