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Parents' Guide to

Soul Food

By Barbara Shulgasser-Parker, Common Sense Media Reviewer

age 16+

'90s family drama has language and sex.

Movie R 1997 115 minutes
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What you will—and won't—find in this movie.

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Based on 1 parent review

redazaleas
redazaleas Adult
July 9, 2020
age 18+

all about enabling awful family members

This could've been a good movie, besides one subplot. Spoilers ahead: One of the sisters' husband cheats on her with a cousin. At the end of the movie, this cheater and the cheatassist are invited to the big family dinner. The victim is expected to just suck it up and tolerate their presence. She should've gotten a divorce and refused to have dinner with those two. A family that betrays people isn't a real family.
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What's the Story?

Though only around 12, Ahmad (Brandon Hammond) narrates SOUL FOOD, a story that follows the dissolution of his close-knit family after his beloved grandmother, Big Mama Joe (Irma P. Hall), falls ill. The cement that holds her three daughters and their families all together, Big Mama doles out wisdom and soul-food Sunday dinners that give Ahmad his grounding and maturity and his determination to preserve the closeness Big Mama worked so hard to create. His parents, Maxine (Vivica A. Fox) and Kenny (Jeffrey D. Sams), are close, even after a new baby arrives, and Bird (Nia Long) has just married an ex-con named Lem (Mekhi Phifer). They struggle but work to stay together. The oldest, Teri (Vanessa Williams), is a well-to-do lawyer, married to Miles (Michael Beach), who would rather perform his music than work at his law practice. Teri's anger at everyone drives the family apart, especially when diabetes brings Big Mama down. Should they sell the house? Who will pay Mama's bills? Who will take care of Uncle Pete? How will they keep traditional Sunday dinners going without Big Mama to advise and support them with her truth-telling and kindness? The grownups flounder while Ahmad plots to honor his grandmother's wishes.

Is It Any Good?

Our review:
Parents say: (1 ):
Kids say: Not yet rated

Part of the considerable charm of this film is the fact that it's narrated by a precocious child, Ahmad, but its inconsistencies also stem from that decision. He narrates a story that describes every event, even ones hidden from him by grownups who know he wouldn't understand. So, how is he describing what he has no way of knowing? It's a small point but it also poses the problem of who Soul Food is for. Sexual content and language make it a bit too much for kids who are the narrator's age, around 12, yet 12-year-olds would certainly appreciate the reverence for the warmth, security, and loyalty that family represents and that the movie promotes.

Also, some may question the way women here nod sagely as they cater to supposed male vanity and frailty. According to the movie, wives need to refrain from helping husbands when they're down and out, lest such assistance rob the men of their dignity. Younger audiences may not appreciate some of these dated ideas but most will identify with the love and craziness that comes with being part of a family.

Talk to Your Kids About ...

  • Families can talk about how the family deals with racism built into the social system. Lem complains he can't get a job, not because he's a convicted felon but because "crackers who got everything don't give you a second chance," and his wife tells him that while racism is real, he's using it to excuse himself. What do you think of the value of each of those arguments?

  • Soul Food depicts the ups and downs of a black family. In what ways does the movie show that all families are alike?

  • What other movies about families have you seen? How does this one compare?

  • What family traditions make your family unique?

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